Post # 1
Last night was our first major trip to check out the men’s attire for the ceremony next year. We knew going in that we wanted to have tan tuxs, chocolate brown shoes, and ties, not bowties. We also wanted to go the vest route since the guys will be taking off their jackets after the ceremony (in order to keep their look a little more formal)
Going in to this, the only way that I was going to differentiate the guys is that the groom would have a different looking boutenniere than the rest and that they would all wear different ties in our color palette.
The consultant at the store tells that the groom should wear a vest, and not for the groomsman, or that his should be a different color from theirs. Wait, what? I have never heard of this.
Also, she said that the father of the bride and the father of the groom typically wear the same tux as the rest of the guys for a cohesive look. I was just going to have our dad’s wear their own suits.
Apparantly I need to do some serious research on the guy’s attire. Any thoughts on this? Do all of the men have to match? How did you/will you separate your groom from the pack?
Post # 3
What? god. I think she was making too much of a big deal. No way, would I tell my dad he needs to buy a new suit to match the groomsmen. My groom is wearing a different tie and boutinerre than the groomsmen. They will all be in navy suits. Thats it.
Post # 4
Our groomsmen/groom/fathers all wore the same tuxedo style, but the groomsmen and fathers had black vests and the groom wore a silver vest (silver was one of our accent colors). Also, the groomsmen and fathers had white rose boutonnieres, but the groom had a boutonniere of stephanotis (one of the accent flowers in my bouquet of white roses). I thought it looked really nice without the men being too different, you know?
IMO, having everyone wear a vest is totally fine, and we did it for the same reason you mentioned-so they wouldn’t have to wear the jackets all night. Don’t let the consultant at the store talk you out of what you want.
Post # 5
I don’t think it all really matters to tell you the truth! I’m finding less and less people are going by etiquette and tradition these days. FI is having suits made for all his GM in Hong Kong. He’s having a vest made for himself but not for the guys, mainly because of cost, not to differentiate himself. His boutenniere will be different from the other guys. The dads are wearing whatever suits they have, it really doesn’t matter to me. I mean, if our guests don’t know which guy the groom is I think we have much larger problems on our hands!!!
Post # 6
My fiance didn’t want to look exactly like his groomsmen because he should stand out since it’s his day too! We opted to get him a white vest and white tie while the groomsmen are wearing our color.
Post # 7
FI picked a tux that is a little more dressed up than the groomsmen but it is till very similar. He is also wearing an ivory vest while the groomsmen will wear purple ones. You don’t have to follow any rules! Do whatever you like and whatever YOU think looks good!
Post # 8
My groom is going to look pretty much like the rest of the groomsmen–different tuxes, but nothing that’s noticeable. They’re all wearing black bow ties and no vests or cummerbunds. I would imagine FI will be wearing a different bout, but that’s about it. I’m not concerned about people not knowing who the groom is–everyone at the wedding will know (since they’ll see us at the ceremony!), and that’s what’s important!
Post # 9
@bakerella: That’s what i was thinking. She told me that the groom needed to stand out from the rest in a significant way and I was just thinking, “who on earth will be at our wedding who doesn’t already know who the groom is?”
yeah maybe it’s just me, but I would feel so weird asking both of our fathers to rent a tux when they have perfectly nice suits in their closet that would look great!
I’m still a little torn on the vest color. I don’t want him to blend in with the other guys, but have two different vests colors wasn’t exactly what i was “picturing”. Anyone have some good inspiration pics for the tan tuxes or suits look? I had a major FAIL trying to find some good ones.
Post # 10
I think my FI will be wearing a different color vest and a different boutonniere from the groomsmen.
Post # 11
Everyone in our wedding party (dad’s too) wore the same style and colors. The differences were hubs had a white tie/vest instead of the colors on the guys and he had a bigger/different corsage.
Post # 12
I think that you should just pick what you want everyone to wear and don’t worry about tradition. I’m pretty sure everyone in attendance will be able to distinguish the groom from the groomsmen. If they can’t, perhaps they shouldn’t be invited to the wedding? haha.
Post # 13
The only difference between our groomsmen and groom is that the groomsmen are wearing yellow and blue striped ties and my groom is wearing a green and blue striped tie. Other than that they are all wearing white shirts and black suits!
Post # 14
My FI, chose a certain tux style for himself and another for the groomsmen. Mostly because the one he got for himself is lighter than the cheaper ones we went with for the groomsmen. The GM’s will wear green vests and ties to match my BM’s, my FI will have a white vest and tie, and our dad’s are wearing black vests and ties. We did not force our fathers to get a tux for the wedding, they wanted to.
@Boston Bee lol I agree, if you can’t tell who the groom is, then maybe you shouldn’t be invited. I have some of my family that won’t meet my FI until the wedding, but I’m sure they will be able to pick him out when he is standing at the end of the aisle.