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Well when I first got with my SO um he didn't like what he saw done below. I wasn't all natural that just isn't me. I trimmed though so it was neat and no other guy had ever had a problem with it. Well with SO he has a hair phobia he thinks it's totally gross on a girl. Needless to say when he saw down below he totally freaked and refused to do anything. I ended up starting to shave because of it. I had always thought any guy who wanted a girl to shave there was a total perv but I guess I was wrong. Anyway I now like shaving there I feel more clean and it makes me a lot more sensitive down there. How does your SO like you and what do you perfer?
I'll keep myself as a I please, and I don't really think that is anyone else's business or that anyone else should dictate how that is.
Ha, I actually asked my hubs this randomly one day. His response was that it didn't matter too much to him and that it really was up to me. He only preferred that it wasn't extremely bushy. Apparently, some bush is OK.
In college I used to shave it almost all off and the guy I was dating didn't like it. He said it was too much like pre-pubecent which I guess I can understand so he had to see hair.
I actually prefer the happy medium. Clean but still some hair. Unfortunately, since I have not seen the Mrs. in months, I usually just use my clippers to make it look decent.
Hah! He was smart enough not to say anything if he didn't like what he saw! He prefers less hair than I do (I'm in the it looks too young if there's no hair camp) but he also knows that it's my choice.
Mine doesn't seem to care as long as I keep it neat and tidy. But whether it is bare or some hair - doesn't seem to matter to him. I can tell he's not a fan when it's all grown out to the point that I need another wax though - but he knows he has to deal since it has to get to a certain length first.
For the looks, mine doesn't mind some hair as long as it's neat; but for the feelings, he prefers it bare - during intercourse, but mainly because hair in the mouth is not a good feeling, sorry TMI.
Good for him, because I've been shaving/waxing for years now; and knowing that this is how we both prefer it, we paid to have the hair permanently removed with laser through our common finances. It feels cleaner (not that it's not clean if it's not bare, but I feel cleaner still), I never have to worry about having hair out of my bathing suit...
I really, really do not think that having hair would make me feel more like an adult.. I have boobs and a husband!!
I shave it all-- maybe TMI-- but really we're all girls here :)
I hate when people say it's like a little girl- first of all, that's SICK! to even think about it like that- and 2, I feel much clear and neat that way.
Also, Especially now that it's summer I hate when you see those girls at the beach or those chicks by the pool that obviously don't shave or didn't remember to that day when they knew they were going to put on a swimsuit-- eew! We're all not looking at eachother crotchs obviously- but it's seriously obvious for some gals that they should take the time to clean it up a little bit.
My FI is nice about it and not (too) pushy but he's made it very clear that he prefers ...uh bare floors to carpeting. I like it trimmed and neatly manicured, but not bare (it's just too painful/expensive/difficult to maintain). He suggested laser treatments, but the thought of hair permanently gone is too weird for me. Once in a while I'll shave or wax as a treat. He's already all happy cause I said I'd do a Brazilian before the wedding as a trial run and one for the honeymoon. Sometimes I wish his preference was less extreme, but then I have a friend whose husband prefers as much hair as possible down there and I don't think I'd like that any better.
Thanks LilMisPris!!
At least I'm not alone thinking that the little girl argument is ridiculous!
I have been shaving since I was in high school. I can't stand hair down there! My FI likes me shaved too, but doesn't get too worked up if I have been too busy to keep up on it as much as i would like
I dont think shaving is like a little girl or that it means a guy is a perv it gives them a chance to see and guys like that. Okkkk we are all women here :) Mine doesn't like mine completely shaved all the time he likes a little hair but then again as long as its not all grown out he gets excited
@jadeblue--lol @preferring "bare floors to carpeting". My FI is the same way. He likes it all gone. It used to feel weird for me to have it that way, but now I like it so much more also! So much neater and cleaner.
I used to shave it all but haven't really had the motivation lately. Once I have money again, I will start getting bikini waxes to clean it up. I'm not sure I want to be completely hairless forever though so I wouldn't be keen on laser hair removal.
No preference. I'd be pretty irritated if a guy tried to dictate to me how I approached that. Do you get to decide how he does his?
I don't really like the bare look... I just prefer a tidy monthly wax and trim. But it's something I am VERY subconscious about because when we first started sleeping together he admitted that all his previous girlfriends had everything taken off. And even though he's told me that he loves me just the way I am, and I believe him, I can't get over the fact and don't like him to look at me naked because of it!
@Ribbons: Yes! Well, he doesn't dictate me, and I don't dictate him; but we talk about these things together and take into account the other's preferences, of course!
I prefer it completely gone and love a brazillian but due to horrible ingrowns I can't keep that up. I keep it trimmed really low and neat. He has no preference that he's stated anyway. I had an ex who had a young daughter and the all bare skeeved him out for the reasons others have stated.
