How do you really feel about your future mother-in-law?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How do you feel about your future mother-in-law?
    I like and respect her. I think we will get along great! : (187 votes)
    57 %
    Some reservations, but I think we will manage to get along. : (82 votes)
    25 %
    It bothers me somewhat that I'll have to deal with her for years to come. : (42 votes)
    13 %
    I hate that woman! : (16 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    245 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We definitely get along. We do have very different views though but that includes her son. She knows we are strongminded people and we are adults so she doesn’t push too hard. My FI and I have been together for over 8 years so I know how she operates. I have learned how to have a positive relationship with the people that come into my life because they are closely attached to my loved ones. I love her, we don’t see eye to eye with everything but that has never caused an issue because we are mutually respectful. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    I LOVE her. She’s kinder to me than my own mother is, and I was ecstatic when she became my mother-in-law.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7258 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’ve never spoken to or met her. I know she’s still good friends with DH’s ex-FI, which I think is strange.

    Post # 6
    Member
    8903 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    One word: LOVE!!!!

    Post # 7
    Member
    736 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I love her more than my blood family. I wish she was my mother growing up.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    9892 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Carolsays:  Fh and I have been together for 9 years so FMIL and I have had a lot of time to get to know each other.  For the most part, we get a long just fine.  There are some things she does that drive me crazy – mostly having to do with the way she spoils my FH’s neice and nephew, but thankfully FH and I have had honest converstations about our parents and have agreed on boundaries that will apply when it comes to our children when the time comes.

    Post # 9
    Member
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We got along wonderfully in the beginning but I’m having a hard time liking her – she’s said some very hurtful things about race/ethnicity and has made mean comments about my family. I try to like her and do my very best to keep my mouth shut and my oppinions to myself. 

    My FFIL is a completely different story, he is quite possibly the most perfect man/father/husband/and hopefully one day grandfather the world has seen – so they balance each other out…

     

    Post # 10
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    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I love my MIL. She is such a sweet woman…sure there are things she does that might make me go “aaah wtf” but even my own mother can drive me nuts sometimes.  

    Post # 11
    camelMember
    703 posts
    Busy bee

    Sometimes I read about the nightmare MILs on this board and I feel so thankful for my loving and accepting mother-in-law. She’s great and she has a big heart. And even though I married her only son, she never acts like she has to share his attention with me. That kind of behavior from other MILs always blows my mind. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    We haven’t spoken in 3+ years, and FH rarely talks to her. That basically sums up our relationship.

    Post # 13
    Member
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I like her more than my own mother. She is really the loveliest woman, and I am so glad I get to be part of her family!

    Post # 14
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    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @Carolsays:  I really like her! I’ll be honest, most motherly figures bother me. I just can’t handle the “classic” stereotypical mom (i.e. overly concerned), so I don’t like most moms. But I got lucky… she’s definitely the best MIL I could have asked for. What really made me feel lucky was when I realized that her (and his dad!) were completely 100% okay with my anxiety, and completely respected it. The moment I realized that was on a trip in Idaho, we were supposed to go to a concert that I was so excited for, and I ended up getting really bad anxiety and didn’t want to go (it was right down the street), so they said “no problem!” and we opened to windows so we could hear it from there, and got take out pizza. The next day, we were going to a sketchy restaurant (which is a big trigger for my anxiety), and his dad kept reassuring me that they’d been there before, and it was a good, trust-worthy place. Everyone else in my family just gets frustrated with me and says “it’s fine, just eat it”. 

    I’m getting teary-eyed just thinking about it, haha. 

     

     

    Post # 15
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    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I liked her when we first met, the more I saw her the more I loved her! I think we actually have very similar personalities. When we were engaged she was beaming, introducing me as her new daughter to be to everyone! When we were married she was over the moon. Now that I’m pregnant with her first grandchild we are closer than we’ve ever been! I’m blessed to have such a strong and kind mother in law!

    Post # 16
    Member
    266 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I adore her! well, them. FI has a mother and a step-mother and they’re both amazing women! They me like as if i was their own daughter and are just super kind. Sometimes they understand me more than my own mother does. FI has to keep reminding me that i am allowed to call and say hi whenever i want, and that they love hearing from me. I don’t do this with my own family, so its something i’m going to have to get used to! haha

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