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I think that if the custom dress is affordable, then its a great option. Its actually the route we went for my mom because its aweful to try to imagine dresses that you cant get the sample on your body right. Otherwise, try to find a wide range of designers, your sister will need a dress that has a few layers of good material so that it lays right and doesn't seem clingy. I've had the best experiences with Watters and Bill Levkoff dresses over some of the other brands. Also, look into dresses with some rouching in the front, my maids are loving how a-symmetrical bunching totally hides some of our favorite flaw areas.
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Good idea!
I remember crying many a times in high school in the dressing rooms because I wasn't willowy and skinny like the other girls but was sporting some curves.
You sound like a crazy generous sister! She's lucky =]. WHo knows, maybe she'll wear it to prom!
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Yes, layers are perfect for her. Draping and layers look best.
It's so hard, I have no clue what shape or anything to look for.
Ooh good idea!!!!!! I'll tell her this.
Yes, she has huge issues with clothing ... it's hard for her b/c what all the other teenagers are wearing isn't right for her.
It's so eye-opening to see it because I've always been super skinny. People actually used to make fun of me for it, and I thought I would never have a curve in my life. Now that I'm older, obviously you get curves as you age. It's so hard for me to see her eyes and her face and she cannot even try on dresses b/c the samples don't fit.
On the good side, I know it's mostly genetics- she got my dads genes completely b/c he's bigger, but I'm starting a bootcamp with her. Hopefully it will give her more self esteem and help her out a little bit.
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I think you should tread carefully here, because she might feel a little offended if you are telling her she doesn't look good in the dresses she's tried on. It's one thing to be like, this dress makes me look big, but it's another thing to have someone else say, yeah, you're right it totally does. Better to tell her she looks fine in the dress. After all, her feeling confident in the dress is going to look the best.
My three bridesmaids range in size from 0 to 10 to 20. We found each of them a Vera Wang bridesmaid dress (all different) that suit each of them perfectly and will make each of them look fantastic. The 10 was the hardest though to find because she expected that all the samples would fit her and couldn't visualize the dress in her actual size. The dress she chose accented her waist and then flowed simply straight down. The larger dress had an empire waist. Each girl picked out a chiffon dress. The bridesmaid dresses were cheaper than the JCrew or Ann Taylor dresses. It was really a matter of trial and error.
yesh. curves are in right now, so its nothing to be embarrassed about...think beyonce. shout out to the curvy girls!! Im a curvacious women, as our most of my friends, and I was able to find all of them BM dresses in a salon. I wore a trumpet gown...no need to hide the curves in anything frumpy. Have her try on a-line dresses and to stay away from anything bias cut.
I'm confussed. You say that you don't want a "bridal" bridesmaid dress but then you go to the bridal salons/boutiques to find a bridesmaid dress. why not just try Macys or Bloomies and Nordstroms. they have tons of choices in all sizes so they will all zip up and she won't feel bad about herself. And she doesn't have to visualize how it will look because she'll be seeing it as is.
A- line, ok! No bias cut, check. Yes, curves are in. She actually isn't embarrassed and in my opinion, I don't even think she thinks she's different, in terms of size, than any other girl around, but maybe that's because she's so young?
My family does shelter her and build her up though, but I don't think she feels bad.
She made a comment when we walked in the 2nd bridal salon to the consultant, and the woman replied "You're so gorgeous" and told her how beautiful she is, so I was really thankful for that... she was smiling so big after that.
Just so we're clear, a size 10 does not make her a "big" girl.
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Meowkers, this was our very first time looking at dresses. I left this up to her, and honestly, I didn't know what to expect because it was my first time ever doing this. The bridal ateliers here have gorgeous evening wear, and my wedding is black tie, so it has to be really formal.
Like I said, it was our first day, so when we do go again, we'll go to dept. stores
I second that @bluedec! and curvy doesnt equal overweight.
Wow, you took it to another level. Bluedec, I never even said one thing about her being big.
