(Closed) How do your in-laws celebrate your birthday?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Bichon Frise:  I doubt my FILs will even acknowledge it. Well, maybe a card or a phone call, maybe… we’ll see in 2 months 🙂 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Dinner, card, and gift.  My SIL (their other daughter-in-law) has a birthday within a few days of mine, so it’s usually celebrated together.  Sorry your ILs aren’t more celebratory!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

They usually send a card and maybe a check. It’s annoying because FH’s birthday is the month after mine, so they usually mail us both cards at the same time. Thus my card is always way late. Like I’m an afterthought. Once they send flowers, but again, they were late and came with FH’s name on them.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

For my birthday this year, we were actually at a family wedding, so they bought me a present, which was nice (and told everyone there it was my birthday, haha…)

ETA: I wouldn’t expect them to take me out to dinner, although they might, b/c we would probably be doing things with friends or just each othe that night. But actually, I think they might have taken us out to dinner earlier in the week. (argh, I have a terrible memory!)

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We went to their house a few weeks before my birthday for dinner (we weren’t really there for my birthday, it just happened to be the closest time to my birthday that we were over there). My MIL put up the birthday banner like she does for everyone’s, and she gave me a reed diffuser, which still has the $5 clearance sticker on it. She does that with all her gifts so we know what good of a deal she got. I’ve learned the best response is to expect nothing and be pleasantly surprised if they do anything.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My FIL this year came in our door singing happy birthday & gave me my gift. haha Usually they just give me my gift though.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

FMIL texts me day-of and usually sends me a small gift certificate and a card.  Same thing she does for FI.  She also signs the card “Mom.”

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My birthday this year was 2 days after the wedding, so we were on our honeymoon.  But when we got back MIL had sent me a cute birthday-girl wine glass as a gift.  That was pretty much it, but honestly she was the only person who really acknowledged by bday at ALL this year so I really appreciated it.  Next year I bet they send a gift, but they are always scared of intruding on us, so we have to initiate any get togethers.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

They send a card and a present and call. Its nice and thoughtful, but nothing over the top (I live across the country)

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I get a card and money. lol We really don;t make a big to do around here unless it’s a child’s birthday.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My FI’s family and my FIL are actually wayyy more thoughtful on this than my mom.  They send me a card and small gift or gift card (we live in different states)…my mom almost never sends FI anything (again we live in another state).

I’m very certain if we lived in the same city as my mom or FIL we would celebrate with a dinner!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

His mom & stepdad mostly just tell DH to tell me Happy Birthday.  They don’t have a lot of spare money or thoghtfulness even if they did have the $$ ;].  His dad & stepmom though gave me a little gift & card, as well as havning us over for dinner & cooking my favorite meal [SMIL makes the best twice baked potato!!].  My parents met us for dinner one night with a card & a golf certificate for DH’s birthday.  He’s easy ;] haha.  Overall though, neither side does anything super fancy & we’re ok with/used to that [disregard my sarcasm & bitterness about MIL in the first sentence haha].

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I only see my ILs 1-2 times a year, but when we all see each other they give us a belated gift (like months belated).  They may also call on my birthday.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I got a text from my SIL saying happy bday lol, that was all

His parents don’t even call him on HIS birthday, so I certainly don’t expect them to call me.

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