(Closed) How early is too early?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I waited about a month before I asked my girls, mostly because I was putting together a surprise for them, which was about a 11 months out from our actual wedding day. I am still very happy with my decisions and can’t wait to see them in their dresses! (They just came in last week!)

Post # 4
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588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I got engaged Dec. 5, 2011 and asked all of them before christmas.  I also live out of state from them all and I was seeing them in person during that time.

Post # 5
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Its recomended to wait awhile since things do change a lot in a year. We lost a groomsmen and it was pretty nasty only 4 months before the wedding. You can have her around to help without asking her quite yet.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I searched this topic a little while ago, and most ladies on these boards are adamant that waiting is the smarter idea. But if you decide not to, that makes 2 of us, because my MOH and I have never had a fight in the 6 years we’ve been friends, and whether we see each other every week or every 6 months, we never drifted apart, so I asked her :). She was delighted, and I am too. 

ETA: that’ll make it nearly 23 months out for me. What can I say?… we’re that good 🙂 

Post # 7
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5081 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I asked all of my girls right away – the wedding will be 16 months after the engagement.

I had no doubts as to who I wanted.

Post # 8
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3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think it’s too early if you’re absolutely sure who you want by your side on the big day 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i held off for about 6 months, so that it was just about a year out because i wanted to figure out what our definite wedding plans were before recruiting a bridal party (it would be REAL awkward to unask a BM because we ended up having a lowkey ceremony and backyard BBQ).

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am getting married in August 2013 as well, and I asked my MOH and BMs like a day after we got engaged in February.  I say its never too early as long as you’re sure. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think its ever too soon to ask your bridal party if you are sure of your decision. I took a few months to ask them because I was unsure about including a couple of my other girlfriends.

Ask away girl!

Post # 12
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’ll be engaged 13 months.  I asked my girls a month later (so 1 year in advance).  You don’t want to ask to early (things happen– even close friends can change), but you also don’t want to spring it on them last minute (it’s costly to be in a bridal party).

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My sister asked me to be her MOH within an hour of being engaged haha. But that’s family and we are super super close. She didn’t ask her friends until about a month or two later. And my 2 best friends are getting married in may 2014 and He asked my SO to be a GM and she asked me to be a BM lol . LONG TIME AWAY! haha but we’ve been friends forever!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I plan to ask my MOH ASAP, but that’s because I plan to ask my step sister to be my MOH, and that isn’t going to change! 🙂 I only have one!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d wait till about 6 months before.  I was engaged in December and was so excited I asked MOH in January, looking back I wish I had waited longer and put more thought into it..  

Post # 16
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I knew for certain who I wanted (the engagement was a long time coming lol) so I asked them all within 2 weeks of getting engaged. 

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