You're the first to say that. She doesn't even think she's different than any other girl, and I don't think she's big, which is why I was surprised how hard it is for someone curvy to find an even dress in the bridal salons- the samples did not fit her at all.
Yeah I agree with MsHYmanRoth, Blubec - she hasn't said she was a big girl or anything, just the fact its hard to find a dress for her sis who has some curves. Maybe she fits into bigger sizes because she is busty, or had wide hips?
I hope you can figure something out MsHymanRoth, I think its cool your going to do something non-bridesmaidy, I wish I did that. I regret my dresses!
It's because she's 16 and most of the girls at her high school are probably flat chested and really skinny. Once i got to college I realized how MUCH everyone envied a curve or two and how most of the men preferred their women not really skinny I basically got over it, so your sis will be cool in a few years. Not offense to skinny women, it's just that I have big boobs and I can't help but notice they get me lots of attention now that i'm a "woman" i guess. When I was 16, 17 it got me the wrong kind of attention and made me really really self conscious. Your sis is probably the same way.
She's growing up in a good time for this at least. I grew up in Southern California and I'm now 23. I used to wear multiple sports bras to flatten myself out. I was a C cup at 13 years old. I felt super freaky and your sis may not be comfortable displaying herself (what kind of clothes does she normally wear?), but she'll want to wear something a little trendy, too, since she's 16. It's just a really awkward age. I mean, really, how many drsses look good on the models and then we go "oh holy crap not on me!" but you're so impressionable at 16 and it's just something that defeats you.
A trumpet would be really cute. A sweetheart is flattering also, and so is ruching or any assymetry where the eyes are drawn across the body diagonally. It's really slimming if she's concerned about her midsection. anything with a lace up back would accentuate her curves. Depends on if you do or don't. You can add cap style sleeves too. I NEVER wore strapless stuff in my teens. I felt so naked! Or halter styles. I dunno i see a lot of strapless nowadays on younger girls.
I just was thinking, I'm soo happy that I don't have to do the dreadful bridesmaid look. It really isn't appealing to me. I think she's so thankful that I am letting her pick out whatever she wants.
I only told her that it has to be long.
My dad wears big and tall sizes, so I know that my little sister is not big, nor would I call her big even if she was, which she's not.
She is a 36C and she just turned 16. When I say curvy, her body is all curves.
I took forever just to get boobs! I thought I'd never get them, and everyone teased me b/c I was skinny. I always envied the girls who developed fast in h.s.!!!!
At the boutique that does the custom dresses, she fell in love with a drapey dress with a neckline that was strapless but sweetheart ...
I asked her what her favorite body part is, so we can go from there ... she said her boobs. Omg, I cant let my little sister show cleavage. 
lol
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I second JessinNY's suggestion - RUCHING!
I'm a curvy bride & I tried on a zillion gowns - the ones I felt were most flattering to my curves were the ones with ruching. From what I've seen in my BM dress shopping, ruching is very popular right now. Of course, you'll want to stay away from shiny/clingy fabrics too.
I know how frustrating it is to try on sample dresses when you're curvy. I'm around a size 10-12, with a 36DD bust. Vera, Oscar, Priscilla and all the rest make their samples for a B-cup! So not easy to tell what you're getting into when only half of you fits in the dress. My "BestWoman" (MOH) is a size 16-18, and we had a very frustrating time trying to find dresses. We're still looking.
Custom is a great way to go if it's in your budget and she can (and should) totally wear it to prom!
Good luck & keep us posted!
M.
She can show them off tastefully LoL. nothing plunging, but they're obvouisly there and if a dress doesn't fit the boobies right you just look fat around your top and weird. a sweetheart is nice. and accentuates them without being all va va voom elizabethean era.
I think we all got teased, LoL.
Your sister sounds like she'd look good in a mermaid style. Being a 10 and a C cup, she's probably got similiar circumference around her chest as she is her hips. Maybe 35" boob to 40" hip or so, so a mermaid might be a really really good choice. I think they look best on women who are balanced. IE not too top heavy or not too bottom heavy. I'm really top heavy and a mermaid just was all kinds of boobalicious on me. They're very trendy now, and accentuates her curves nicely without being inappropriate. You can't hide that they're there, after all. A crumbcatcher top is not as revealing as a sweetheart, but is still very chic and GORGEOUS. Very "in" too so she'd probably like that.
