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I try and rationalize the crap out of myself. I start researching prices of kids and most of the time logic eventually wins out. OH, and I avoid baby sections in stores. :)
I feel your pain. Be strong. ;)
Oh I know, I keep trying to tell myself exactly why we're not having kids now lol and how we wouldn't be able to keep saving for a down payment if we had a kid to pay for... but my older sister just got pregnant with her first baby, and the first of all of us to have a baby (my parents are ecstatic to be g'parents lol!!), and being so involved with her is making it even harder!!!
I'm having a hard time with it!! My FI and I are living together, and we're both working so everything is pretty much set. We're just waiting for the wedding and honeymoon really. I find it especially hard when many of our friends are announcing that they're expecting!!
Just keep reminding yourself why it is important to wait a while and avoid the baby sections they are TOO tempting =) Though if you go to Walmart and hang out for a while you will see all of the bratty little kids screaming and running around like little heathens and it's like a dose of birth control =)
Ah yes. And I avoid people who have them.......sad but true. I even avoid their facebook pictures so I don't get all mushy gushy about it. I know we aren't ready yet. Correction: He isn't. And we aren't ready financially. haha.
But yeah. I made a cost spreadsheet during one of my worse "baby fever epidemics" about how much all the stuff costs....and then I died a little. ;) So it helped.
Good luck! Just enjoy being an aunt for a little while! Oh, and go read a frustrated mom's status every once in a while. Here's one from my friend, K:
Up feeding Ryder then back to bed! It was at 3:22 am.
@Cyndistar3, it doesn't work on me anymore lol! I've been a nanny for 5 years, and I always said I wouldn't have kids til I wasn't a nanny anymore, until my husband got a job in his education field, and once we had full health insurance benefits... within three weeks all of that happened! He got an amazing job as a professor, we have full benefits and my time with my nanny job ended.... it's so weird how it all just happened to happen all at once!!
Babysit a 2 year old, try to think about how expensive it would be to have one, or you read this thread. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/on-what-your-big-girl-areas-are-like-after-a-baby
It will definitely keep that baby fever down.
@miss-spunkin: Well enjoy the body you have now for as long as you can, you may not be one of those lucky ones that go back to size 0 after they have a baby I went from a size 8 or 9 to a size 16 and I have saggy boobs and stretch marks! ;)
I must be too far gone... I've known all the bodily stuff (I actually WATCHED my little sister be born - it was a bloody, but beautiful mess!!), been a nanny forever, calculated etc... but nothing works anymore!! lol.
I am trying all my old tricks, excuses to finish school, we want a house first, we want to pay off more debt etc etc etc...
(sighs)
go to some restaurants where kids are. once you hear them screaming, crying, and being bratty you'll realize maybe it's a good thing you don't have any of them yet.
@miss-spunkin: wow... you are far gone, usually that would make a person not want a baby ever! LOL But yes it is a beautiful thing =) I went through almost 50 hours of labor all naturally and I will gladly do it again, though I hope its not as long!
@yrret107: OMG! I'm reading it, and I think I'm in shock. They should really talk about that stuff in Sex Ed! It might have an effect.
I haven't yet experienced baby fever, so I can't really help you. But, I have been really wanting to adopt a cat, lately... to the point that my FI said I was talking about it in my sleep! ^_^;
It's hard, but I just try not to think about it. If I think about it, I am somehow able to rationalize that it would be okay to get a cat-- despite all the logical reasons (time, money, roommates) I should not.
Good Luck!
We just try to focus on all the things we want to do (mostly vacations) that a baby would put a major damper on. And think about how nice it is to have money...
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I am having the hardest time the last month waiting for a baby... my husband and I have only been married since last May and I'm only 21!! I still have a little over 2 years of school left before I get my BS, and I didn't want to be one of those college-dropouts because I had a baby.
And I know if I had a baby now I wouldn't be able to work, go to school and take care of my baby...
How do you ladies who really want a baby keep waiting?!
I'm going crazy!!