- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 1991
I’m posting on here anonymously b/c this is a very delicate topic.
Fiance and I are friends with another couple getting married very soon. They met online through a locals website and got engaged within about 6 months of dating. They’ve also bought a house together. Here’s the thing: he used to be a SERIOUS player, so we were all quite surprised when he mentioned engagement so soon. She is quite the opposite: very reserved, uptight, and privaleged. The thing is, NEITHER of them are happy right now. Every time we talk to the groom, he’s completely overwhelmed by her needs and the wedding and doesn’t know what to do. Every time I talk to her, she has a new thing to complain about and admitted that she’s not even looking forward to the wedding. I mean literally, these people are so morose and worn out with each other and it’s written all over their faces. Fiance and I agree this should be the happiest time of their lives (and indeed, we are in the exact same position as them and are very happy). We’re both just worred that they agreed to something too soon, and now don’t know how to admit to the other that they made a mistake.
Fiance has asked some of the grooms friends if they think the same thing, and they all agree that they think he’s having second thoughts but is too afraid to back out now. Fiance has asked that I talk to the bride, but we aren’t close like that. When Fiance stated talking about how he was concerned for his friend, I reminded him that we don’t know what they are like when they are alone, etc. and I was very much against him bringing it up to the groom, but after hearing the bride say she’s not excited about the wedding either, now I”m concerned. Any advice?