Post # 1
Thought it would be interesting to find out what folks really think. You can vote and remain anonymous if you do not want to leave a comment.
It’s not an issue for me, as we are both older, and our parents have passed. But I still think this is an interesting question.
Post # 3
We definitely get along. We do have very different views though but that includes her son. She knows we are strongminded people and we are adults so she doesn’t push too hard. My FI and I have been together for over 8 years so I know how she operates. I have learned how to have a positive relationship with the people that come into my life because they are closely attached to my loved ones. I love her, we don’t see eye to eye with everything but that has never caused an issue because we are mutually respectful.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
I LOVE her. She’s kinder to me than my own mother is, and I was ecstatic when she became my mother-in-law.
Post # 5
I’ve never spoken to or met her. I know she’s still good friends with DH’s ex-FI, which I think is strange.
Post # 7
I love her more than my blood family. I wish she was my mother growing up.
Post # 8
@Carolsays: Fh and I have been together for 9 years so FMIL and I have had a lot of time to get to know each other. For the most part, we get a long just fine. There are some things she does that drive me crazy – mostly having to do with the way she spoils my FH’s neice and nephew, but thankfully FH and I have had honest converstations about our parents and have agreed on boundaries that will apply when it comes to our children when the time comes.
Post # 9
We got along wonderfully in the beginning but I’m having a hard time liking her – she’s said some very hurtful things about race/ethnicity and has made mean comments about my family. I try to like her and do my very best to keep my mouth shut and my oppinions to myself.
My FFIL is a completely different story, he is quite possibly the most perfect man/father/husband/and hopefully one day grandfather the world has seen – so they balance each other out…
Post # 10
I love my MIL. She is such a sweet woman…sure there are things she does that might make me go “aaah wtf” but even my own mother can drive me nuts sometimes.
Post # 11
Sometimes I read about the nightmare MILs on this board and I feel so thankful for my loving and accepting mother-in-law. She’s great and she has a big heart. And even though I married her only son, she never acts like she has to share his attention with me. That kind of behavior from other MILs always blows my mind.
Post # 12
We haven’t spoken in 3+ years, and FH rarely talks to her. That basically sums up our relationship.
Post # 13
I like her more than my own mother. She is really the loveliest woman, and I am so glad I get to be part of her family!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@Carolsays: I really like her! I’ll be honest, most motherly figures bother me. I just can’t handle the “classic” stereotypical mom (i.e. overly concerned), so I don’t like most moms. But I got lucky… she’s definitely the best MIL I could have asked for. What really made me feel lucky was when I realized that her (and his dad!) were completely 100% okay with my anxiety, and completely respected it. The moment I realized that was on a trip in Idaho, we were supposed to go to a concert that I was so excited for, and I ended up getting really bad anxiety and didn’t want to go (it was right down the street), so they said “no problem!” and we opened to windows so we could hear it from there, and got take out pizza. The next day, we were going to a sketchy restaurant (which is a big trigger for my anxiety), and his dad kept reassuring me that they’d been there before, and it was a good, trust-worthy place. Everyone else in my family just gets frustrated with me and says “it’s fine, just eat it”.
I’m getting teary-eyed just thinking about it, haha.
Post # 15
I liked her when we first met, the more I saw her the more I loved her! I think we actually have very similar personalities. When we were engaged she was beaming, introducing me as her new daughter to be to everyone! When we were married she was over the moon. Now that I’m pregnant with her first grandchild we are closer than we’ve ever been! I’m blessed to have such a strong and kind mother in law!
Post # 16
I adore her! well, them. FI has a mother and a step-mother and they’re both amazing women! They me like as if i was their own daughter and are just super kind. Sometimes they understand me more than my own mother does. FI has to keep reminding me that i am allowed to call and say hi whenever i want, and that they love hearing from me. I don’t do this with my own family, so its something i’m going to have to get used to! haha