How does a biracial couple do a Chinese Tea Ceremony?

posted 3 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am super interested in the responses.  I’m white and my fiance is 1/2 Chinese.  I asked if he wanted to do a tea ceremony and his answer was a resounding NO (he’s lived in the US since he was 2-years-old).  Tons of luck planning!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i think you should include both parents in all traditons.  it is a way of honoring them and bringing the 2 families together.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would serve to any parents/grandparents on your groom’s side that would be included if he were chinese. Even if they don’t fully understand everything going on I’m sure they would love to be included in the tradition. I also think your non-chinese bridesmaids would be thrilled to help.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am interested in the responses too. I am Indian and FI is half Chinese, half Canadian. I haven’t thought of incorporating any type of traditions from either side yet.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@alai678:  My friend is Vietnamese and her husband is Jamacian.  They did the tea ceremony at their wedding.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@alai678:  Yes, with both sets of parents, and her aunts wanted to also be a part of the ceremony.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We did it at our rehearsal dinner.  We did both sets of parents and all of our aunts and uncles.  My bridesmaids didn’t help to serve.  It was really meaningful to me, because I was able to wear my mother’s cheongsam.  My MIL also gave me a beautiful opal pendant that belonged to her mother.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@alai678:  I hope they aren’t upset! FWIW my DH is of a different culture and his family was thrilled that I wanted to include traditional elements into our ceremony and reception, even though we modified some slightly to better suit our families. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@alai678:  That’s really cool.  I am a bit bummed my fiance doesn’t want to celebrate his culture more.  Please post pictures!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My family is Viet/Chinese mix and I have 3 older sisters who are married. This is what they did:

  • Oldest: She had the traditional “Dam Hoi”/Engagement Party/Tea Ceremony at our house before the day of the wedding. If I remember right, the groom’s parents and family looked on, but did not participate.
  • Sister #2: She also had the “Dam Hoi”/Engagement Party/Tea Ceremony, but they spoke to his family first about it. This time, his parents/aunts and uncles also were included in the Ceremony.
  • Sister #3: She incorporated the Tea Ceremony into her actual wedding ceremony. I can’t remember if it was before or after they said “I do”, but we brought up 2 chairs to the front, and my sister and her husband served tea then.

As for me….I haven’t decided yet, but I will definitely be having a Tea Ceremony. After all, it’s tradition!

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