Post # 1
I’ve fallen in love with a ceremony and reception venue that is an hour and a half away from where the majority of the guests live. My parents think it’s inapporpriate to ask guests to travel that far, and in particular, unfair to ask the 10% of out of state guests to travel even further than anticipated. In addition, they worry about guests traveling after providing an open bar.
I absolutely want to be considerate of my guests and would hate to inconvenience them… however, now that I have discovered this perfect venue, I can’t imagine marrying anywhere else.
I certainly understand where my parents are coming from, but at the same time, they are not contributing to the wedding in any way – my fiance and I are paying for everything entirely. My parents have now said that if I do choose this venue then I should charter a bus to take guests to and from the wedding. >.<
Is it really that bad to ask guests to drive an hour and a half away?
Post # 3
@ifollowbliss: I don’t think it is. It’s your wedding day. You should be able to have your special day as you deem fit. Also, an hour and a half isn’t much to ask. I’ve driven 4 hours for a wedding.
Post # 4
If there’s a hotel nearby that guests can stay at, I would say go for it. I don’t know what time your wedding/reception will be but I would probably not want to drive an 1 1/2 home after an evening reception, expecially if there’s a bar.
Post # 5
that’s not far at all! 3+ hours might be a problem. i guess the question is what time of day your wedding is. if you have older guests who might not want to drive that far at night, would you consider an afternoon or lunchtime wedding over evening?
Post # 6
Consider the ages and places in life of your guests. Young adults likely will not have a problem. They would think it’s a fun roadtrip. Young adults with children likely would not like it. Kids in the car or getting back to a babysitter can be a pain. Older folks probably wouldn’t care for it either. Chartering a bus isn’t a bad idea especially for those people who have been drinking but personally the 3 hour round trip would turn me off.
Post # 7
my only suggestion is to be considerate to your guest in regards to a finish time.
we’ve driven 90mins for a wedding and had no issue with it BUT by the end of the night the couple was having suchs a fantastic time that they wouldnt leave – which pissed those of us that had to drive 2hrs home. eventually (at 1am) we had to say we’re leaving and the couple begged us to stay as they were going to leave – yeah right, 30mins later they were still there so we said goodbye and left
Post # 8
I am asking my guests to travel. My family 4hrs 44 min. His family 3hrs 24 min. His friends 4hrs 34min, My friends 1hr 21 min. We are meeting in the middle to have our wedding. I too fell for a venue, awesome food, great staff, amazing price. Luckily it is only 50 minutes for me but everyone else is traveling quite a distance. It was either that or have two weddings!
I can understand your parents point but it is your day and your money. Weddings seem to generate complaints, some you just have to let roll off your back. You will never please everyone and somedays you feel like you cant please anyone. Oh well!
Post # 9
Most of our guests had to travel an hour and a half. We had our wedding where we live, and had no family actually living in the area. We didn’t think twice about it because this is where we met, and where we live, and it holds a lot of significance for our relationship. I routinely travel 1-2 hours for weddings, and don’t think it’s a big deal, so it’s not something I even considered when booking our venue.
The only consideration you may have is if your guests might leave earlier to drive home. A lot of our middle aged or older family members drove home that night, so many of them left by 9:00. We didn’t mind, but if you want people to stay all night, the distance is something to consider. An hour and a half is close enough that many may choose to leave earlier and drive home versus paying for a hotel.
Post # 10
I don’t think 1.5hrs away is too bad, especially since it’s a wedding.
Post # 11
We specifically did not choose a certain venue because it was just over an hour away and opted for a closer one. Its your choice and you absolutely can choose the further venue, but beware that you might hear some complaints or people may leave early or in extreme cases not come at all.
Post # 12
we’re getting married 6 1/2 hours away from where we live, and about 8 hours away from a majority of our guests. we are having an open bar, but most of my guests are going to stay the weekend with us (65 people.) 1 1/2 hours away, isn’t that bad. consider booking a block of rooms at for them in case they want to stay. you’ll get them a really good rate if you reserve a block or 10 or more. 🙂
Post # 13
I live in florida. Nothing is really close by. Especially with traffic. I’m also a photographer and shoot lots of weddings were people constantly travel to be there with the people they love. I can understand your worry though. I want to have a barn rustic wedding, and Miami isn’t known for that, if we lived in nothern or central florida this wouldnt be a problem but Miami doesn’t cater to that style, so the closest wedding location with a barn is 4hours away! IMHO an hour and half shouldnt be a problem.
Post # 14
I don’t think its bad because I know the DC metro area- 1.5 hours away is a totally different vibe. You could set it up to be a mini-destination wedding for your guests- OOT bags, guide to the local area, etc. That would be so fun! Honestly, were that many people going to be driving home after drinking all night anyways?