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How far in advance are you requesting your replies?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How far in advance are you requesting RSVPs?
    1 week before the wedding : (0 votes)
    2 weeks before the wedding : (5 votes)
    9 %
    3 weeks before the wedding : (3 votes)
    5 %
    4 weeks before the wedding : (29 votes)
    53 %
    5 weeks before the wedding : (10 votes)
    18 %
    6 weeks before the wedding : (6 votes)
    11 %
    More than six weeks before the wedding : (2 votes)
    4 %
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    nevjcu    July 10, 2010  

    I'm just typing out my RSVP cards now.  My wedding is July 10 and I am requesting a response by June 5; is this too early?  Also, what day of the week is your deadline?  I figure my deadline would be a Saturday since we are getting married on a Saturday.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I think that would be fine.  Mine response date was a month before the wedding.  It should be a few weeks before you really NEED them for the caterer or anything since you might have to track some people down.

     
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    mizrunzou    June 26, 2010   Kansas City, MO

    For our June 26th wedding, we are requesting RSVPs by May 28!  We feel like that gives us time to allow some to arrive late and still time to call before we have to turn in final numbers.

     
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    MsTerrapin    June 19, 2010   Maryland

    My wedding is June 19th and I am requesting replies on May 15th.  A little early, yes, but we have a TON of out of town guests, and whether or not they all say yes or no has huge budget implications for us, so the sooner I know, the better.

     
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    azula    February 27, 2010  

    Our wedding was February 27th and our RSVP deadline was January 20th, five weeks (well, actually, one month and one week) before the wedding. Also, wedding was a Saturday, RSVP deadline was a Wednesday.

     
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    bloodgo1    May 14, 2010   Royal Oak

    Our wedding is May 14 and I requested them back March 14 (2 months). We figured it would give us enough time for late people and also enough time to order the right amount of favors, order the right amount of cardstock for the menus and escort cards, etc. I think typically people do it a month in advance, but I think whatever fits your specific situation is always best. I just personally didn't want to be rushing to finish things all in the last few weeks - it has worked out fine so far :)

     
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    bridesmomma    June 19, 2010   Northern California

    My daughter's wedding is June 19, her response card requests a reply by May 1.  I was worried it was a little early, but I have a feeling we will have to track a few people down in order to get their reply!  She also has a few people she wants to invite if she gets a lot of 'no's', and she thinks she will have time to put those invitations in the mail without hurt feelings.

     
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    LadyGoodman    September 25, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    Mine is September 25th and I am asking for RSVPs by September 25th!

     
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    greenleafmountain    7.31.2010  

    We need our catering numbers in a MONTH before the wedding (!!!) We're actually cutting it pretty close by requesting 6 weeks before.  I'm a bit nervous that we'll have trouble contacting any stragglers in time...

     
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    tomsbride    May 21, 2011   kingston, ontario, canada

    exactly a month... i have to give the catered 3 weeks notice on head count so i need to allow myself time to call/track down people who havent responded

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    Standard is one month before. That's what we did, and I would stick to that. It's plenty of time to contact late responses, and it's not too early to fear people needing to change their minds (which is a possibility if you request a reply too early ... some people are just weird like that).

     
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    Erin_E    June 6, 2010   South Jersey

    We are getting married on June 6, and we asked to have replies back by May 22.  I really should have given myself an extra week, not sure what I was thinking.  We are having a smallish wedding though, so hopefully I will not have to track down too many people. 

     
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    artsprout.love    May 15, 2010   Virginia

    Hm... my wedding is May 15th and I request to know by April 30th.

    I guess I'm cutting it closer than most... oops!

     
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    sewing    July 2010   SF Bay Area / Oahu

    i'm doing 2 months before. i know its crazy early, but i figure if people don't have their plane tickets by then, then they probably aren't coming! plus I have some numbers due at the 1.5 month mark..

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    My family is notoriously awful about RSVPs.. as are my friends.. so I'm doing 1 month.. that will give me a couple weeks to call everyone before I have to freak out about the seating chart :)

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    I'm asking for replies 5 weeks before, then at 4 weeks before I can call everyone I haven't heard from. We need to know a final number for our venue!

     
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    Gerbera    August 7, 2010   NY

    @ LadyGoodman,

    Did you have a typo? Your RSVP date is the same as your wedding day??

     

    Ours is a month. We need head count 10 days prior. And. You want to give yourself enough time to tag favors, seating charts, etc.

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    My reply by date is exactly 6 weeks before my wedding (May 1st for June 12th). I'm doing 6 weeks prior b/c I want people to commit early as our hotel blocks release at the 4 week mark. Also, I just know people are going to try to wait until the last second to RSVP so at least I'm allowed to start shaking them down for a response 6 weeks out which will hopefully avoid any drama 2-3 weeks prior to the big day.

     

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