How does it feel when you just get engaged?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@oval30:  it was very…surreal. I was so happy and so nervous, but I also felt kind of just, weird. It definitely took a few days to really sink in. As much as I couldn’t wait to get engaged and I was so happy when it happened- when it actually does happen, you hit this point where you realize, “holy s**t, this means we’re actually getting MARRIED!” I’ve never felt anything like it 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

When I got engaged I was like, “HOLY SHIT! I’m engaged!” and then I was thinking, “OMG, this is forever. Is this what I want?” I still think about the forever aspect of it. It’s a bit scary but it’s the reality of the relationship we are seeking to solidify— a marriage is supposed to be forever.

I think it’s perfectly fine to have a freak out moment or two or three. Frankly it’s a bit nerve-wracking thinking about being with the same person forever. Yikes.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Surreal is a good word for it.

I think it was like:

YAY I get to plan a wedding!

….uhhhh….I have to plan a wedding?!?!

I was thrilled that we were finally engaged, but then I did have the “holy crap this is real, we’re getting married, it’s forever!” moment, which felt weird to me because it’s what I’ve wanted for awhile now.

Oddly enough, FI, the one who “wasn’t ready” for so long, seems to be handling it better than I am.

“We’re getting MARRIED! Isn’t that crazy?!”

“No.” …….haha, thanks…..

 

Just for reference, we’ve only been engaged for 2 weeks, so it’s still all very new to me!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It was exciting and happy and awesome. But, after I definitely had a moment or two of oh shit, this is forever, am I sure this is the right thing to do?!  I also felt a bit disappointed knowing that a moment you look forward to your whole life finally happened and you don’t get to look forward to that moment anymore! 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Super happy and excited, mixed with, “Holy crap we’re going to have to plan a wedding!”

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I just got engaged on Sunday (not even a week ago!), and it’s definitely a rush. You start to shake and you can’t believe it’s actually happening. Then you get a little scared. I mean, it’s very overwhelming – I am glad I waited until I was 30. I don’t know how brides to be in their 20s do it.

While I am very happy to be engaged, a part of me is annoyed by all the criticisms and unsolicited advice I’ve already received. Here’s a tip: When planning a wedding, keep as many details to yourself as possible or between you and your event coordinator/wedding planner. It’s YOUR wedding. You don’t want to keep second guessing yourself b/c someone offered their unsolicited advice regarding what you should do and when and how and why and where… and so on. 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, it’s surreal. And surprising and very very emotional. When he drops on one knee, it’s like time both stops and speeds up at the same time. Every time I would look at my ring all the rush of emotions would come back. You can’t even focus on planning for awhile.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Nothing is ever like it is in the movies..or on TV.. lol

I was excited when we got engaged, but it wasn’t this huge surprise (like tv/movies typically present it). We talked about it (as responsible adults do) and I knew it was going to happen.

I was just happy to have my engagement ring finally and to start planning to marry my love. Life went back to normal 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Definitely excited!  And totally overwhelmed.  With forever, with wedding planning….but it was in a good way I think.  It wasn’t like the movies. Real life rarely is. 😉

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I felt very happy, emotional, safe and calm. I had been “waiting” for almost a year when he finally proposed and I was totally shocked when he did. It was an amazing feeling! The first few weeks of being engaged it was like nothing could touch me, the worst day at work would still be amazing because I was on cloud 9.

I haven’t had any freak out or “forever” type moments though.. yet.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

The second time I got engaged was bliss. I mean it was a really emotional terrific day. I felt so close to him. I felt love and acceptance on a whole new level. It was awesome!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i just kept thinking “holy crap! i’m gonna be somebody’s wife!” 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

It’s weird because you spend so much time in a serious relationship thinking that eventually you will get engaged and married and you’re predicting the moment.  And when it happened to me, I just sat back and thought “Well…that just happened”.  It was a combination of shock and excitement.  Personally, I didn’t have any of the “OMG this is forever.  Am I ready for this?” thoughts because I think I got those out of my system when we bought a house earlier in the year.  And then when I changed my status on FB, all of my ads immediately turned into wedding ads and I think that’s when it truly hit me that it was really happening.

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