My hubby doesn't really care as long as it's trimmed somewhat. He's happy pretty much no matter what. I don't really ask though, because I do what I like. I've had the bare look in the past, but felt silly. I think a good trim is perfect for me. :)
Mine would love it completely bare, but I have sensitive skin, and that's just asking for it. He gets what he gets, which is how I like it; clean and trimmed.
Yup, trimmed short, clean bikini line, esp in the summer.
Otherwise, way to much mainenance! He'd love it bare, but it's just too much, and my skin is pretty sensitive too!
I'm a full monty waxing gal - take is all off 
I do leave a two finger wide landing strip in the front.
Wow! My skin gets irritated even shaving the bikini line. I shaved it all once and REALLY regretted it. I don't know how you girls do it! I have to get a wax if I go that route.
My FI likes a landing strip!
I didn't know this for the longest time as I went bare - but one day when we were showering together and I was shaving he asked me to leave some! So ever since I have had a landing strip!
I don't mind either way as long as it is trimmed and clean - it gets itchy if it gets too long and bushy!
He has no preference, but he likes a low fade for the oral sex factor. I recently got a bikini wax for the first time. He didn't behave any different...would say I wasted $30, but the sex did feel different.lol
Might go brazilian, not sure yet though. The landing strip area seemed to be the most painful area.
I've been clean shaving "down there" since I was about 13, just as a personal preference. He likes it, but honestly I just hate the feeling of hair down there.
When we met I was trimmed but fairly natural. I knew he liked it all gone so one weekend when he was out of town I got my first brazilian. We both prefer it that way now. I have basically maintained it since then except for a year when we lived overseas and couldn't afford it! Occasionally he says he'd be interested to see how long it can grow if left to its own devices, but ewwwwwww :) He keeps himself neat and tidy too, what's good for the goose is good for the gander after all!
i get brazillians with a landing strip (completly bald is kinda weird, like a 12 year old girl!) however, ive ended up bald a couple times because i forgot to tell them to leave a little somethin. FI really doesnt have much of an opinion as long as its kept neat and tidy, but prefers when i get waxed
Hm. I think it is good to be clean and well-maintained. That being most important, I promote natural things. It is good to have some natural protection. I personally find it sad if women are pressured to go hair free.
I have been a "shave it all girl" since early high school - I just like it better, it feels more clean to me. If I am not up on the maintenance I feel like I lose sensation during sex, so I keep it clean. I will probably invest in lasering it all off one day.
FH asked about my preference and I like him fully shaved as well - so he does that for me (even though the first time he did it he thought it looked "weird")
I just got my first brazilian, and I'm never, ever going back to shaving (which is what I did before)
edit: my husband doesn't care either way, he just hates rough stubble. Although even he admitted that waxed is incredible!
My bf says he doesn't care, but, let's be real, he is much more attentive to my nethers when they're brand-hair-free.
I started shaving after, in high school, the first boy who ever saw my lady-bits said, "You should get rid of that." Ew, he was a jerk. I had a few uber-painful and uber-expensive brazilians in college, and since then I've used a combo of shaving and tweezing. I know, tweezing, ridic, but on long nights when there's nothing else to do...it's kind of astonishing how easy it is (and it's free).
But, I'm considering a return to the brazilian. I think the problem with my earlier brazilians was the person doing it. She was kind of harsh, and made me really uncomfy (she noticed I was really sweaty, so she said I should take off my tshirt so it wouldn't get ruined...cut to me, wearing only a bra, a-spraddle on the table)...and then she attacked my eyebrows and upper lip with nether-wax, leaving me with hideous and painful face burns.
Why does bare=clean? I don't like the semantics of that and what it suggests by default.
We both prefer each other to be bare. I feel cleaner and more sensitive. But SO never commented either way before, we just happened to have the discussion after we had both been shaving. I've definitely been considering Brazilian.
Im a landing strip kind of girl...but sometimes...especially in the winter I get a little lazy. Teddy doesnt really care either way ...but when he starts calling me "little amazon" I guess its time to shave (true story...and TMI..sorry)
I don't really do much down there. FI doesn't like to give or recieve oral sex so the hair isn't really a problem. I do keep it trimmed most of the time. I used to get brazillians, but they are too expensive! Maybe when we have more money they can come out of joint funds. I never shave down there because I have really sensitive skin and get horrible ingrowns or itchiness. FI has never really expressed an opinion, last time I got a brazillian he didn't even notice!
completely shave. he hates hair. i hate to shave completely because is a hassle but is what he likes.
i am completly bare. lol. i HATE hair down there, i feel gross if i dont shave down there- like everyday.yes i shave everyday down there. i just think it looks and feels so much better
So I have already commented that I'm a short trim kinda girl, but I do want to mention (putting on my "teacher" hat) That there is hair down there for a reason - it is the same as nose hair. It acts as a filter and a barrier to things entering when they shouldn't.
I'm not telling anyone to change what they are doing, just letting you know that it does have a purpose!
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