Post # 1
For reasons I won’t try to get into or justify why they’re being invited….we will have 1-2 cousins that we worry MAY give us a problem with wedding gift theft. I’ve been doing some reading and people say you should have a designated person keep an eye out on the card table. We’re hoping we don’t have too many cards as it’s only a 55 person wedding but I’m sure some will pop up.
I HATE the idea of a card box because it kind of rubs me the wrong way, I won’t say it’s tacky…but…whatever. But I also hate people just putting cards down on a table and walking away. I’ve been to weddings where 25+ cards were just out in the open. Granted, this isn’t something most brides should HAVE to worry about.
The immediate family will be too busy during the wedding to keep an eye out and I hate to bog someone down with even having to worry about it – I hate to give jobs to people.
Post # 3
@mousepeach: commenting to follow.
Post # 4
I think the simplest solution is to have a card box. Better to have something that rubs you the wrong way than to have your gifts stolen. Also ask someone you trust to keep an eye on the cousins.
Post # 5
Thanks! But….even card boxes aren’t theft proof. I understand I can only control so much but even to have someone keep an eye on the box. I guess I’ll just have to be blunt with whoever I ask and say I’m worried about some of my family members pulling shady business.
Post # 6
@mousepeach: I don’t think you need to mention that you’re worried about your family stealing. It’s pretty common knowledge that you have to keep an eye on the gift table because there are guests, possibly guests from other events, vendors, staff… all milling in & out. Just tell someone you’re worried about theft period. You could even say you read reviews of the venue that said people had problems with it.
Post # 7
Depending on your theme, you could have a birdcage? Also think about the positioning of it (ie. not the dark corner at the back)
Post # 8
@Nic01: +1 I was actually going to suggest this too. You could put a lock on it and guests could just drop their cards through the bars. The only way to get cards out without the key would be to shake the cage and if you put it somewere in plain sight everybody is going to see that. You should still ask someone to keep an eye out. Don’t be afraid to tell them about your cousins and describe them to the person so they know who to watch out for.
Post # 9
We hired (well, they were sort of wedding guests but we gave them $50 each) a couple of 18 year old girls to sell drink tickets, make punch, and watch the guest table. Went really well. But I do suggest a card box.
Post # 10
If you do the birdcage–you could attach a cable lock like this to it and to the table itself:
The cable will secure the birdcage to the table so that no one can walk off with the whole thing. Plus, if you do it right, it can be attached discreetly to the back of the cage.
Post # 11
I have hired security. Theyll sit by the table the whole night
Post # 12
I’m having a “wedding hostess.” It’s my brother’s girlfriend, and she is so so sweet. She has been very helpful througout the wedding process. She will stand at the entrance and greet guests, help them sign the guestbook, and help them place the gifts/cards. She will also be getting a flower to wear, her name in the program, and a thank you present! Plus, it’s a way for her to be involved too. I don’t know if “wedding hostess” is the correct name, but she seemed super excited about it!
Post # 13
I’m so sorry you have to worry about this! The coordinator that I’ve hired will be keeping an eye on the gift table. Are you having your reception at a hotel? Maybe you can have someone pick up the gifts and bring them up to your room during dinner? Or once the dancing starts? I like the idea another bee had of using a cable lock similar to a laptop lock – that could be a good way to secure the card box…
Best of luck!
Post # 14
I would either find a way to secure things to the table or hire someone. Even if you ask a friend or relative who wont mind, imagine how bad they will feel if something does go missing. I would not want to do that to a friend or family member.
But a good thing to remember is that a skilled thief (or set of thieves) are pros and can find away to steal something if they really want to.
Post # 15
@mousepeach: The weddings I’ve been to have put the gift table near the head table, so it’s in full view of everyone the entire reception.
I can’t do this with the layout of my venue, but I’m putting having my gift table behind my cake table, and I’ll have the nearest groomsman keep an eye on the cake and the gifts.
Post # 16
Guests are guests and I would not ask this of them.