How does a wedding work without a bridal party/bridesmaids?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

jolieqe:  As I said in your other post, by BIL and his wife had no wedding party:

The bride just walked down the aisle with her father.

The marriage certificate was signed by two of the parents.

Photos were just the bride and groom, plus some photos with family members and some others with friends. (The most important photo(s) is usually just bride and groom anyway).

The speeches at the reception were by the father of the bride, and the groom.

I’ve no idea if the bride had a bachelorette party (I live in a different city so couldn’t have attended), but maybe she just went out with friends.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

I will be walking down the aisle with just my dad.

Our photos will be just of the two of us, which is excellent because it will give us more time.

At the reception it will be just the two of us at our table, which is becoming more common now anyway.

Getting ready, I will have my mum there to help if I need it, and the celebrant has even offered to give a hand if needed.

Marriage cert will be signed by our brothers (it can be anyone).

I really don’t think I am missing out by not having BMs, and I think I actually have made life a lot easier by just doing it myself.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My closest friends were scattered over Europe and Australia when we got married in the UK. It just seemed like so much hassle to try to get them to choose dresses etc so I emailed them and said that, while I always intended for them to be my BMs that it wasn’t practical and I would love them to just come and enjoy the day with no hassle or responsibility. My sister was my MOH and my niece a flower girl. I didn’t have a hen night or a shower, my sister helped a lot with organising stuff because we only arrived in the country the week before.

On the day my sis and SIL signed the register and we took photos of our family and groups of friends. I don’t really get what 4/5 BMs have to do anyway aside from pose for a picture. You can totally do it with 1/2 or even 0.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

 

jolieqe: Mine will work almost the same as LonnyLee:.

I’ll walk down the aisle with my Mom.

My sister and mother will be there to assist me when getting ready. My wedding planner will also be there and my designer who is also my Makeup Artist already told me that she prefers dressing her brides. So there’ll already be a lot of people around.

Our son will be the ring bearer and we decided on having a RB only becuase we wanted our son to play an important role in his parents’ wedding. (It’s a no kids wedding and he will be the only child there).

My mother and his older brother (his parents are both deceased) will sign as witnesses.

We’ll have many photos of only us and a few with very select family members.

I’m the happiest bridesmaidless bride ever!!

My groom is also the happiest groomsmenless groom ever!!  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

Keke84:  My son is also the only child at our wedding He is not a ring-bearer as such, but will sit in the front row and bring the rings up when needed.

 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are not having a wedding party either. We explained to our friends that we wanted to avoid hassle for the big day and for everyone to come enjoy the wedding and if they want to come help the day of they are more than welcome to and nobody has seemed hurt by it. As for the bridal shower, my boss is throwing me one at her house and then I have a few friend’s who are planning a bachlorette party for me and the same for my FI. I thought it would be weird to have no wedding party but I have seen it more and more the past year or so.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

We’re not having a wedding party. My girlfriends are still there for me, talking about wedding stuff and they threw me a hens party. My mum is helping with decorations. I have invited my girlfriends to come over while I get ready, just have some lunch and bubbly, some are having their hair done by my hairdresser/makeup artist. All pretty much the same as having bridesmaids but without them having to wear specific dresses or have any ‘duty’ to me, I think they prefer this way! We’ll stand up in the ceremony just me and him (I think that is more special anyway) and our siblings will be witnesses.

If you choose not to have bms, you don’t have to miss out on things like a bachelorette night if that’s what you want, I’m sure your friends would love to throw you one!  

Post # 10
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Helper bee

LaPetiote:  This is exactly how ours is working. My sister is my MOH, his best friend is his Best Man, and that’s it. I emailed my friends too and told them the same thing – I would have loved to have them stand up but everyone is so scattered and I feel like it would just be a hassle for everyone. They were really appreciative – we’re in our 30s and everyone is pretty much over being a bridesmaid by now. 🙂 I also asked if they might be willing to help with a few VERY small things, and they’re happy to.

Reading everything here about bridesmaids drama I think it was a great decision! 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

jolieqe:  Well, I feel like even if you don’t have a bridal party you can still have a bridal shower and a bachelorette party. Just because they aren’t bridesmaids, I’m sure your friends would still be excited to throw a shower for you. As for portraits, I’m sure you can still have bridal portraits, have family shots, have shots with friends gathered, etc. Instead of a long processional with bridesmaids and groomsmen, it’ll just be the bride and her father, etc. 

I have eight bridesmaids and one officiant who is one of my best friends and honestly, in the six months since I got engaged, I haven’t really needed any help from my bridesmaids. My wedding was pretty much planned from before I got engaged. And again, even if they weren’t my bridesmaids, if I needed help at some point down the road, I’m sure they’d love to help. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

The Answer:

REALLY WELL

Everything is the same except you just don’t have people standing next to you and you don’t have people in matching dresses pose in pictures with you.  Less hassle and stress.  Nobody pissed about having “duties” and no expectations.

I walked down the aisle by myself.  My husband had his brother act as a best man.  Which really meant that he sat on the aisle seat of the front row and handed us the rings when it was time. 

My aunt threw my bridal shower and my friends hosted a bachelorette dinner party.  It all worked out.  Except for girls and guys standing, in matching attire there was zero difference between our wedding and a wedding with a bridal party.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

jolieqe:  We didn’t have a wedding party and it made things so much easier!

For getting ready, I had told a handful of friends where I’d be getting ready (on site).  My mom and sister hung out with me most of the time, and my friends, aunts, MIL, and SIL kind of rotated through.  It was great.

For photos, I had given our photographer a list of a few groupings I wanted – best friends from HS, college friends, me and my sister, cousins, etc – and made sure the friends/family knew they were to be included.

For the actual ceremony, we wanted to honor our siblings but didn’t want to have an official wedding party standing up.  So the order was: officiant, groom + parents, BIL & SIL (walked down the aisle and then sat in the front), my sister and BIL (same), ring bearer, flower girls, me + parents.  I handed my bouquet off to my sister when I got to the front, and we had the officiant hold our rings in his pocket.  We asked a couple good friends to sign the marriage certificate.  (Which we forgot about until the next day, ha!)

At the reception we had a sweetheart table and bounced around chatting.  We asked my dad and my husband’s brother to make toasts, and then opened it up to anyone else who wanted to… so a few friends did as well.

Anyway, all in all it was GREAT and I’d do it again that way in a heartbeat.  Just make sure you explain to anyone who might be offended that you are just skipping the wedding party for logistical reasons (or whatever).

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I’m just having flowergirls and ring bearers. I will walk up the aisle with my father, my 2 nieces will be flowergirls so will walk up in front of us.

Our mothers are signing the marraige licence. My nephew is being ring bearer. We’re having a small wedding so there will be group shots and indivdual pics. We’re not doing any speeches anyway, i might get up and thank ppl. We want an as relaxed day as possible!

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I walked down the aisle by my self. My brother escorted my mom down the aisle and my husbands paretns walked down together. The rest (my sister, his sisters, and brother) just sat down in the first row of seats.  I asked my best friend if she could be in charge of the bachlorette party after she hinted towards it. My mom and sister threw my shower.  It was simple!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

We’re having a very minimal wedding ceremony and celebration, so we didn’t really have much role for a bridal party. We think it will be fine. It’s a challenge coordinating so many people anway.

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