Post # 1
I’ve been engaged for a little over a week now. I know it’s not long at all, but we already set a date. Since it won’t be until June 2013, my Fiance doesn’t see any importance in trying to figure anything out. Within the first few days we made a few plans. Rent a large cabin near a river. We live in a gorgeous area with plenty of rivers and cabins/campgrounds. I even had a spot in mind.
Now, that seemed to have been going fine until I was at work the other night. I was trying to finish up my paperwork when he texts me about how he wants to go back into the Marine Corps. He got ou in July’10 and I had always expected that he would want to go back. This is not the first time he told me he wanted to, but he’s making legitimate efforts to get in shape now. He even told me he was serious “for realsies.”
No, now the plan has changed to courthouse wedding and then a real wedding after he’s back in, hopefully on the date we have already set. He’s looking at being back in the Corps in October. So, we have about 8 months from then to start planning the wedding.
I am a planner. I love to plan and make ideas. My Fiance finds it slightly strange that I already want to (boy thing I assume). So, Bees, what would you do? Would you wait until big move to start getting things in order? Or would you start making certain plans ahead of time? I am just lost on what to do.
Thank you ANY help, ladies!!
Post # 3
@cadybug: Fiance felt the same way when we first became engaged. He told me we had a little less than two years and didn’t understand why I was already planning. It’s a guy thing that they’ll never understand.
I booked our venue way in advance to make sure it was all mine. Your year out will be in June so you can totally get away with booking as soon as you find the place. You can also begin to think about your theme, colors, etc. It took me a lot longer than I thought to get all my thoughts and ideas organized.
You can also just gather ideas just using Pinterest. PM me your e-mail address if you need an invite. I’d be happy to send.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If you want to get married on a Saturday, book your venue now. We were engaged a month ago, and our top venues were completely booked for Saturdays this year. So we’re doing a Friday date instead.
Post # 5
I think the venue is what has me nervous. We’re looking at being back in San Diego. A June wedding in San Diego!?!?! Eeek! PMing you 🙂
Post # 6
Congrats on the engagement! You’re not planning too soon, venues we first looked at were booked over 14 or 15 months out! However, if your’e planning to do a big move, it may be eaiser to wait unless you know where you’ll be. As long as you do the legal earlier (it sounds like you plan to go to the courthouse before he’s back in), the 2nd one *should* be easier to plan a little, and you won’t have quite the pressure.
Post # 7
We’ll be doing the courthouse probably around June this year. That’s when he’s going back to a recruiter to do paperwork. We just know it’s simpler before the paper is done.
I just don’t want to feel like I’m crazy when I try to start making some plans and ideas when we officially have no idea where we’re going to be having it anymore. He’s ruining the wedding by giving us a better life!! The nerve!!! Kidding 🙂
@rebwana: We want to do a Saturday. Makes not knowing even worse.