Post # 1
I’m from a small town about 40 miles (or 50-60 minutes) away from a major city, and a lot of the people in that small town tend to not like leaving that small town. However, for the look I wanted and the size of our reception, FI and I couldn’t find anything in our area that fit both requirements. We fell in love with a place in the city, and we booked. He and his family are from only about 20 miles out of the city, and a lot of our friends live there. However, a member of my family has complained that we aren’t getting married in our town and that she has to “travel” to get to the wedding. Our ceremony and reception are in the same place, to alleviate any extra travel pain. We LOVE the city and go there often, so to get married there just kind of fits us.
So this has me thinking, bees, how far away is your venue from where you live?
Post # 3
We had the same complaints from people (my now SIL) that they “had to cross state lines to get to our wedding” and how that was rude of us… The venue (ceremony AND reception) was just under an hour from where we live. But we wanted oceanfront, and we live just under an hour from the ocean. So they can deal with it. People should just shut up.
Post # 4
@tntrav44: We have a similar situation. Our wedding wont be where we live by any means. We are having guest stay in Stowe, VT, but the actaul wedding will be in Waitsfield, which is about 40 min away. We are having guests stay in Stowe, as there is much more to do there, and his family has an amazing house there, which we are having a BBQ at the day before the wedding.
Your never going to please everyone and someone will complain about something, so you do what makes you happy. That is what counts and what should be. I right off the bat had someone make a comment about the 40min distance. Oh well!
Post # 5
My venue is three blocks away, so maybe a 5 minute walk.
Post # 5
Uhhh 3 hours? Haha we are getting married about 20 minutes away from my hometown, but FI and I now live in his hometown. All of his family will have to travel 3 hours to our venue. Most of my mom’s family lives in CT so they will be traveling about 3 hours as well. We’re setting aside hotel blocks, but most of our guests live about a half hour away and will just drive home after the reception.
No matter what you do, people will find something to complain about. Just smile and tell them that if the trip is too hard for them, they can stay home!
Post # 6
We live in Ontario and we’re getting married near Montreal where I grew up, which is around 6 hours from here. No one who is traveling from Ontario has complained yet. My FSIL is getting married in Jamaica, so our measly 6 hour travel time looks pretty short in comparison lol. We expect that some people might not show because of the distance, but all the essential people will be there. 🙂
An hour is nothing. If they don’t want to go, they don’t have to. Complaining to the couple about it is rude imo.
Post # 7
I think the problem was that we were originally discussing doing a tent wedding on my parents’ property (they live on about 190 acres of beautiful farmland), but after thinking about vendors and catering, we thought it’d be too much of a pain. This family member had her wedding in her backyard, and I think she thought if she could do it, we could do it too.
Post # 8
You can’t make everybody happy. Someone will always find something to complain about. We just sent out the invitations and people already complained about the chicken dish we offer. Well, have the beef then!
I don’t think driving an hour to attend a wedding is too much to ask for. The only time I was annoyed at a wedding was when the ceremony site was an hour from the reception site and we weren’t even allowed into the reception venue because we got there ‘too soon’. Otherwise, I have driven 3 and 6 hours, and flown across an ocean to attend a wedding. One hour is nothing!
Post # 9
@tntrav44: Errr, good for her?! It’s your wedding, you can have it wherever you want!!
Haha sorry I have been dealing with so many stupid complaints lately, I have a short fuse when it comes to things like this. I still stand by my previous comment. If it’s too far for her, she can stay home!
Post # 10
We are having our ceremony in Chicago but our reception is in northwest Indiana so yes they technically have to go to a different state but we are about 45 minutes from the venue. I get a little annoyed when people say why so far but oh well and I figure people who want to be there will make it there so I’m not worried.
Post # 11
People will complain about anything. I live in Bermuda, FI is from South Africa, and I’m from Texas. No matter where we were going to have it people are traveling. It is in Texas, but I have family driving 8 hours accross Texas, and then friends flying from Boston, Bermuda, Cayman Islands, Scotland, and South Africa. Most of my friends that are traveling are super excited to visit Texas, but my family is complaining about it…guess I should’ve had it in South Africa. lol
Post # 12
I voted under 30 minutes away.
Do what you want though! There is no way to make every guest think everything you want is perfect, people will always find something to complain about.
Post # 13
From where I live, my ceremony is 15 minutes east of my house, and my reception is 15 minutes west of my house haha.
Although we live in the middle of nowhere, so the ceremony and reception are in two different cities.
Post # 14
We live in London, and we’re getting married in NYC, so about 3000 miles away, I guess! It’s a bit daunting, planning everything from so far away, but it’s starting to come together.
And I agree, you should totally go with where your heart is, and where you and your FI feel most comfortable.
Post # 15
Our Ceremony & Reception are in the same place & are 45 minutes from my house… closer to an hour from some of our other guests