How do you say "NO KIDS" without saying no kids.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Although some might give you flack for it, I’m with you!  I did not want kids other than our nieces and nephews at our wedding.  We used “Adult Only” in our invitations.  We still had people asking if they could bring their children, which we politely replied, no we’re at capacity 🙂

Post # 5
2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Waitingbee57:  Just put the names of th epeople who are invited on your invites.  You may get people trying to RSVP for their kids still, though.  In that case, you’ll just have to say sorry to them and they’ll have to decide to come childless or change their RSVP to no.

An additional strategy is to have wording on the RSVP card similar to “we have 2 seats reserved in your honor” to really pound home that only the couple, instead of the whole family, is invited.

If you think lots of people will automatically assume their kiddos are invited, you could put “Adult only reception” but it’s not considered very couth.  Depends on whether you care about that!

Post # 8
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

the last wedding we were invited to the reception card said “adult only reception” we have three kids and I wasn’t offended in the least….it was nice not listening to screaming kids all night.


Post # 9
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Waitingbee57:  You can either say “Adult Only Reception” or a lot have my friends have done either “21+ reception” or “18+ reception”

Post # 10
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

I will be putting “Adults Only Reception” on my invitations. I really do not care about how “others” feel about this. It’s our wedding, our decision. The only kids invited will be my two little brothers (ages 9 and 14) , my child (flower girl), FI’s son (ring bearer). These are the only kids allowed and all four are apart of the wedding party anyways. I do like the idea of 21+ or 18+ Reception as well. Anyways I decided to place it on the invitations because I am not doing reception or RSVP cards. Everyone that’s invited are in town and can just send me a email response or tell me face-to-face wheter or not they are coming…which is against all wedding etiquette right? Lol! 

Post # 12
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Make your RSVP cards clear – put # of seats reserved and only put 2 for an adult couple, not 4 or whatever for their kids. Most people should get it… If they change the number or add more names then you’ll have to call and explain sorry, the invite is just for you two. 

Post # 13
1533 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It takes more time but on every RSVP, I am writing


Mr. John White         Regrets    Will attend        Fish     Steak       Vegan

Mrs John White         Regrets     Will Attend       Fish     Steak       Vegan


Invites are non transferable.  This is not a fraternity bash.  If someone writes in extras, they will get called, by either me, fiance, FMIL or Mom (depending on how they got on invite) and be told, very sorry if we were not clear (which BS, we were), invite is for Mr and Mrs. only. 

Post # 14
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’ve been tempted to create a “You Must Be At Least This Tall To Enter This Party” like they have at amusement parks sign.  I don’t think I would, but the thought of it makes me laugh.


Post # 15
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

“Adult Reception to Follow”

Post # 16
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am totally with you!

I only invited a handful of kids to my wedding – my first cousins.

I probably have about 200 second cousins, most of which I’ve never met, and I wasn’t inviting them (even though I invited their parents).

I would just list the names of each individual on the invitations – it’s a pain in the ass, but the only way to ensure uninvited people don’t show up.

IMO, this is a better option than say “adult reception,” because when people show up and the “select” kids are there, they’ll be pissed.

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