Post # 1
I’m getting married on a Sunday of Memorial day weekend (May 25th, 2014). My FI’s are all flying in from across the country (Washington and Chicago) to California for our wedding. I’m also having several out of the country guests attending as well. Should STD’s be sent out even earlier as compared to a non-holiday travel weekend? I don’t want to send them out too early to look like I’m jumping the gun, but I’d also like to give family enough notice in case they have done prior vacations on holiday weekends.
Post # 3
@ylapis: I would say 11 months out. My thought is if you send out memorial day Save-The-Date Cards now, people will think they are for this year. I would also only send them to the people you know you will invite. If there is a chance you might not be close a year from now (co-workers or semi-close friends), wait until the invites go out.
Post # 4
WeWe’d were married just before July 4th and my husband’s family was flying out to California from Boston. We sent save the dates out in September 2011 for our July 2012 wedding. Everyone was able to find flights for a reasonable amount with that much notice.
Hopethat helps! Congratulations and happy planning.
Post # 5
we’re sending ours almost a year in advance. just to be sure. everyone will have to travel, no matter where we have the wedding. so we’re aiming for 10-12 months ahead.
Post # 6
I’m glad I wasn’t crazy! I told my Fiance that I wanted to do it 11 months out, and I felt that I sounded crazy for having it be so far out, considering I have friends who were getting married in 6 months, sending theirs out only 3 months out.
Post # 7
Etiquette Snob here… lol
A Holiday Weekend needs more advance notice than a regular Weekend for sure.
Now a WORD OF WARNING about Save-The-Date Cards
Don’t make the same mistake that so many Brides do…
It sucks to send out Save-The-Date Cards to a bunch of folks that you later realize you cannot afford to invite to your Wedding (due to space or budget limitations)
So if you are going to go the STD route, make sure you’ve done the important stuff first…
1- Chosen a Date
2- Determined a Budget
3- Made a Draft Guest List (so as to determine numbers)
4- Secured a Venue for said Date (big enough to accommodate your numbers)
5- And have figured out that you can afford that Venue with the numbers you have in mind
Hope this helps,
Post # 8
@This Time Round: How many months would you suggest?
Post # 9
TO @jg780806: the Post Institute’s rule of thumb is 6 months or more
Personally, I believe it should be longer if it is a Destination Wedding (other country) OR a Holiday Weekend event where either “saving up” or flights is going to be an issue.
I’d say at least a 9 month lead in those situations.
To me a year is too much lead-time.
And if you are wanting to go even father ahead than the 9 months… then perhaps an Engagement Announcement (vs a STD) is more suitable.
Hope this helps,
Post # 10
@This Time Round: Thanks for all the info! I’m happy to know that I’ve done everything you recommended 🙂 We have known our guest list for some time now (as soon as I go engaged I asked my mother and Future Mother-In-Law to create a tiered list of guests that they a)must invite b)would really like to invite c) could invite but don’t mind of they aren’t. We have a venue, and due to our F&B minimum already know the amount of ppl that we have to invite to cover it. All of those traveling from out of state are immediate family, so I’m not too concerened about having a change of heart later on. However, I’m sure we may send a second wave of STD’s to those that live in the area, but are not as high priority to avoid any regerets on who we invite (I feel like a b*tch saying that!).
Post # 11
TO @ylapis: sounds great… good to see a well organized Bride at the front of the planning curve.
OF NOTE… Even if you get Regrets back from your Save-The-Date Cards remember that it is correct Etiquette to still send folks an actual Invite…
(a) You’ve thought of them in your actual planning (they might appreciate the souvenir)
(b) They may have had a change of heart, made other arrangements to juggle their schedule, or won the lottery and now have the funds to travel.
It is the courteous thing to do
As Save-The-Date Cards are NOT Invites… they are just an Announcement – Notification – Heads Up
Hope this helps,
PS… I also have great tips on how to “appropriately” manage your A, B, and C Lists when the time comes… so reach out. You’ll need to know that info as you work on your Wedding Invites & Response Cards.
Post # 12
I think it would be fine to send them now, that way if people get together over memorial day weekend this month, they can make appropriate plans for next year.
Post # 13
As soon as you are positive that’s the date you want and you can get the Save-The-Date Cards made, send them. However, I wouldn’t send them more than one year in advance, only because it might make you look like a really over zealous bride. Guests will appreciate advanced notice, especially when it includes traveling over a holiday weekend. Places book up fast and can be more expensive unless get a jump on it…plus holidays can be challenging to get off from work. More time the better.