How far apart do you want your children to be?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How far apart?
    1 year or less : (18 votes)
    7 %
    2 years : (119 votes)
    49 %
    3 years : (62 votes)
    26 %
    4 years or more : (16 votes)
    7 %
    Whenever it feels manageable to have another baby : (26 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    My two siblings and I are in two year increments, and I’ve always thought it was pretty ideal. FH wants more like 3-4 years between our kids. We only plan on having two, tops, so I’d be okay with a bigger gap. We’ll see when it happens. 

    Post # 4
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We want 3 kids and ideally we would like to have them 2 years apart.

    Post # 5
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My sisters and I are all 14-16 months apart which I think is perfect. That said, my mum was a SAHM and so it was much easier to have children in quick succession. Given that I’ll be working, I think we’re going to aim for about 2 years in between to give me time to take about 6 months mat leave (difficult to leave my job for more than that) and go back to work for a reasonable amount of time between kids. 

    Post # 6
    6067 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I’m a big planner, but I think I need to wait and see how it goes with our first, and what’s going on with work, etc…before we decide when we’re ready for the 2nd.

    Ideally, it would be nice to have them 2 years apart, but I find the idea of being pregnant 15 months after having the first a little difficult!

    Post # 7
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    A lot of my friends have told me they felt competitive with their siblings but I never experienced that. I think our 3 year age gap has a lot to do with that. It’s close enough to have things in common but far enough not to be in each other’s business.

    Post # 8
    938 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Two years would be ideal. We want three kids, but with my age, 36, not sure if that will happen. I currently have a 2 month old son, and at this point couldn’t imaging getting pregnant again anytime soon. DS will be one in November, we’ll have a fab family Christmas, then going on a caribean holiday at the beginning of January. After that we’ll try for baby number 2. Hopefully I’ll get pregnant quickly and get to have a third child, but if not, I’m totally okay with that.

    Post # 9
    557 posts
    Busy bee

    When I was younger I thought I wanted 4-5 years apart…that is still what I would like, buuut I am also 31 now and just pregnant with our first, and we want 3-4 sooo sounds like I am going to be whipping them out a little faster than I originally wanted.

    Post # 10
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @UK Bride:  I’m with you. Get it done!  I think 2 years apart is perfect just so my body has some time to recover between pregnancies. My brother and I are just 14 months apart and we were very close growing up.  

    Post # 11
    5432 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    We want two kids and are hoping to have them 3-4 years apart. My brother and I are 4.5 years apart and it worked out really well, because we were never compared to each other and we felt like we had our own space during highschool. When he graduated elementary school, I graduated highschool and once I finish all of my post-secondary education in the spring, he’s starting university in the fall. It spaced out our tuition and made it easier for my parents to save – there wasn’t a scramble to pay for everything at once and wasn’t an overlap. My FI is 2 years younger than his older brother and two years older than his younger brother. They all get compared to each other a lot, especially when they were all in highschool around the same time. I just think it’s a bit too close in age and I would like the oldest to be out of diapers and somewhat able to be a ‘helper’ (meaning that they’re a bit less dependent) before we have another one.


    Post # 12
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee

    @sugarpea:  I agree. 

    My brother’s 6 years older than me and while that’s a bit much and I would’ve liked to be in the same school as him for a few years, I think it worked really well, since the dynamic of our relationship is that I look up to him, and he guides me through things.  I’d like 4 years between our 2 kids so that there’s less comparison and each kid would get their own space/time to shine in every stage, and I’d like my older one to be more independent by the time the little one comes along.  But SO wants 3 kids and he wants them closer together, plus he’s not ready for me to get pregnant in the near future AND he hopes I’ll be done having kids by 35, so…my plan works better. 😛

    Post # 13
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m not even sure I want more than one child, but if we did I would want to wait at least the recommended 18 months between pregnancies. Probably more like 2-3 years.

    Post # 14
    7191 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Whenever it feels manageable (if it ever does).

    I have a 9 week old, and the thought of another pregnancy (which I hated) and baby sounds overwhelming right now.

    Post # 15
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m 31 and just now starting our TTC journey.  Ideally, we will have two very close in age- 2-3 years apart.

    Post # 16
    3119 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d love to be done having kids by the time I’m 35. I just turned 30 now and am 10w pregnant with my first. We want two or three kids, so that gives us a pretty small window. I plan to continue working, though, so it will be really tough. I’d like probably just under two years between each child. 

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