How do you stop feeling bad!?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You should feel very blessed to have so many close friends! For those you can’t include in the actual wedding party I would just make sure to let them know how you still value their opinions when it comes to making decisions. Take them dress shopping with you, or create a Pinterest board they can all contribute ideas to. Let them know how happy you are to get to share your special day with them in some way. 

Post # 4
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1146 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I had the same guilt feelings as you – I have two sisters, a close female cousin, my husband has two sisters, an older neice, and two best friends from high school, so 8 total! I ended up asking my younger sister, my cousin, and my younger SIL to stand up with me.

Could you have the others be in charge of the guest book, gift table, etc.? While it may not seem as “important or special,” it’s still a way to incorporate them on your big day.

Post # 5
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1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@laurel946:  What on earth is a personal attendant?  And honestly I think you made the right call by only including sisters and a friend since birth.  No hurt feelings if the college/high school friends don’t feel like they were personally excluded!

Post # 6
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3381 posts
Sugar bee

@laurel946:  When my highschool bff who I love to death didn’t ask me to be in her wedding I felt a tiny sting. Yeah I would have liked to. But she only had one bridesmaid and it was her cousin and I understand that she’s family. It didn’t ruin our relationship or anything. Real friends understand.

Post # 7
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123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

By keeping it to family and a friend you’ve known from birth you’re being really fair. There are plenty of ways to involve them in your day and the events in the lead up to the day.

Post # 8
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3669 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Hurt feelings are probably unavoidable, but you’re picking the three people you’ve known the longest. Hopefully your other friends will understand. I think it would be worse if you picked someone from among your high school and college friends just to make the numbers even, because then it would be all, “Why her and not me?”

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