How far in advance should a wedding shower be?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

mine was middle of august for a middle of october wedding. 

Post # 3
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Following becuase I’m clueless!

Post # 4
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ours is scheduled for 1 month in advance, but I really don’t think it matters.

Post # 5
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I think 3 months is better but it really doesn’t matter. I had two showers, one was three months and one was the month before our wedding. While the one the month before seemed rushed etc, it was beautiful and really awesome. They both turned out great.

The one three months though for us was still cold, snowy, and driving there was horrible. While the one a month before was nice spring weather. So that could also be a factor depending on the time of year.

Post # 6
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It really doesn’t matter. Any times between like 4wks before – 3 months before

Post # 8
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

mine was June for an end of August wedding, worked out perfectly.  I wouldn’t want to do it within weeks of the wedding, but I’d think at least a month prior is fine. 

Post # 9
3088 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

jenrebmol:  I’m not sure if there’s a set time. I know I am having two, due to being so far away from a large majority of my family. I am getting married Oct. 2015, but the first shower is in May 2015 and the second one will probably be July 2015. It has been my understanding that showers are usually two-three months before the wedding to give guests enough space in between gift giving and to provide your bridesmaids and family enough time in between in case they are traveling.

Post # 10
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It really doesn’t matter actually. My wedding is October 17, and I have a shower next Saturday. However, FI’s family is also planning one for me, and that won’t be until sometime next month, or closer to the wedding.

It’s whenever it’s convenient for you and whoever is hosting, and prior to the wedding. A couple weeks before may be too close, but if that’s the only time that works – then so be it.

Post # 11
306 posts
Helper bee

jenrebmol:  My answer seems to be the odd one out, but my wedding shower is this coming Saturday and my wedding is May 30th of next year. In our area/friends circle it is very common to space out the shower/wedding by about 6 or so months. In my case, FI and I are university students so it made sense to have the shower before we go back to school! There is really no right/wrong time to have a shower, but I personally like the idea of spacing out the events as it can be financially draining if people are giving gifts at both occasions. Just my two cents!

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