Post # 1
So in a nutshell, we were planning in eloping but now we have a guest list of 20 for our small Las Vegas wedding. Post ceremony, I’ve reserved some tables at a reasonably priced restaurant. After dinner, we will have cake, but it’s a casual thing, and we’ve tried to spread the word by mouth that we would love everyone to join us, but aren’t paying for the entire meal (With our clan, the booze bill alone would wipe out our savings).
I’m putting together an info packet for those attending, and would like to mention the dinner. Is there a gracefull way to say “please join us” but make it clear that we’re not paying? I just don’t want any last miute embarrasment or confusion.
Post # 3
I would just say "Please join us for cake and light refreshments" or whatever so it’s clear it’s not an entire meal.
Post # 4
I don’t know how you say it on invites, but I’m sure the word will get around if you tell a particularly talkative guest. Friends are great at doing this.
Post # 5
Ask them to join you at a “no host” dinner following the wedding.
Post # 7
you should talk to the restaurant about having a pre set menu, OR just have everyone pay for themself or have everyone split teh bill… easy… simple.
Post # 8
Socal, that’s how we’re doing it- ordering ala carte, and pay for themselves; I just wasn’t sure how to word it.