I would love to be able to throw caution to the wind, and not track what my body’s doing – opks, cm, etc…But, I cannot.
So, while we still have a very active sex life, it is much more *sexy* or *hot* when we are not “babydancing.” DH actually banned “babydancing” from our vocabulary. So we just try to be as into it as possible, even though – myself included – we’re both aware that this is almost a business transaction:) And I think the way we deal with that, is how we deal with everything – we just laugh about it:) He’s my buddy, and he cracks me up, and we kind of just laugh our way through the process. I don’t think I could handle putting that pressure on myself, feeling like it had to be *superhot* sex when it’s my fertile time…So we took the pressure off by kind of joking our way through that period.
I wish I had more advice! My DH actually doesn’t care for lingerie, so I always find it a waste of money because I only get to wear it for 4 seconds! Sometimes I’ve actually told him I was keeping it on just to get my money’s worth out of it! So I don’t have anything there…I think my main advice would be to not put the pressure on you to make it just as hot as “non-bd” sex…The rest of the month – go for it! No pressure!
I will say that as a *birthday gift to ME* (yeah right) DH bought a Liberator. That thing’s pretty cool. But we only use it when we jam:) That’s what we call sex – lol. Not when we BD.
I take that back – the small triangle part of the Liberator, looks like a little ramp – DH puts that under my butt when we’re done so my hips and butt stay propped up:) I don’t think that’s what the Liberator people meant it to be used for!
On Wed. morning before my DH left for work offshore, I knew we had X amt of time to get ready, BD, and get him to the airport. So when I caught him in our backyard casually using some Roundup on the weeds around the pool, I scolded him that we were on a time frame, and he had more important things to do! So I told him to quit squirting weeds and get upstairs:) So I went upstairs, put the preseed in (sorry tmi) and layed in the bed – then he wandered in a few mins later. He brushed his teeth (very sweet of him), and then I felt guilty because I hadn’t brushed mine, but I couldn’t get up or all the Preseed would leak out of me! I told him this, and he just laughed and said, “I can tell what time of the month it is – I can’t even get a Courtesy Brush before we jam!” I thought that was funny:) So true!
Sorry for the novel…I just really thought about your question…You are not alone MapleBecky! Babydancing *gets* us all:)
ETA: Here is the link to the liberator..I’m posting it from the CVS website, because the direct link to the liberator’s home page had a lot of nakedness on it, so here is a vanilla link to it:)