How early is *too* early to start planning?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: My ideal wedding date is 22 months out... how soon should I start planning?
    start now! : (15 votes)
    45 %
    12-15 months : (11 votes)
    33 %
    15-18 months : (6 votes)
    18 %
    18-22 months : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would hammer out a final guest list and budget and start saving. Never too early to do that! Then, maybe get pricing from the venue and make sure that works for you. Some places don’t take reservations this far out, but some do.

    ETA: some might say too soon, but to me, this is the gft of a long engagement. We get to plan in chunks wihile we’re excited, and rest on our laurels when the spark dulls for a bit. I am very happy to have the bg details set so I can rest a bit and focus on the fun stuff.


    Post # 5
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @lorakath:  in your case, it makes sense to price things now then. If you’re not sure what your total will be, it’s good to figure that out sooner rather than later so you can plan and save accordingly. For us, FI had a different idea of just how much weddings in our area cost, while I was more realistic. If we hadn’t talked about it, we might not be on track with our savings for it like we are now. Out of curiousity, where are you having the wedding?

    Post # 6
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    There’s no harm in researching venues this early! Definitely discuss a budget and finalize (as much as you can) a guest list. I got engaged November 2012.. and without a set date started looking at venues, meeting with vendors and all that good stuff. Like you, I like to plan things in advance, and had all the major things finalized and deposits made around Feb 2013 and then over the last year just been finalizing small details. Happy planning!! 🙂

    Post # 8
    3217 posts
    Sugar bee

    The only things I don’t think you should do now is a) tell anyone they will be invited b) pick and invite people to your bridal party c) do anything you aren’t 100% positive you can pay for.  So basically anything involving anyone other then your FI and maybe parents.

    Otherwise it doesn’t matter when you start researching and selecting venues etc.

    Post # 9
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We will have been engaged 3 1/2 years when we finally get married in the summer. We did start looking at venues, centrepieces, transport etc ideas straight away but didn’t set a date and actually book anything until summer 2012 (2yrs out) after we set a budget and decided we could have saved enough. Nearly everything was decided/booked by last september. We now just need to finalised details about the ceremony (vicar is unresponsive Undecided) and do DIY)

    Once you have set a budget and you are certain you won’t change you mind/ find something you like better I would start booking things up. Popular venues, photographers can get booked up early.

    Post # 11
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @lorakath:  I think researching places now would be a great start.  Especially with destination weddings, there are a lot of big pieces to put together in advance (travel logistics, narrowing down the location from an infinity of options etc) but you don’t have to worry about as many little DIY things as you would for a local wedding – ie it probably wouldn’t save you any money to craft 20 precious centerpieces and ship them from Sub Saharan Africa.

    Post # 12
    246 posts
    Helper bee


    I say the earlier you start, the better. That way you have more time to figure out what you really want, and what’s unnecessary, and it reduces stress.

    I can’t remember how long we’ve been planning our wedding, but it’s been ever since we started talking about a future together, which was more than 2 years ago.

    Say, are you anywhere near me in sub-Saharan Africa? 😀

    Post # 13
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @lorakath:  I don’t think it’s too early to start planning. Start looking at venues and vendors and get an idea of what is out there. I probably wouldn’t book anything for another 6 months but planning doesn’t hurt

    Post # 14
    11 posts

    Hey everyone! This is my first post so I hope I do this right. I got engaged on Christmas and our wedding date is tentatively set for 9/19/2015. I agree with everyone who says it’s never too early to start planning-especially if you don’t have a wedding planner or have a lot of DIY projects to complete. I’ve already planned my venue, dress, food, theme and more! Mostly I’m just doing it for fun to pass the time, as I am pregnant and bedridden due to complications. 




    Happy planning!




    Post # 15
    825 posts
    Busy bee

    @lorakath:  I booked my venue, photographer and videographer 22 months out. Our venue (in a medium-sized city) was booked for every Saturday in May OR June 2015 except for one — which ended up being our wedding date. Originally we wanted to get married 6/6/2015. 

    Unless they specifically have a policy where they don’t book out more than a year in advance (we ran into that problem with our church) then there’s no worries!

    Post # 16
    1768 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Go ahead and start! I got engaged June 7, 2012, and our wedding is June 7, 2014. We already knew where we wanted our reception to be, but we booked that in August, booked our photographer in October, and booked our ceremony space in November. Then I started looking for dresses, and bought mine in probably February 2013.


    It’s been wonderful having this long to plan – I’ve really been able to enjoy everything and take my time thinking about the choices. Now that we’re closer (only about 3.5 months away!) it’s picking up a little bit with all the small stuff that needs to get done, but spreading stuff out is great!

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