Post # 1
Hi everyone! I got engaged a few weeks ago and in the post-engagement haze I’ve been doing a lot of looking around for venues, etc. My FI and I had discussed the date and guest list prior to getting engaged, so it’s just a matter of finding a location since we want a DW.
I think I found a venue/hotel and church (we are both Catholic) that I LOVE… however, our wedding isn’t for almost 2 years!! Is it too early to start talking to vendors and working out some of the details?
The biggest issue for me is that I currently live in sub-Saharan Africa and will be here through May of 2015… it’s hard enough to talk to family and friends from here, much less plan a wedding. On the other hand, not only do I still have the “engagement” high and just want to get started, I also do everything really far in advance and get stressed if things are done in a timely matter (by my own perception).
So thoughts on starting planning a wedding 22 months out? Does the fact that it’s a DW make a difference here? Thanks for any and all thoughts!
Post # 3
I would hammer out a final guest list and budget and start saving. Never too early to do that! Then, maybe get pricing from the venue and make sure that works for you. Some places don’t take reservations this far out, but some do.
ETA: some might say too soon, but to me, this is the gft of a long engagement. We get to plan in chunks wihile we’re excited, and rest on our laurels when the spark dulls for a bit. I am very happy to have the bg details set so I can rest a bit and focus on the fun stuff.
Post # 4
@Laurenplusalex: Thanks! Since we have a guest list (immediate family only) that’s easy… I’m not even sure on what a realistic budget is for a non-Caribbean DW, so that has been a challenge!
I guess I’m just not sure if I’m supposed to sit on my hands for another 6 months since it’s SO far out and with such a tiny wedding, it’s not like we have limited venue choices. I’ll start contacting some of my favorites though and go from there!
Post # 5
@lorakath: in your case, it makes sense to price things now then. If you’re not sure what your total will be, it’s good to figure that out sooner rather than later so you can plan and save accordingly. For us, FI had a different idea of just how much weddings in our area cost, while I was more realistic. If we hadn’t talked about it, we might not be on track with our savings for it like we are now. Out of curiousity, where are you having the wedding?
Post # 6
There’s no harm in researching venues this early! Definitely discuss a budget and finalize (as much as you can) a guest list. I got engaged November 2012.. and without a set date started looking at venues, meeting with vendors and all that good stuff. Like you, I like to plan things in advance, and had all the major things finalized and deposits made around Feb 2013 and then over the last year just been finalizing small details. Happy planning!! 🙂
Post # 7
@Laurenplusalex: I want to have it in Ireland. My biggest challenge has been the timing, many places I’ve looked at are closed throughout the winter, but there are enough that I think we’ll be able to find a great place!
Thanks for the help, I am glad to know that having a long engagement helps with the planning phases and will hopefully make it a bit easier in the long run!
Post # 8
The only things I don’t think you should do now is a) tell anyone they will be invited b) pick and invite people to your bridal party c) do anything you aren’t 100% positive you can pay for. So basically anything involving anyone other then your FI and maybe parents.
Otherwise it doesn’t matter when you start researching and selecting venues etc.
Post # 9
We will have been engaged 3 1/2 years when we finally get married in the summer. We did start looking at venues, centrepieces, transport etc ideas straight away but didn’t set a date and actually book anything until summer 2012 (2yrs out) after we set a budget and decided we could have saved enough. Nearly everything was decided/booked by last september. We now just need to finalised details about the ceremony (vicar is unresponsive ) and do DIY)
Once you have set a budget and you are certain you won’t change you mind/ find something you like better I would start booking things up. Popular venues, photographers can get booked up early.
Post # 10
@lorakath: it definitely has for me. It’s been fun too!
Post # 11
@lorakath: I think researching places now would be a great start. Especially with destination weddings, there are a lot of big pieces to put together in advance (travel logistics, narrowing down the location from an infinity of options etc) but you don’t have to worry about as many little DIY things as you would for a local wedding – ie it probably wouldn’t save you any money to craft 20 precious centerpieces and ship them from Sub Saharan Africa.
Post # 12
I say the earlier you start, the better. That way you have more time to figure out what you really want, and what’s unnecessary, and it reduces stress.
I can’t remember how long we’ve been planning our wedding, but it’s been ever since we started talking about a future together, which was more than 2 years ago.
Say, are you anywhere near me in sub-Saharan Africa? 😀
Post # 13
@lorakath: I don’t think it’s too early to start planning. Start looking at venues and vendors and get an idea of what is out there. I probably wouldn’t book anything for another 6 months but planning doesn’t hurt
Post # 14
Hey everyone! This is my first post so I hope I do this right. I got engaged on Christmas and our wedding date is tentatively set for 9/19/2015. I agree with everyone who says it’s never too early to start planning-especially if you don’t have a wedding planner or have a lot of DIY projects to complete. I’ve already planned my venue, dress, food, theme and more! Mostly I’m just doing it for fun to pass the time, as I am pregnant and bedridden due to complications.
Post # 15
@lorakath: I booked my venue, photographer and videographer 22 months out. Our venue (in a medium-sized city) was booked for every Saturday in May OR June 2015 except for one — which ended up being our wedding date. Originally we wanted to get married 6/6/2015.
Unless they specifically have a policy where they don’t book out more than a year in advance (we ran into that problem with our church) then there’s no worries!
Post # 16
Go ahead and start! I got engaged June 7, 2012, and our wedding is June 7, 2014. We already knew where we wanted our reception to be, but we booked that in August, booked our photographer in October, and booked our ceremony space in November. Then I started looking for dresses, and bought mine in probably February 2013.
It’s been wonderful having this long to plan – I’ve really been able to enjoy everything and take my time thinking about the choices. Now that we’re closer (only about 3.5 months away!) it’s picking up a little bit with all the small stuff that needs to get done, but spreading stuff out is great!