Post # 1
What’s the longest plane ride that would be reasonable?
Is it more to do with the most expensive the plane ticket would be? What should the maximum cost of the ticket be?
I’m planning to have a micro-wedding, so these would only be my and my FI’s closest VIPs (and their chosen +1s, if they wish to bring them). I’m kind of hoping to make it into more of a (optional) vacation for us all. Do the wedding stuff on one day, then stay a while if you can, and just have fun at the location. No great-great grandparents with special health needs with be in attendance.
Post # 3
My DW was a 4.5 hour nonstop flight. I tried to pick somewhere further but DH said no. Not because of distance but because he just didn’t want to go there lol.
Cost is important too. But what is considered “reasonable” is relative. Buying at the right time can help a price a lot.
Post # 4
I fly across the North Atlantic Ocean at least once per year (usually looking at +20 h of transit) and these are the criteria I find most important:
– The more direct, the better – I hate when I have to change between more than 2 planes
– The overall flight time, long stopovers are horrid
– The price
– The length of the trip, less than a week is not worth it for me. I need to stay minimum 10 days.
– What airports I’ll have to go to (for example, I love changing planes on Iceland and NY, while I hate Frankfurt)
So how long a trip are you looking at and where are you going? I voted for +11 hours, but then again – I’m used to long flights. If your guests aren’t, it might be a good idea to talk to them before making the final decision.
Post # 5
Depends on the dynamics of where the people currently live. Like if you live in Michigan and all your family and friends live there and you decide to have a DW? Already way too far even if I have to get on a plane for an hour.
If friends & family are split up across the country or countries, I could see how a DW makes sense and would be more willing to travel depending on funds not air time.
Post # 6
I think it depends on your guests and how much they travel. I used to fly back to Taiwan every year to visit family when I was younger, so an 8-10 hour plane ride seems “normal” to me. For those that don’t tend to travel internationally or regularly, I would imagine the longest flight for them would be 5-6 hours. Like other bees have said, the timing of the trip will have a large impact on the price of the tickets.
Post # 7
I’m not going to be able to afford anything more than 6 hours away by plane.
Post # 8
So far the furthest I’ve flown for a wedding is about 8 hours. This summer we’re looking at about 11 hours of flight for one in Brazil. Of course we’re going!
For me it’s more about the money and my connection with the couple. The 8 hour one was at a villa in rural Italy. It was a pain in the butt to get to, but we spent the whole weekend at a gorgeous place with really good friends. Totally worth it!
That said, I declined an invitation to a wedding in India because of finances. I couldn’t swing $2000 per person in travel costs, which is what it would have come to. I was sad to miss it, but knew it was the right decision at the time.
Post # 9
I’m hoping to go to a location that takes about 8-9 hours of flight time for my guests to get to, and I’m thinking to do a week-long vacation getaway thing.
I’m really encouraged by the comments/poll so far 🙂 I thought this was probably going to be totally unreasonable and I’d have to find somewhere closer, but it sounds like maybe not!
Post # 10
@michiru4ever: I have at least two guests that I plan to offer to supplement the flight payment for (in one case, 100% of it) because I know it’s not reasonable to ask of them. But I’m not sure at what dollar point a flight becomes “expensive” for a DW, just generally.
Post # 11
I voted for 11 plus hours, because I think if it was the wedding of someone I really cared about, I would make the effort. If you give people enough notice to plan their annual leave, then they should be able to turn it into/work it around a holiday.
We are planning a DW in Bali. At the time of our wedding, we’ll be based in Singapore. My family and many friends are in Australia, his family and friends are in Switzerland and the rest of our mutual friends are scattered around Asia. Those in the APAC region I’m not too worried about, as the flight time for them would range from 3 to 6 hours max. But I am a bit nervous about the European guests, although they are mostly on FI’s side and he doesn’t seem to think it’s unreasonable or selfish. We basically choose Bali because it’s kind of equally inconvenient for everyone, haha. Also we’re hoping because it’s such an attractive place people will want to have a holiday at the same time.
I think one thing you can do is to try and make it as easy as possible…so maybe send out some flight and accomodation options to take the hard work out of planning the trip for your guests.
Post # 12
I went to a DW in Hawaii…so I think it might have ended up being 12 hours travel time in the end. Stayed 7 days. I don’t mind taking one day to travel, I think it’s more about vacation time available and cost. Obviously if you are going to have it somewhere that is a 24 hr travel time (think Thailand or something from the US) people who can only take off 5 days of work wouldn’t find it worth it to travel.
If I was your VIP though I would probably make all of my effort to be able to come. Thinking about my closest friends or family I would travel 8-12 hours as long as I had enough warning (I’d probably want at least a years notice). I would consider more if it was somewhere I would really love to go.
Casual friend I would be way less likely, but that doesn’t sound like you would be inviting any of those.
Post # 13
This depends sooo much on how close you are to the person, what your financial situation is, how much vacation time you can/want to take…
Post # 14
For me flight time would be no factor in my decision to go to a DW or not. But having said that I had a DW and I love to travel. So it really doesn’t bug me. But I think for guests the biggest concern is cost. So I would focus more on overall cost (flight & accomodations) when choosing a location.
Post # 15
It would depend on where it was and who it was for. I’d probably go as far as Europe, but it would have to be more than just a few days otherwise it’s not worth the cost or the flight time.
@eocenia: I agree Iceland plane transfers are much smoother, Frankfurt not so much.
Post # 16
@HisIrishPrincess: Any airport that requires bus transfer between gates… ugh. I love going through Iceland, only problem is that it won’t count towards my star alliance points – which is another big thing for me when it comes to travel.
And in terms of planning a DW – I highly recommend STDs! We got these magnets for our guests and got amazing feedback (sent them ~8 months before the wedding).