Post # 1
I was talking to my SO the other day, and we set a fairly loose timeline (approx. 3 years) for moving somewhere warm. You’ve probably seen me complain about the Canadian winters lol.
I am super excited and have started doing a bunch of research, daydreaming, list writing etc. but I realize 3 years (just to get the moving process started.. there’s employment and immigration stuff that may take a lot longer) is a looong time. I still have a lot of living to do. I wish we could move tomorrow, but that ain’t gonna happen! It’s also not a guaranteed thing.
Any advice? On one hand I want to use this to motivate me to get in great shape, tie up all loose ends, enjoy my last few years here etc… but on the other hand it’s so far away that I am feeling kinda hopeless. I kinda want to put it out of my mind but still keep my eye on the prize if that makes sense. We plan on eloping in the next year or so, so it’s not like I have a big wedding to plan/look forward to either. I am pretty impatient… like I felt my years in university took an ETERNITY.
Anyone do anything similar? Anyone looking forward to something realllly far away?
Post # 3
I am literally one of the least patient people I know. If I want something, I want it NOW- not in the spoiled ‘veruca salt’ kind of way, just because if there’s something exciting or new on the horizon, I get obsessed with it. This is NOT good for long term plans or things that I have no control over. So, I find interim obsessions to take my mind off it. This is probably why I have so many projects or hobbies ongoing!
If I was in your shoes I would research the hell out of moving, immigration, places you want to move to. Maybe even let youself get obsessed with it, and then youll get bored of it! That works for me 😉 Unfortunately I’ve never been lucky enough to choose where I want to live- my industry dictates that! So I am jealous that you have the opportunity to move to an area of your choice!
Breaking down long term goals into smaller chunks may help you when it actually comes to the move itself (chosen your town, know your employment opportunities etc).
Post # 4
@Corgi-cariad: Yeah, I have tried breaking it down and I have been researching the hell out of everything, but it seems to only fuel my obsession lol. Maybe once I’ve done more research I will get bored?! Lol I hope so. I think you’re right, I need to find something else to obsess over. My poor SO is already sick of hearing me talk about it!!
We’re hoping to be able to pick our exact location, but I’m not counting on it. Will largely depend on at least my SO’s job. We both really want this, though, so we will make sacrifices where we can.
Post # 6
Oh yeah, we have a plan to relocate to Scotland eventually, but its something that may not happen for 5,10,or even 20+ years. So what do I do now?Obsess over it totally and utterly! I have a folder full of perfect locations and cottages that are ideal. At the same time, we have both agreed that if we move their and buy a home,it would be our forever home, so if we are going to do it, we may as well make sure everything is perfect. Your timeline is more “realistic” though, as us moving is more of a dream ideal.
Sigh,fantasizing, research and obsessing is all I can do right now, but it is something we are both REALLY passionate about so Im hoping thats how we stay motivated to it!
Post # 7
@family_girl: Ooh that sounds nice!! I hope you can get there sooner than 20 years from now!! At least I’m not the only one who is obsessed lol. *sigh*
Post # 8
@canarydiamond: I lived in Alaska for 6 years. I met my FI there, who was from Colorado, like me. I got tired of AK, the cold and LONG AND DARK winters, not seeing my family, etc. My FI (boyfriend at the time) didn’t care one way or the other if we moved. He had a good job in AK but our goals were to be nurses. We started taking all the prereqs togwther but it got to a point where it was gonna be 2 years wait to get into the nursing school in AK (there is only one).
We were living together in my (now our) apartment at the time and had been dating for a year and a half. I told him I wanted to move. Neither of us wanted to give up the relationship and he had wanted to move back to Colorado anyways. I nailed down a date, gave our notice to the landlord, had a garage sale to sell things we didn’t want to take, and we moved in August of 2009. We lived with my parents for about a year (his parents are 20 min away but have a smaller house), then we bought our own place. We started nursing school in July 2010 and graduated with our bachelor’s degrees in March 2012. We are now both employed as nurses. We got engaged in January of this year and are getting married in November.
Long story short….go for the life you want to live. It’s worth it, even if you DO have to wait. But if you are waiting for the PERFECT time, there will never be one. You just have to jump in with both feet. 🙂
ETA: Of course, NOW we want to move to Hawaii!!!!
Post # 9
@Stargaze31: Aw, that’s nice to hear. Lol re: moving to Hawaii.
Totally agree w. just going for it. I got my SO down from 7-10 years to 3 years. I made him see the benefits of moving sooner 🙂 He is good at sticking to plans, luckily. We’ll be making a concerte plan in the next few months and we can stick with it.
Since we’re moving countries it’s a bit more complicated, but I am feeling optimistic that we can make it happen.
Post # 10
DH and I where just talking about this sort of thing today at dinner. We want to buy a house in a year or two. Then TTC after being in the house for a while, etc. Lately I have been feeling really stuck in a rut. The job I work at is very low paying but very good benefits. So I picked up a second job three nights a week as well. I’m currently looking for a better paying job and I’m haveing trouble staying motivated. DH helped me break it down by setting a goal for each week. This really helps me put life into persepective.