how far is too far to travel?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How far is too far to travel for a wedding?
    2 hours : (10 votes)
    23 %
    3 hours : (7 votes)
    16 %
    4 hours : (19 votes)
    43 %
    if it wasn't in my current town I wouldn't go unless it was my best friend/close family : (8 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    11598 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    People will come if they want to be there, regardless of the distance. We had our wedding an 8 hour drive from my family and a 20 hour drive from DH’s family.  We had about 80-90% of our OOT guests accept and come.  I do recommend getting a hotel block so people have the option of staying overnight if they do travel in!

    Post # 5
    11598 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Bettyboo1982:  Oh… well that sort of changes things.  So you aren’t inviting most of these people to the actual ceremony, but only to the reception (which is technically the ‘thank you for attending our ceremony’ party)?  I don’t know if I’d travel a significant distance if I wasn’t invited to the actual wedding part of the event.  

    Post # 7
    539 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014


    For just the party and not the wedding too, I probably wouldn’t travel more than 30-60 min. The wedding is the important part,  and I have traveled more than 12 hours for that.

    Post # 8
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Bettyboo1982:  Hmmm…for family I’d go several hours. However, how much family? I mean if it’s one or two family units, ok. But like 50 people? Er, for my first wedding our families lived 3 1/2 hours apart, but we got married where his family lived because my family was smaller and less people needed to drive.

    Post # 9
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I have attending weddings that required a flight to get there and rental car once I got into the city.

    Post # 10
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Bettyboo1982:  You should add more poll options – I’ve traveled more than 4 hours for a wedding.

    Post # 11
    1208 posts
    Bumble bee

    Almost had to fly to a different country for my sisters wedding this year. It all depends on who it is and if they give me enough time to afford the plane ticket.

    Post # 12
    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d travel pretty far for a wedding (we’ve flown before).  That said, I think your mom is right, OP; you can’t expect people to travel for what in essence is just a party. Honestly, I’d be a little insulted to get an invite to just a reception barring odd circumstances. It sort of says “you’re good enough to party with and give us a gift, but not good enough to see the event we’re celebrating.”  I mean, some guests do choose to go to just one or the other for various reasons, but in general, IMO, it reads badly.  I mean, if the B&G got married on the quick because of a deployment or something, and then had a big reception later on, that’s a different situation, but in general, I just personally am not a fan of this whole “private ceremony, public reception” thing.

    Post # 13
    4959 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Bettyboo1982:  I think it really depends on who it is. If it is someone I care about, I will absolutely travel for them. My BFF lives in Texas and she is traveling to NJ for my bachelorette and wedding.

    Post # 14
    6158 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    the farthest i’ve traveled for a wedding was 4 hour plane ride.

    if i was friends or family and wanted to attend the wedding, i would be there no matter where it was.


    Post # 15
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @Bettyboo1982:  I wouldn’t go further than 3.5-4 hours. We’re going about 3 hours and staying over in May. But that’s as far as I’d go, unless it was my brother or bestie! Or a DW obviously

    Post # 16
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    My husband’s family traveled from another country for our wedding, and my family and friends had to get to Las Vegas from wherever they lived (at least 4 hours). However, I think it is a stretch to ask them to travel when they aren’t going to witness the ceremony. 

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