(Closed) how far out did you ask your girls?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’m getting married in January 2011 and I asked my girls about 2 weeks ago. It’s early, but I got too excited and I couldn’t wait any longer!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I asked mine ridiculously early…like two years in advance.  But we had a long engagement and I knew who I wanted and I wasn’t going to change my mind on it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I asked my best friend to be MOH right after she screamed seeing my ring! lol. I asked everyone else (2 sisters) shortly after. It took me a little while to decide on a 4th but as soon as I knew I asked her to! I would say since you have a little ways to go yet hold off cause you never know what can happen in 1.5 yrs. . . maybe on the 1 year mark ask them . but if you know these girls are going to be there with you for life. Go for it!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I asked mine as soon as I got engaged. But originally I was going to get married in 2011 so that would have been 2 years out. We had to move the wedding up so it ended up being 1 year out – but my MOH needed to get a visa so the more time the better!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I asked within a few weeks of being engaged (which was in 2/09).

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I asked them as soon as I got engaged, pretty much. I didn’t want them wondering “Am I a bridesmaid, am I not?”

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I waited a bit to ask my girls. I got engaged Christmas of ’08 and we are getting married in June. I asked my MOH first–maybe March and my SIL knew she was going to be a bridesmaid right after we got engaged. But I asked the last BM in June. So about a year from the wedding.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I asked my bridesmaids several months after getting engaged (about 10 months out from the wedding). I know it probably created some “Am I a bridesmaid or not?” questions but it was important for me to not feel pressured to immediately decide. I graduated from college around the time of my engagement and wanted to see that my close friends didn’t disappear just because we weren’t in the same city anymore. Overall, I am glad that I waited a little while.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not for sure, but I’m thinking that it was somewhere between 6-9 months out…

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i asked mine within a month of getting engaged, which will end up being about 17 months early.  My wedding will be a destination for all of them, so I wanted to make sure that they had enough time to plan ahead! And i was so excited that i just wanted to ask them as soon as I could come up with a creative way of doing it.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I asked them in late June, 2009, a few weeks after getting engaged, when I thought I’d be having a wedding in late 2011. We’ve since bumped up the date by over a year, and other than making sure that wouldn’t be a hardship on anyone (it wasn’t), it’s worked out fine.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We got engaged early July, I asked the girls in August and we got married in June. I wanted them to have plenty of time to plan and help me with projects 🙂

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