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    Steffany    March 30, 2013   Brooklyn

    Help! I need a gut check from other brides.  I found a wedding dress that I just LOVE in a photo inspiration shoot on wedding chicks.  Ever since I saw it, no other dress has looked quite the same (read: I am completely OB-SESS-ED)!  I spent countless hours here, on weddingwire, theknot, google images, etc searching and searching for THE dress - the dress of my dreams - to no avail. The photo shoot doesnt credit the dress.  :(  But! they did credit the event planner... whose site is defunct and they are now out of business, no contacts listed. 

    I had given up and was searching for a dressmaker to make the dress for me based on the photos, when I tried one last place - the photographer of the shoot.  Maybe they would remember the shoot and be able to put me in contact with someone?  I found their site, and their blog which listed the photo shoot in question.  No additional info there, but I did find that they were having a "Best shoot of 2011" contest on their Facebook page, where people could vote for their favorite.  THE dress was there! AND the model/bride was tagged!  I (too my shame) Facebook stalked ALL of her wedding photos (to be fair, they were public, and FB is made for stalkin'!) hoping she mentioned or someone commented about who made her dress.  Nothing.  I even found her blog and searched that for some mention of her wedding dress. Nope.

    My last recourse: reach out to the bride directly to ask her about her dress.  This is where I need your help!  Is this crazy?  Is it too stalker/creepy/weird to randomly contact a complete stranger that you have obviously spent serious time hunting for to ask about the designer/style of their wedding dress??  Do you think that she, as a former bride, would understand this lapse into Bridal Brain craziness and help a fellow soon-to-be bride out?

    What would you do if a stranger messaged you on Facebook (or left a comment on your blog - is that less creepy?) asking about your wedding dress?

    I definitely need some perspective before I launch into full-blown craziness or make a social media faux pas! Thanks!

     
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    Baimee       Santa Rosa, California

    I'd say you stumbled upon the dress in her blog while you were googling things. Makes it sound less weird. I think I'd be flattered, personally that someone liked my dress enough to ask me about it.

     

    Also, it's just a stranger on the internet. Who cares if she thinks you're odd as long as you get the answer!

     
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    delirium.megans    April 30, 2011   CT

    Since she was tagged in the photo contest, i think it is fine to reach out and ask about her gown.

     
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    aardvark    April 14, 2012  

    For sure not creepy. I mean if you had stalked that hard because you wanted to see her or be her friend then, maybe yeah, that's creepy but this is for a dress! No, THE DRESS! I totally think you are in the clear. And like PP said, she is just some random on the internet so it doesn't really matter what she thinks.

    Good luck! I'd love to see pictures of this amazing dress! I would say don't give up on the seamstress route though, it may be the way to go even after you see the real thing!

     
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    vmec    May 12, 2012   Vancouver

    If you say everything you say here for sure creepy. If you simply say wow, I cam across your dress it's lovely- mind my asking who/ where you got it from?

     

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