(Closed) how hard is it to send a stamped envelope back

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@jen 42713:  it is super annoying.  I sent out 23 invites and only got 14 back.  I even had 3 options since I needed to pay different venues for different headcounts.  People are not as courteous as they used to be.

Post # 5
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ya it sucks… BECAUSE it makes things soooo much harder to keep track of / record etc.

When people would tell me in person… (or by phone, whatever) I’d just say…

“Sorry my mind isn’t on that right now (OR – sorry you caught me just on my way out the door) … would you be so kind to reply as per the Invite”

Most then did.

Hope this helps,


Post # 6
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@This Time Round:  Great idea. I probably wouldn’t think to say that on the spot, but I will now! Thanks!

Post # 7
21 posts
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s extremely hard!  Even harder seems to be answering the bride’s repeated email/text/phone requests to answer.  I just had someone tell me they haven’t responded because they “have a lot going on”.  Really!??! I’m  going to have nine people staying at my house in two weeks, multiple relatives coming in from around the country, multiple vendors to deal with and YOU have a lot going on??

It seems most people have no idea what goes into planning a wedding and just want to show up for a casual dinner/drink.

Post # 9
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I’ve just been saying “Oh could you please just pop it in the mail anyway? It brightens my day every time I open the mailbox to see one of those envelopes!” but then again I haven’t had anyone try to *decline* over the phone or in person yet, just those who want to RSVP “yes”.

Post # 10
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I seriously don’t understand how hard it is to mark Yes or No and your food choice and drop it off at a mailbox. People are just too fuckin self-absorbed.

Post # 12
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think you Bees need to go easy on people. Everyone is busy, everyone gets caught up in their daily lives, and not everyone is going to remember to send you back your RSVP cards. Just because your wedding is the first thing on your mind, doesn’t mean it is for everyone else. A lot of the time people open up your invitation, put it with the rest of their mail, and even though they have full intentions of RSVP-ing it just slips their mind! 

You should just expect to have to make a number of phone calls when your RSVP deadline approaches. Allow yourself some time to do it and look at it as an opportunity to say hi to your friends and family! (since no one ever talks on the phone anymore!)

Post # 14
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@jen 42713:  I had the same problem, but wait until after the 23rd, you’ll probably get alot in the next week or so. (I got like 20 in the few days around my rsvp by date) Keep a good list of all the guests, if they’re coming, and what dinner they wanted. It’s a pain, but totally normal to have a lack of mail response. Give it another week or two then start calling & facebooking : /

Post # 16
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it is very rude to not respond with the cards by the appropriate date. Invitations are usually quite costly, being invited to the wedding should be  considered a gift at the least, and people should be courteous enough to respond by the asked date.

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