Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
So my SO and I are going on a small couples trip (cruise) soon and we were talking with one of the others that are going with us about what we plan on doing. All of us have very different interests for when we travel so are most likely splitting up for the excursions during the day (some are beach bums and some are more into doing adventurous type things while others like seeing historical and cultural things), which is fine. However, there was some surprise when I said that FI and I may split off some of the days because he wants to spend some time on the beach whereas I want to do and see as much as possible (we are comfortable not spending every waking moment together – I have travelled a lot on my own and met many people that way).
So now I am curious … When you travel somewhere with your FI do you do every activity together or do you do your own thing and then meet up later or do you do some things together and some things separately?
Post # 3
It depends on the length of time, really.
My FI and I are in a LDR, so we only see each other on weekends and holidays; thus we never travel together long enough really for the novelty to wear off of seeing each other. We’re usually attached at the hip during that time.
However, we did study abroad together over a summer, and after a week or so we found that spending every waking second together was NOT going to work, lol. When our school group would take day trips we would separate to give ourselves a breather and then regroup afterwards.
Post # 4
We do almost everything together. A lot of our trips were based on golf, and I would occassionally go golfing with him, but he likes to go first thing in the morning and I like to sleep in. Now he’ll go golfing on his own, and I will sleep in and wander around by myself for a while. We will meet for lunch and spend the rest of the day together 🙂
Post # 5
We do everything together on holiday, because we like to do the same things. We both like sightseeing and visiting historical and cultural places, as opposed to lazing by the pool or on the beach.
Post # 6
@laceydoilies: We have only been on trips alone together— never been on a group vaca, so I think that would be different.
When we go on trips we do everything together, unless it’s like running to grab coffees or something among those lines.
I can totally imagine that if we were on a cruise with friends, I may end up doing one activity while he goes to another. But if it were just the two of us, we would not.
Post # 7
Dh and I split to do different activities. There are just some things that he enjoys that I do not and vise versa. Example. Every year, over the fourth of July, we go to our cabin. The third and the fourth the lake is just packed with ski boats and jet skis making the water very choppy. I don’t like to go on the water when it’s like that as I don’t swim. So he goes out skiing and tubing while I head to the local bar to play poker with a few local old guys. I have a great time as does he, it’s a win win.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
The VAST majority of the time, we’re doing things together. Occasionally, I’ll run out and do things that require riding a bike like going to pick up dinner or groceries (he can’t ride a bike), but generally, we do things together mostly because we end up in places where I’m the only one who knows the area because he hasn’t traveled much.
Post # 9
We do everything together. I wouldn’t want to be separated when on vacation, especially in another country.
Post # 10
My husband doesn’t want to spend any time alone when travelling, so if it’s just the two of us, we do everything together, but may split off if we are with friends.
Post # 11
Most things are together. Sometimes we go for a run separately while on vacation (I’m just not that fast!), or if I know someone in the area, I may meet up with them individually, but then join H with friend for dinner. I guess it’s not the same across the board. There’s other trips where he’s right next to me 24/7!
Post # 12
My selection was ‘other’ explain.
SO and I have been on vacation many times mostly with family, sometimes by ourselves, and we have not had the luxury to go on trips with friends (his schedule won’t allow it).
ANYWAY-We go with the flow. For the most part, we do things together, but sometimes with his family or with my family, the opportunity presents us to either break off in boy/girl groups to do gender preferred activities or breaking up off into groups for eating out/hanging out at a preferred place. Sometimes we just want to do different things, and we do.
One thing we are NOT are huge planners when we are on vacation. We just take every moment as it comes and decide what’s happening as it happens. No big deal lol.
Post # 13
We sort of do some things seperately. Like if we go to the beach he might go for a walk or swim while I read. Or he’ll take a nap while I loung in the pool. But we do most things together, especially things that require going someplace. Like I wouldn’t visit a museum or something while he went somewhere else. If we were on a longer vacation, or one where we didn’t have to drive to do things (like a cruise) we’d do more stuff seperately.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
We have similar interests and are both adventurous. I can’t think of something one would want to do and the other wouldn’t while on vacation.
Post # 15
We don’t do flights, but we drive together okay.
Post # 16
@laceydoilies: We would spend every minute of every day together if we could, so vacations are great! We spend all of our time together, but we also tend to want to do the same stuff. I’m sure if our interests or activity levels varied, we would split up.