How far will you travel for a wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Just did a conversion to see what that was. Google tells me less than £150 I would probably pay it to attend a close friends wedding, maybe not for a casual aquaintance. The bigger problem for me is the flight time of 2 hours, plus the arriving at airport checking in etc. then the same on the way back, feels to me like a hassle for an overnight stay, and depending on when your wedding will start it might be a rush getting to Cape Town and glammed up before the start of the wedding. So its more time issues than money to my mind.

However great choice, we visited Cape Town earier this year and enjoyed it hugely.

Post # 3
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I would do it! I would probably take a day off work to make it less stressful if I could afford it, too.

Post # 5
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Biancareyneke:  I would definitely do that for a good friend (or maybe even an acquaintance because I love capetown).  

One thing that might help you decide- just casually talk to some of your (nonjudgmental, supportive) gfs abt it and see what they say.  I talked to a bunch of my friends before choosing our date & location- they were so so great, so I knew it wouldn’t be a problem for most and then we did lots to make it as cheap, easy, and comfortable for them as possible.

Post # 7
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Biancareyneke:  I wouldn’t want to do an overnight bus trip. I’d rather fly.

Post # 8
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would much prefer paying more to fly than to miss work and take a long bus ride. 

I’m having a wedding that is a bit inconvenient and expensive for guests to get to (out of town for most and it’s a busy holiday weekend). But my friends have reassured me that nothing is unreasonable and that I’m over thinking it. I’ve attended MANY out of the way, expensive, time consuming weddings, but they were all for people I care about and I wouldn’t have missed them for the world

Post # 9
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Biancareyneke:  I think that no matter how cheap you think it is or how great a deal or such a great holiday there will be others that will not. We had a DW and we paid for our guests to come and we still had guests not want to attend for various reasons. 

You can control the costs and make it as cheap as you can but you will still have to accept that some people may not come. As long as you are fine with that then plan the wedding how you want. 

As for your transport dilemma, I personally would prefer to fly than take an overnight bus trip. If I have to use 2 leave days to attend your wedding I would rather use them to relax at the resort after a short flight than use them on a long bus trip. I think you need to let the individual guests decide what they want to do. 

Post # 10
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Biancareyneke:  If I am doing the conversion right, yes, I would travel for to a weekend and make a weekend getaway out of it. That is normally what I spend to go anywhere else. 

Post # 11
11607 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d rather fly than take a very long bus ride.  Is it customary for you to make the full travel arrangements for your guests?  In the US, generally we tell guests where the wedding is and make a hotel block with discounted rates, but leave the travel plans up to them.  I wouldn’t want to feel stifled that I could only spend a day or so at a resort that I had to take time off from work to get to. I’d prefer to make it into a mini vacation and stay for a few days.

If you give people enough notice, they will come if they want to be there.  You’ll always have some people who just won’t come.  That’s life. Just plan the wedding you want, and the VIPs will find a way to get there!

Post # 12
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

the closer i am with the person, the farther and more money i would pay to attend their wedding.

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