I love your ideas! This is exactly what I needed. I'm the worst at this. I know nothing. Lol.
Ok, so I'm excited you told me all this, EJS you're a life saver. She'll appreciate that I "know" all this info and suddenly am schooled in what is best for her ... lol.
We walked in, really having no clue what the hell is going on, now I know exactly what to ask for. Crumb- catcher, mermaid, ruching. Lol.
She will be so excited I know these things.
Speaking as a curvy girl, it can definitely be difficult to find clothes that fit! And I remember none of the juniors styles fitting correctly when I was in high school. It did suck.
I think maybe it was just the fact that you mentioned her clothing size that made bluedec think you were talking about her weight. Please tread softly here on the boards when discussing these kinds of issues. We ladies are sensitive!
There's so much pressure put on women to be a particular size or weight, but everyone has their own particular shape and build. It sounds like you know this, but I think it was the way you said it that rubbed her the wrong way.
If a mention of a clothing size would rub somebody the wrong way, maybe they shouldn't comment on this post? She is curvy and is a size 10 ... what is wrong with that? Nothing. I am not even going to argue this. It's absurd. I am getting really useful info, which is what I need and am asking. THank you.
If she doesn't want something super-dressy, I would suggest something that is more of a wrap with ruching as well. Shopping for wedding dresses, I have to say my curves have been a blessing. I am a size 16ish, with a 36H bust. The fitting bodice that is in for so many dresses is so well suited for curves. Long story short, I know that the most flattering for me are more of a wrap dress with the ruching with on the side - but she won't need the ruching as much as I might, because she probably doesn't have much of a belly to de-emphasize. My opinion is to avoid an empire waist at all costs- at least for me, it doesn't come back in enough so I like about 6+ months pregnant. Best of luck to you!!
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MsHymanRoth I think you are doing the right thing already, thinking about your sister's feelings. I'm a curvy girl too, and I know how hard it was in high school to already have a woman's body -- when i ordered a bridesmaids dress for a friend's wedding they told me my chest was a size 12, my waist a size 10 and my hips a size 18! it sounds like a custom dress is a wonderful option for your sister -- and if she liked the strapless sweetheart top i'd just make sure the bodice has enough support and fits her perfectly. sometimes strapless styles look great when you're standing, but then droop and show too much boob when you sit down. i know for me, the most flattering styles are a fitted bodice with some structure and support and a skirt that flares out at or around my hips. ruching over a well-fitted bodice is also a great idea. good for you for helping your sister be proud of her curves -- it just takes some time i think, to learn what works and flatters your body.
first off maybe warn her about the wedding industry and how they shrink sizes. everyone orders up a size or two! and it hurts everyone's feelings. now i know there are some strong opinions about this, but have you tried David's Bridal? They have a variety of styles in all shapes and sizes. even if you don't ultimately go for one of their dresses, it may help you figure out what styles best suit your sis. DB also does a lot of prom business so if the goal is to re-wear, you might just find something great.
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So I have to find my Maid Of Honor a dress, she's my sister and in Highschool, and is curvy - a size 10. Today was the first day I went shopping for the dress, it is near impossible. I feel so sad for her, and I feel like it's such a fragile thing to do with a teen girl. Most of the dresses in the bridal boutiques wouldn't zip up all the way, and it's hard to find something for her body.
I think I'm resorting to having a dress custom made for her myself. We went to a few bridal salons and the last boutique is this amazing designer who will design a dress and make it just for her. I think this will be so good for her.
Since she's the only girl standing with me, I want her to have a gorgeous dress that she feel beautiful in and that fits her perfectly. I don't like the "bridal" bridesmaid look, we're going for something that is stunning, and non-bridesmaidey. So I think that she could have the dress and wear it to other events if she wants.