Post # 1
So to start, my fiance and I have been engaged since July (2011), we are getting married at the end of May (2013) and decided to begin planning as of this February (2012) so…needless to say we have lots of time on our hands to search, plan, pick, fix, etc…however, with this time I have been thinking…’am I planning everything too early?’ i mean to be fair…we started in Feb and our date was booked for locations and bands, etc so it seems I may not be the crazy planner that I feel like I am lol
I recently sent out our Save the Dates….as I dropped all 147 into the teeny tiny mail slot panic struck me ‘am I sending these too early?’ ‘are people going to think I am crazy?’ ‘is everyone going to show since i am giving them 10 1/2 months to plan?’ (btw hoping that that “20% of all guests reply no” is real lol)
Was it too early to send the Save the Dates?!?!?!?! Am I crazy?!?!?!?! my fiance believes we are fine and i need to just move along, i am trying it’s just sitting in the back of my head for some darn reason
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
6-12 months in advance is perfectly normal.
As for hoping people reply “no” start thinking about your back up plan now– this is a BAD idea to invite more people than you can accomodate. It’s true not everyone can make it, and it all depends on your guests and their availability, so generalizations are tough– but I can tell you– from my FI’s side of the list there was literally ONE aunt who can’t make it, which we already knew since they’ll be in Thailand. So just be sure you have a backup plan if things do end up over your expected count.
Post # 4
I would think that is about the right time frame for STD’s. I THINK most send them out between a year and 10 months especially if it is destination.
Post # 5
My wedding is destination for about half the guest list, so we are sending them out in a few weeks. I think around 8-12 months is great depending on where the wedding is in relation to the guests’ locations.
Post # 6
it’s good to hear that the timing isn’t too early we figured it was good because it’s a holiday weekend
juliette.eliza…thank you for the tips, our venue does hold either double or tripple the amount of people we are inviting so we are okay there…i was really just throwing that in because we started right off the bat thinking mmm 150-175 total..we are at mmmm 218-235 now lol
Post # 7
Honestly, I think it’s never too early for Save-The-Dates!
Post # 8
Im not getting married until August 2013 but ive already started planning!! Why not, you’re getting married, its exciting!!! I have my STD’s ready to go, I will send them off late September.
Post # 9
@jleighr: I think you’re perfectly fine! We are getting married on july 5th 2013 and will be sending them out in september
Post # 10
We’re sending out our save the dates next week, and our wedding is August 4. So definitely not too early! Since we are having a DW on the coast, all of our guests are out of town, so we want to be sure everyone has ample time to plan.
Post # 11
Don’t worry, I am in the same boat as you. We were engaged Xmas of 2010 and are getting married it sounds like the same weekend as you are. Yeah May 2013 brides!
I’m not kidding when I say I took 6 months to decide on a save the date, it was ridiculous but with that amount of time to decide, why not??
N,o I don’t think you are sending too early. My sample save the dates will be arriving soon and I will be ordering once I can seem them in person and confirm they are what I want, so I will only be a couple weeks behind you in sending them out, so I think you are good.
Oh, and congrats!
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We’re sending ours out in November (FH keeps saying late October.) We have a significant number of people coming from out of the country and I guess it is considered to be a DW since the venue is a few hours from the town where we live and definitely not where either of our families live.
Post # 13
early is better than late. I was running around like a headless chicken before my wedding. UGH