(Closed) How far is too far??

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@burger26:  I have some imediate family flying in from Puerto Rico to NYC. FI’s Family and 2 cousins of mine are coming from FL. I also have some people coming in from the Chicago area. Thats the farthest ppl are coming from.

Are people going to be flying or driving. I really think it depends…I drove across 6 states to go to my friend’s wedding and she is doing the same for me. 

I guess it depends on who it is for..and what people’s financial situation allows

Post # 4
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@burger26:  If its more then a couple hours I would consider it a destination wedding and you would need to send your save the dates out a little sonner then normal.

Also, make sure you have enough room blocks at a local hotel so they have options to stay local if they want to.

Post # 5
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I would just send your invites out a little sooner and look in to hotel pricing/blocks of rooms for guests that won’t want to drive home. I don’t think 80 miles is unreasonable at all.

Post # 6
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

How far is the venue from the majority of the guests you are inviting? Out of Town guests are going to have to travel regardless and by accepting your invitation, they know that. But if the venue is 80 miles from the majority of your guests, I think that might be a bit too far. I personally do not think I’d travel that far for a wedding unless the person was SUPER close to me or Fiance (aka sibling, parents, etc.)

Post # 7
9422 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t think that is too far.  I mean…anything within about 3-4 hours I could easily get to for a Saturday wedding (and then spend 1 night). With 1 hour of drive time I would either just drive back or get a room if I wanted to drink (last time Fiance just drove us back and I drank a lot.  problem solved!)

Our venue is near where we live but the majority of people will have to travel about 60 miles (or more if they live farther).  So 1 hour of driving isn’t really a big deal to me.

Post # 8
8696 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I say 2 hours can easily be done. More than 2-2.5 hours I would only do for family or a very close friend.

Post # 9
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think so. 80 miles is about 1.5-2 hours right? I’ve done that for many, many weddings. In fact, I’ve been to more out of state/far away weddings than close ones!

For a reference: My wedding is in New York. Our guests are coming from New York, New Jersey, Delaware, Pennsylvania, West Virginia, Maryland, Connecticut, Florida, Wisconsin, Kansas and Illinois. So some of our people will be taking 3-4-5 hour car rides, others will be doing 2 hour flights. It just is what it is, you know?

Post # 10
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@burger26:  I live in NY and my Fiance lives in CT. We will be having the wedding on Long Island. His family is scattered all over (Cali, CT, Canada and the Philippines). We will be sending invites to all, so no one gets offended. But in reality – I don’t expect some to come because of the distance. But we will be offering hotel blocks for those that are traveling from out to state. We will also be hosting a brunch the day after the wedding for those who decided to make it a weekend trip.

Post # 11
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

If I have to stop to pee more than once to get there….I would have to decide if I wanted to just make a trip of it and arrange to stay close to the event or decline the invite….traveling can be stressful, I try to avoid becoming stressed out if I can.

Post # 13
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I mean, our families are all over the place so people were going to have to travel no matter what. I think the point is, who do you really, really want at your wedding? Can they make it? Great. Then, don’t expect anyone else to be able to come. If they can great, if not be understanding of their situation.

My grandma can’t fly. She lives in California, so the wedding is there (as is most of my family). We live in DC, where only some of our friends live. His family is mostly in Florida, but all of his family is able to travel, so there you have it!

Post # 14
12885 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think 80 miles is too far if there aren’t hotels in the area.  If there are hotels, sure it’s fine, and people can opt to make it a mini vacation!

Post # 15
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s fine so long as there is space for everyone who want to stay the night locally. And let people know far in advance so they can plan.

Post # 16
7653 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

80 miles is acceptable. Ours was just slightly under that at 75. Granted most of our family lives in the area that we got married, but many friends were where we are from, so they had to travel to come. No one complained, and we had a great turnout.

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