Post # 1
My fiance wants to have an afterparty after our reception, but I am really hesitant about the idea. A lot of our guests are traveling a great distance to see our wedding and he wants them to be able to have a good time. I totally understand that, but I don’t know if I can handle an after-party after a reception. I have a feeling I’ll be tired an passed out halfway through. He mentioned that the party might go all night if everyone is having a good time. This nearly gave me a heart attack. At that point, he just said the party is not required and we can end it whenever we want. But I feel like this afterparty thing isn’t something we can compromise on. either things go my way or his. I feel bad because I know if I tell him I don’t want it, he won’t push it and we just wont have it. He won’t have the party if it makes me unhappy. However, the wedding is about him too, not just about what I want. But if we have it, I will likely pass out a couple hours into the party until morning. NOT how I want to spend my first night married.
I’m just wondering how everyone else out there feels about afterparties? Are you going to or did you have one? How did you keep your energy level up?
PS. My friend went bar hopping after her wedding because her husband wanted to party with his friends, and she got home late at night, exhausted, and passed out in front of the tv, and sick during her entire honeymoon. It’s been a few years, and she’s still upset about this.
Post # 4
my wedding ended at midnight and honestly, I was tempted to stay out longer than that!
Post # 5
Well, there can be an afterparty for your friends from out of town, but nothing says the newlyweds have to be there! I’ve been to afterparties that were arranged by bridal party for the younger guests who wanted to keep partying, but the bride and groom were long gone.
Post # 6
My regular reception ended at 1am so aftr party didn’t make sense but I think I could see moving the party to another venue if it had wrapped up early.
Post # 7
I was too tired to attend my own.
Post # 8
Honestly, I want to maximize our wedding weekend – even if we’re exhausted. We will have plenty of time rest on the honeymoon and spend time with each other. There’s no way I wouldn’t have an afterparty.
Post # 9
My opinion on the after party is that I don’t want to commit to anything. I’m sure some people will be going out afterwards, so maybe just pick a place where everyone can go and if you all feel like going that night you can, if not, they’ll have fun anyway?
Post # 10
Our situation is a little different because weve chosen a destination wedding but i think its a good idea to maybe pull a late reception or even have an after party… there is a good chance you will be tired and even if your not theres a VERY good chance you will want to leave the party to spend the rest of the evening with your new husband. for this reason i suggest to think about having a later than usual reception by an hour or 2 rather than trying to host a completely seperate party for the party animals
Post # 11
we had an afterparty at the hotel. It was SUPER fun! The boys went out during the day and bought beer and booze, and we ordered a bunch of pizza for everyone. It was really nice to chill out with everyone before bed! Our reception ended at 12 and the afterparty ended at 2…and we still had plenty of alone time since we were so amped up!
Post # 12
We had an after party, and I really enjoyed having the extra time with far-flung friends and family (most of our guests were OOT). I was running on adrenaline all day and night, so never felt tired!
Post # 13
Personally, I don’t want to stay out all night after my wedding and don’t blame you for not wanting to either. Usually after weddings a group of friends will go bar hopping, especially since people came in from out of town, but the bride and groom aren’t usually present. They make their grand exit and are out! I’ve only been to one wedding where the bride and groom met up with everyone and while I thought it was cool of them to do, it’s just not for me. We are leaving for our honeymoon the next day and an after party hasn’t come up. We figure our friends who want to drink together after the wedding will, no need to plan another party I say. I’d rather have a good time at the hotel with my new husband 🙂
Post # 14
My first choice wedding venue just e-mailed me the guidlines for events and for wedding receptions it says that evening receptions are from 6-10 which seems way too early for me. I am a huge night owl and so are most of my friends so I would totally be down for an after party but it would probably end up being more low-key like a trip to the bar because we live in northern San Diego county and all the good nightclubs are down south.
Post # 15
We didn’t have one and I was glad because we were absolutely exhausted after the wedding.
Post # 16
We went out with our friends after the reception, but after about 2 hours we left to have some alone time and they carried on the party themselves 🙂