(Closed) How far would you travel for a wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How far would you travel in the same day for a wedding?
    30 minutes or less : (4 votes)
    3 %
    30 minutes - 1 hour : (11 votes)
    9 %
    1 hour - 2 hours : (30 votes)
    26 %
    2 hours - 3 hours : (39 votes)
    33 %
    Other : (33 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Um, maybe it’s just me, but I would consider that local.  No matter what, some people (and it will suprise you who it turns out to be) will not bother to come to your wedding. It sucks, it’s ok that it changes how you think of certain relationships in your life, but there isn’t much you can do about it. It would happen if you had your wedding at their own house.

    That said, depending on who it was and my financial situation, I would totally travel much, much further than that. One of my childhood best friends got married with like 3 month notice in March. In Vegas. I’m in Afghanistan, which is literally a 12 hour time difference (and like 20+ hours flying each way). She basically chose the furthest place on Earth away from me, and I showed up because she’s my best friend and I could. Many of her other friends from “home” (Michigan) and close family members, however did not.

    Have your wedding where you want to have it! And good luck planning!

    Post # 4
    8359 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Thats a pretty normal amount of travel time where I am from!

    I would definately travel that far for any wedding I was invited to and would probably stretch it to 2hrs.

    Anything over 2 hrs and we would have to be more than acquaintances.

    Interstate or overseas it would either have to be a close friend or family member or   a location I was dying to visit and could use the wedding as an excuse to spend the money to visit.

    Post # 5
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Sounds pretty much local to me!! Depends on people’s personal experiences though – I grew up in the middle of nowhere, so was on a bus for nearly that long just to get to school, and getting to a town big enough to go shopping? Not within an hour’s drive!

    If I would have to drive more than about 2-3 hours in a day, it would probably need to be someone I know well, family or, as another poster said, somewhere I would want to visit and hang out for a weekend away. I think as long as you give them info on accommodation, it should be fine 🙂

    Post # 6
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    i travelled 15h to a friend’s wedding back in may. 1.5h seems local.

    Post # 7
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I was on the road for 36 hours each way for my friend’s wedding in April (planes, trains and automobiles with a boat or two thrown in for good mix).  I would do that trip again in a heartbeat to be at her wedding.

    Post # 8
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t think that is too far AT ALL.

    I wouldn’t cross a hotel block off the list yet though… My hotel block doesn’t come at any cost to me (as long as my guests reserve a minimum number of rooms, in my case, 10). Talk to close friends and family about their preferences. If the wedding was that far away, would they prefer to stay the night at a hotel near the wedding, or save money and just drive home the same night. If it seems like there is enough interest in getting hotel rooms, you could probably get a hotel block at little or no cost to yourself. In any event, I think it is still worth looking into…

    Post # 9
    12877 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    90 minutes is not that far.  But really, if it was someone close to me, I’d travel quite a substantial distance for it.  90 minutes is nothing!

    Post # 10
    6326 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would definitely travel 1-2 hours, and at a push 3-4 hours if there was nowhere to stay; if there was accommodation nearby I’d probably travel more than that, and just stay the night before and the night of the wedding, though only if it was a close friend and I could afford the accommodation.

    Our guests are travelling a minimum of 40 minutes, with a handful travelling 2-4 hours. Though, mopst of our guests will be staying overnight.

    Post # 11
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    If it was someone’s wedding I wanted to be at, I’d travel as far as I had to.

    Post # 12
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MsAmandaAnn:  agree. If I want to go to the wedding, then the only thing that will stop me is the cost to get there.

    Post # 13
    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Ya I drive an hour for work everyday, that’s not far. I’ve driven 9 or so hours for a wedding before?

    I don’t think you need to feel bad about not paying for hotels either, that’s not a common responsibility of the bride and groom. If I’m going to a wedding and don’t want to drive home from it I get myself a hotel room.

    Post # 14
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    we just traveled that in a day for a babyshower :D… so for a wedding it wouldn’t b e that big of a deal.

    Post # 15
    557 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    That’s not too far at all. I think of Brentwood as part of the bay area/east bay.

    Post # 16
    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @MissThespian:  i am not familiar with the area but its not too far.  if you aniticipate people complaining about distance, maybe prepare yourself for people leaving early.

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