How do you stick to your guest list without offending everyone?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

camiyu86:  Many couples have used the same parameters as your FI suggested.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

camiyu86:  We only gave plus one’s to people who didnt know anyone else (other than people in relationships). No one complained. Then again, most of our single guests were my husbands guy friends who knew 20 other people there. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

camiyu86:  

Your fiance is right. Wedding etiquette dictates that a couple is under no obligation to invite casual partners to their wedding. Spouses and other long term partners are to be invited. 

You simply cannot invite everyone, especially if you are having an intimate wedding. 

While 80-90 guests is not a large wedding, I don’t think that you would have an intimate feel nearly 100 people at your wedding. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

camiyu86:  We’re doing that too. Someone is going to be offended by something silly at every event, including your wedding. Why not know in advance what’s going to offend them? 

Logically, you have to draw the line somewhere. I think that where you’ve chosen to put it is very logical and makes a lot of sense, and is a very common cutoff. 

 

My MOH (of all people), who is not in a serious relationship, not looking for a relationship, and will know at least 50% of the people at our wedding, was actually upset for 30 seconds when (after she asked) I said that unless the invitee has had a serious relationship for a while, no plus ones. Why? She wanted one of our mutual friends to be a plus one. The same friend is getting her own invite……I have no idea what the logic was, but as far as I know she got over it. 

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