Post # 1
Since the holidays are quickly approaching, I’m wondering… how do you and FI/ FH spend the holidays with each of your extended families? This has been an ongoing issue with FI and I, and this is the first holiday season that we are engaged. Share your ideas, please!!!
Post # 3
It’s normally a big mess for us! I have started to completely dread the holidays. We are both really close to our families, so what we have been doing is spending 50% of the day with his family, and then driving an hour to spend the other 50% with mine. It’s a lot of driving for us, but it’s just the only solution we can find! On smaller holidays, sometimes we separate for a while, which isn’t ideal, since we’d rather be together. I would love to hear other people’s solutions to this problem!
Post # 4
Basically, we do all holidays with my family because we are closer (around the corner vs. many hours away from his fam) and we enjoy it more. We’d rather not travel on the big holidays so we can have alone time at our place too. He has a large extended fam so we are not really missed at big holidays. We tend to travel to see his fam on random long weekends. It’s been working for us!
Post # 5
We do both with both! But DHs family usually takes other days other than the actual day!
For example we just had Thanksgiving with DHs family this past Sunday (only 2 weeks early – Canadian Thanksgiving is earlier than the US) Then we will spend the actual holiday with my family.
At Christmas we usually spend Christmas day with my family and boxing day with DHs. Our families only live 2.5 hours apart so it’s not that hard for us!
Post # 6
for Thanksgiving, we go to FI’s family’s house cause his mom literally cooks for 24 hours straight and there is MAD food. For X-mas, we spend the eve and morning of at his parents (again, an abundance of food) then we’ll drive up to NY to see my mom.
New Years is just the two of us; we go out or stay in and snuggle.
Post # 7
we run around like chickens with no heads on holidays! my parents are divorced so for thanksgiving, christmas, and easter we go to my moms side, my dads side, and his families, usually all in one day! its crazy… i cant imagine trying to do it with kids…. maybe we will be better at juggling it all by then 🙂
Post # 8
Well I’m Jewish and FI is Catholic so the only holiday that we have issues with is Thanksgiving. We have three families to coordinate, (FI’s parents are divorced), so it’s been a nightmare on more than one occasion, (especially because certain family members are self-centered asses). But basically we do Thursday with one family and Friday with the other, (FI’s families split their day – one for dinner one for dessert).
Post # 9
As strange as it is, his parents are coming to us for Thanksgiving and we’re all going to my parents. And the six of us will all be together. Our parents get along really well and our place is way to small to have everyone here.
Then for Christmas, we’ll spend the morning alone (yay! our first Christmas, I’m so excited!!!!) and then go over to my parents for dinner. We’ll probably end up going to visit his parents a couple weeks later. My husband works retail and we can’t travel during the holidays.
Post # 10
We live 5 mins from FI’s parents, and 14 hours from mine. We spend Thanksgiving with his family and rotate Christmas!
Post # 11
Our families are actually really close (FI and I have been together since high school and our parents knew each other before we were born!) so we all do Thanksgiving together, he and his parents come to my parent’s house where we have my huge extended family over. For Christmas, we’re with my family on Christmas eve then his family on Christmas day, usually. Our families live in the same town, so we always go to them rather than them come to us. It’s pretty easy for us, thank God!
Post # 12
Normally both for thanksgiving and separate for christmas eve dinner and both for christmas day. We haven’t decided how we will do the major holidays once we get married since we will be living out of state from out families.
Post # 13
Let’s see…for thanksgiving we go to my parents. For Christmas we go to my parents for brunch, my Aunt’s for appetizers (she lives 3 minutes from my parents) and then to his parents for dinner. Then we get home and pass out lol. Easter we spend with his parents. I can’t even imagine when we have kids haha
Post # 14
We spend most of our holidays with his family and visit my family the days following. My parents typically visit other relatives for the holiday so they’re totally okay with that.
Post # 15
We’ve previously gone our seperate ways during meals but try to see eachother’s families at some point in the day.
This year we are going to do both. Our families live close and it really bothers mine when FH doesn’t come. My brothers love hanging out with him so they get kinds bummed lol.
Post # 16
I hate the holidays only for this reason. We have to drive ALL DAY on Christmas! Both our parents are divorced. So, last year we cut down our driving a little and just went from our house to my dad’s (1 1/2hr away) then to my aunt and uncle’s (mom’s side and 5 minutes away from our house) then to FFIL’s (10 minutes away from our house) and on x-mas eve we went to FH’s aunt and uncle’s (FMIL’s side). The year before we went from our house to my dad’s to my aunt’s to FH’s aunt’s (45 minutes away) to FFIL’s. When FH and I have kids, my family can come to us! lol
Oh, and on Thanksgiving, it is usually a food extravaganza for 4 days! FH’s aunt and uncle’s on Turkey day, my mom’s on friday or saturday and somewheres else one of the other days. Easter we usually go to brunch with FMIL’s side and then to my aunt and uncle’s for dinner.