Post # 1
My RSVP date was couple days ago. I have sent a general text message to the last few that didn’t rsvp. In which, one was one of my three BM that pulled out of my bridal party few months ago (casually over the phone because she didn’t feel like it anymore). Since then, our friendship went down hill. Consequently, I didn’t want to have her girl as my flower girl anymore, and have not heard from her since.
Anyway, she didn’t reply to this text message and still has not sent her RSVP card. I don’t know if she is coming but I don’t feel the effort on her behalf. Her partner has not replied to my fiance’s buck invitation and tried to get in contact several time with him but no response back.
After everything that happened with her, I don’t wish her to be at our wedding. But after not hearing back from her, should I classify her as a no or should I get in touch with her once again (via text or facebook)? I refuse to make the effort to call her after all the issues I had with her.
Post # 3
Maybe one last chance over Facebook and just express that you need a final head count. Let her know if you don’t hear by X date you will put her down as a no. Good luck, that stinks!
Post # 4
I dont know the history but if you really want an answer, I’d pick up the phone and call her and see what’s up.
Post # 5
I think TheFutureMrsNguyen has the right idea. make it casual and be the bigger person, you dont want to be worrying about this kind of stuff. If she comes she come, if not, well you said you don’t really want her there so that would be a blessing. I hope this works it’s self out soon
Post # 6
That sounds like she is a No. But you don’t want to be surprised on the day of, so maybe just one more email to confirm.
Post # 7
I am a pissed Bee right now. I say if you already sent her a message and she is not responding, just mark her down as a no! I had to track people down for my wedding and most of those I had to track down that eventually RSVP yes didn’t show. That amounted to 60 people!!!
Post # 8
I would track her down just because I wouldn’t want her to show up at the wedding after being assumed a No and not have a place for her!
Post # 9
I think you’ve made your effort. If you continue i think she’ll just say yes to appease you and not actually come. I think bees who have done a lot of hunting experience those hunted not actually making it to the event.
Normally with a quick text you get “omg! Im so sorry! If course I’ll be there.” if someone is sincere.
Post # 10
Thank you Bees
I ended up chasing her one more time. I asked her is she was declining my invitation and she responded that she was….So I guess she purposly not responded because she wasn’t attending. So that’s the end of the friendship after all that happened. As far as I’m concerned, she lost me. And glad that she won’t be a part of it X