Post # 1
I’m 15 weeks into my pregnancy and haven’t told work yet. I’m starting to show a bit (well, it’s obvious to me) but others swear it’s not obvious if they didn’t know I was pregnant. My mom told me that she wouldn’t expect my work to be very understanding (we work in the same industry – finance/banking) and to delay telling them for as long as possible. Technically, according to our handbook, I don’t have to notify them until 30 days before EDD. HA! Can’t imagine it’d be much of a “secret” by that point.
So when did you guys notify work? What industry do you work in?
Post # 3
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I work in marine construction (the admin/safety side), and my intent is to tell them the day I request my leave, or when my boss calls me into the office to ask. It’s nothing against the company, it’s just none of their business; and I know my boss– as soon as she finds out I’m pregnant she’s already going to be thinking of replacing me (and not in a good way).
Post # 4
I work for a consulting firm that serves the non-profit sector. I felt forced to tell at 10 weeks, because there were already rumors going around. Fortunately, my company loves baby news.
What do you think will happen when you tell them?
Post # 5
I told my boss at 13 weeks. I filed paperwork around 30 weeks or so.
Post # 6
@AprilJo2011: I agree. Im not sure I understand why you wouldnt want to tell them?
Post # 7
I told them at 15 weeks. It was a lot better than I thought and was so nervous to tell them. I work in an all male environment with a limited number of females who never had children in order to focus on thier careers. I think it’s just better to get it over with. You are protected so there is nothing they could do to you.
Post # 8
I’m not PG yet, but we’re trying and I’ll be interested to see where this thread goes. I have a sinking feeling that my boss will find a performace related issue to fire me once I have a reason to announce.
Post # 9
I actually ended up telling my boss pretty early. I had a lot of appointments I needed to work from home for, so I wanted to make sure he understood why I was working from hom. He had just had twins via IVF, so totally understood.
Post # 10
Hmm not sure why my “<12 weeks” poll option isn’t showing up…
My mom told me that when she announced to work, they started giving her all the sh*tty assignments and making her travel more. I don’t travel with my job, but I don’t exactly have the best repoire with my manager. She can be a challenge. I get that my JOB is protected, but her attitude toward me certainly is not.
Post # 11
It’s 10x worse if they find out from someone else or figure it out on their own. You are not protected until you tell them. And if the start making you travel or adding any other requirements to your job, you get a doctors note. They can’t touch you.
And please don’t compare your situation to your mom. That was a long time ago when women weren’t even supposed to be in the work force.
Post # 12
I marked 12 weeks but I really told them at 10.
Post # 13
I have told one of the people I work closely with, plan to start telling the other partners I work with right at 12 weeks. I have a high stress/long hours job and telling them will help me explain why I need to leave (plus I’m already starting to get pudgy so it will probably be obvious soon). I’m not crazy worried on my part, my firm is VERY good with pregnancy, and the partners I work with are awesome. A bit worried about the practice group head, but everyone else I’m sure will be supportive.
The basic reason that women wait to tell is because they are concerned about being discriminated against (as some of the stories above indicate).
Make sure you know your rights (NOTE this is for people in the United States)! A good primer: http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/my-life/maternity-paternity-leave/maternity-work-rights/
If you feel like you are being given different/harder/worse/less/more work because you have announced your pregnancy that is NOT OK and you should consult with your HR department or equivalent (or a lawyer if it’s serious). Also they are not allowed to “replace” you. In my case, they will need to get extra help in here because we are so leanly staffed, but there MUST still be a place for me when I get back.
If you are let go after you have announced a pregnancy that is NOT OK. Even if it is for “performance reasons” your employer is walking a dangerous ground and it is likely worth it to talk to a lawyer.
I’m sure you guys know this, but I still wanted to make sure.
Post # 14
I told my manager before first trimester ended just because I needed her to work with me on doctor’s appointments and such. She kept my secret and I told the rest of my coworkers around 16 weeks.
Post # 15
I’m 8 weeks along and plan to tell work after my 12 week appointment.
Post # 16
Missing earlier dates – may want to add them in.
I had to tell work at 6 weeks as I was extremely sick. I’m glad I did, as my boss was extremely understanding with me missing work / working from home. When I ended up in the ER to get IV hydration, he told me did not want to hear from me until the following week (I went to the ER on a Wednesday). It was great having such a supportive boss.