(Closed) How have other brides gotten over their wedding regrets?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I wish I could help you feel better,but I could use a hug or two myself. We just got all 725 proofs from my daughter’s wedding, and I am SO disappointed. Thank goodness so many other people took photographs, because in many cases they were much better than the Pro’s.

My other daughter had a photographer do hers in ‘photojournalistic style’ and while I wasn’t a fan of so many angled shots and how dark many of them were, he did an overall better job. This one gave no direction at all, and I’m sure many pictures would have been much better if he did. I also think there should have been a second shooter, as he wasn’t able to capture many of the special moments as he just wasn’t it the right spot to get them. He was unobtrusive, but that didn’t make for many great photos either. 🙁 

I think your plan sounds great,and I hope you get what you were missing. I’m sad about no ‘do overs’ too!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Not a lunatic at all! lol I’d do the exact same thing…….:)

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

I’m just afraid I’ll be breaking my daughter’s heart when I tell her how really upset I am about all this, as I was the one who found the photographer for them. We loved his portfolio, and they really liked him when they met, but he didn’t live up to expectations, unfortunately. He took a bazillion UNflattering pictures! All he needed to do was say things like ‘Look this way,look up’ or something! GRRRRRRRRRRR……..

How are your photos? Other than missing out on the ones you mentioned, do you have great ones in the rest?

What dress did you end up picking?

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Time I guess. It’s only been a couple weeks.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Can I ask what you liked about your wedding?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Have you talked to your wedding coordinator? It really seems like she was the main huge low-light. 

The thing about the bridesmaid is a bit frustrating but maybe it will turn out with a happy ending since now you know how much you mean to each other?

I’m making my own wedding book with pictures and our programs and wedding items with little fun notes about what went into the planning and how we decided, something really personal that emphasizes all the good in the wedding (and leaving out the stress of wedding planning and little tiffs that happened right before).  I feel like the bad is more for story time with close friends over a glass of wine.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

UGH, I would be livid.  Who is this person?  Had she done weddings before?  Was she having some life crisis?  Did any of your bridesmaids or parents or anyone you think save anything?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

At the end of the daym you are MARRIED and that’s what is most important to focus on right now!  You can’t go back and change things, so why not find the good things, and try to focus on the positive… and the most important reason for the day was accomplished, so I see it as a success!!! Try to stay positive and think of the good things that came out of your day instead of focussing on the negative 🙂  I know I can only speak from personality, as my wedding has not yet passed, but I also know I don’t tend to dwell on these kinds of things (almost to the point of driving my mom crazy) because it is just one day that begins the rest of your life, and in reality, your life will never be perfect, so why should that day go without being absolutely perfect as well!!!  People are just people, and things will go wrong 🙂 just find a way to enjoy and laugh at it 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think a lot of it has to do with perspective.  Which is more important, having the pretty princess day, or being married to the one you love?  In our case:

  • The hair and make-up person got stuck in traffic and arrived about a half hour late, which meant the wedding ended up being a half hour late, too.
  • We forgot to bring the pictures of how we wanted our hair done to show her.
  • We had planned to have our veils over our faces during the processional, but forgot.
  • We had gotten a bunch of digital voice recorders to pick up the sound, but they never got turned on.
  • The rabbi mixed up the two rings, so NotFroofy ended up putting the wrong ring on my finger, and I had to switch them before putting the ring on her finger.
  • The pen for the ketubah disappeared, and we had to ask right in the middle of the ceremony if one of our guests had an acid-free pen.
  • Neither of us could fit our Hebrew signature into the space provided, so we ended up with both signatures broken up over more than one line.
  • NotFroofy’s veil got knocked off, twice.
  • When we went to break the glass at the end, it wouldn’t break–NotFroofy and I were doing everything up to and including standing on it for several minutes before NotFroofy finally managed to break it.
  • My sister and my son got into a whipped cream fight at the luncheon following the ceremony. (No, neither of them had been drinking!)
  • The Legal Sea Foods accidentally served a much more expensive champagne than we had agreed to.
  • Two champagne glasses got broken.

However, after being together for nearly nine years (during most of which time we couldn’t legally get married anywhere), we were so thrilled to be married that nothing else mattered.

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