Post # 1
i have a friend getting married in the spring of next year and she hasn’t talked to me about the wedding party at all. i assumed she wasn’t going to have bridesmaids but she said something the other day that made me think differently. if the wedding is 7-8 months out am i wrong to assume that she should have reached out to her bridesmaids by now? when did you guys let your wedding party know you wanted them to be a part of your special day?
Post # 3
I asked my bridesmaids right after I got engaged, so 9 months before the wedding. If she doesn’t have high expectations for her bridesmaids prior to the wedding, she may wait a little longer, but I would think she’s probably asked hers already.
Post # 4
I asked my bridesmaid about 7 months out (3 weeks or so after the engagement)
but sometimes when you’re still figuring out wedding details, the bride may not know how big of a wedding party she wants, etc. I wouldn’t be too concerned. I think up to 6 months is still plenty of time.
Post # 5
I asked about a year in advance. I wish I had waited a little bit longer 🙁
Post # 6
I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) and one Bridesmaid or Best Man (my Boyfriend or Best Friend of 14 years) right after I got engaged. But I have 3 more BMs that I am planning on asking that I just haven’t done yet (and I am already about a year into planning!). I have a little over a year left but I have definitely been putting this off. I’m so busy with school that I wasn’t planning on asking anyone until I really get into the meat of planning. Plus, while I would love them to, I really am not expecting my BMs to do much in terms of helping to plan. So it’s not like I need them to do much more than show up the day of. I figured that I’d get around to asking soon. I think I’m also having difficulty deciding who the other 3 will be. I wanted to just keep it as my Maid/Matron of Honor and Boyfriend or Best Friend because there are way more than 3 people who I could ask to be my other BMs and I figured just my absolute closest people would not offend anyone. But then my Fiance wanted a huge wedding party on his side (he has a ton of friends, while I have a ton of family). I had to limit his choices to 5!
Post # 7
i asked as soon as i got engaged, but… i had a pact with my bffs from childhood to have them (think sisterhood of the traveling pants) so i was very happy to give them the thumbs up…but my Fiance has not yet…. so i think people r diff….could be she is waiting on one certian persons friendship status…maybe they r on the rocks and she is waiting to ask u all till this clears, or she is waiting till her Fiance decided how many he wants, there r so many reasons people wait. Fiance is waiting cause he dont know which fella yet will be best man….
Post # 8
I think you can really wait til about 6 months out. I wish I had waited longer!
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2011 - AnthonyÃ¢Â€Â™s Fine Dining
I asked mine as soon as I got engaged (20 months out!) but all of them are still in grad school and I know being a bridesmaid is a huge financial committment. I wanted to make sure they had enough time to save and we had enough time to shop around for the best deals!
Post # 10
@Miss Peace: Why do you wish you’d waited longer? Just curious.
Post # 11
We got engaged with over 2 years till the wedding. I waited till about a year and a half away.
Post # 12
I asked my girls WAY early! But most of them have to travel so they were actually happy to know so that they could make travel plans. And, since they are farther away, we can only meet up certain times so it’s working out.
Post # 13
hmmm, she is doing most of the planning herself so maybe she will wait a while longer before she brings it up or maybe i won’t be in it. either way, i guess i just need to sit back and relax. patience isn’t one of my strongest qualities, except of course when it comes to waiting for my ring ;);) thanks bees!
Post # 14
I asked my bridesmaids immediately after I got engaged in Dec 2008. Big mistake! A lot of distancing can happen if you have a long engagement. It’s been particularily hard since many live in different cities.
Post # 15
Ugh, I asked mine pretty soon after the engagement, and I totally wish I had waited. One is amazing, and is my Maid/Matron of Honor. My other bridesmaid is a good friend, but I regret asking her to be in it…Im actually having to kick her out, and ask someone else to be in it instead. Luckily I have about 4 months till the wedding.
I would totally wait longer if I had to do it again.
Post # 16
I asked all my BMs probably within a month after getting engaged. Two of them (at the time) lived out of town, so I was trying to give them ample time to get prepared. But, my choices were pretty much no-brainers, so it wasn’t too hard for me.