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    superstar    April 2009   Bay Area

    I'm thinking of sending multiple batches so I can invite my targeted number of guests... Was thinking of sending first set in Nov/Dec(for a mid-april wedding). 

    Then the next set in Jan and then last in Feb/March?

    Is this crazy? or too early?

     
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    I sent all of them two months early. I would say that November is way too early. Six months? That's when most people send their save the dates. Are you going to have different RSVP dates too? Because I'm exactly a month out and while you would think that people would have made up their minds (my rsvp day is today), I still have about 50 people (out of 250 invited) that haven't returned their rsvp or are still deciding what's going on with their plans. I know a lot of people have "B" lists so I'll let them speak to that.

     
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    LeahB    September 27, 2008   Live in Lancaster, PA. Wedding in White Plains, NY

    Wow, Nov/Dec is really early for an April wedding!! I could see maybe mid-January at the earliest. Could you just do two batches instead of three? That way, you could start in January and people won't get confused. I think if I got an invitation 4-5 months ahead of time, it would be VERY obvious there was an A and a B list, or in your case, A, B, and C. Although, on the other hand, at least they'll know they're on the A list! Haha. But people might not return RSVP's right away thinking they have tons of time and then they forget about it.

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    I sent mine out 2 1/2 months early and that was pretty much perfect. I wouldn't do any earlier than that because people will forget about it since it's so far away. My RSVP date is due today, and I'm still waiting for about 15 RSVPs and I sent out 70 invites. I think people will wait till it's close regardless of when you send them out.

     
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    superstar    April 2009   Bay Area

    yeah i would have different RSVP dates.  I was thinking of sending the people that's far away (East coast) that I really want to come theirs first...

    I'm probably NOT doing save the dates that's why I'll rather send the invites early (and they can start looking into flights).  Most of our guests will need to drive a few hours or fly.

     
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    JCM9608    September 6, 2008  

    superstar,

    It's a good idea to send it a bit earlier so you can get a good amount of people, especially if you have ABC lists, etc.

    However, I think that it is a bit early for a mid-April event. Maybe you can shoot for mid to late January and/or arrange for an earlier RSVP date for some of the people instead.

    Our event is on September 6 and we sent out invitations today to our A list. As declines come in, we will move onto the B list. 

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    elb    7/26/8   Philadelphia

    That does seem really early. I sent mine out eight weeks before the date, and like the other brides, I'm still waiting on RSVPs.

    If you e-mail save-the-date messages, some people may reply that they won't be able to make it. 

     
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    NatiSylv    Nov. 1, 2008   Miami, Fl

    I'm sending them second or third week of august for a Nov. 1 wedding. I think exactly 6 weeks like a lot of the bridal mags say seems too late and makes me a bit anxious, but two months sounds good and doesn't give people time to forget.

     
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    missm    09-27-08   San Francisco

    we're sending ours towards the end of July for a late September wedding - roughly about 10 weeks out.  we have some international guests (who RSVP'd before the save the dates were sent, but that's another story), so it seemed reasonable.  our RSVP date for the first batch is relatively early (mid-August), so we can send out any b-list invites as the RSVPs come in without it seeming too last-minute, though we've also hedged a bit and padded our initial invite list. 

    january is probably as early as you can go without people forgetting/not getting around to sending in the RSVP.  if you send in november, they are likely to be lost in the midst of holiday season madness.

     
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    MrsFroggy    November 08   Asheville

    Because all my family is in France and some of his in Hawaii we plan to send some of the invitations 3 months before the wedding (end of July, early August for an early Nov. wedding). We'll probably give/send the other ones for the locals a bit later. Although if it was up to my husband, all invitations who already be in everyone's mailboxes.

     
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    That might be a tad early for STD.  If you can, I would suggest to do one batch in Jan and the next in Feb.

    We're planning a Feb 09 wedding and I'm snding everything out a little earlier, to avoid the mad Chirstmas rush.  August for the STD's, and November for the Invites. 

     

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