Post # 1
I work in a public elementary school in Korea, where the ONLY acceptable gift for someone getting married is money.
Usually, you always give someone you know money (around $30-50 for an acquaintance or co-worker, more for a close friend or family member) but I didn’t really think expect it to happen to me. I’m not Korean, I’m out-group, and in a very confucian society, I mean… I get along well with everyone and they’re nice to me but I never thought they’d do something like that!
The co-workers in my office gave me an envelope with a sweet note and money inside, and I like… got misty eyed for a minute. I just feel really, I dunno, unexpedly accepted or something. They didn’t have to do it, I didn’t expect it at all, and it just came out of the blue on the last day of the semester today.
Has anyone given you a happy surprise during your engagement?
Post # 3
@Bebealways: How gorgeous! I’m very newly engaged and for me, the love and excitement everyone has shown since we announced our engagement has been incredibly overwhelming and so amazing. I already knew I had beautiful friends and family but to see their genuine excitement and happiness for us just makes this very special time all the more wonderful! It has been the most amazing time of my life 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with the love and excitement. My sister gave me the cutest gift of things to help me plan and organize for the wedding, a couple friends bought me ring holders (cute!) and made us cakes. It was so honoring and exciting to be on the receiving end of so much love and support from friends and family. It made it one of the best times of my life, for sure. You can’t help but look back and smile. :):):)
Post # 5
I think the cutest thing we received was a card from our mail carrier! She delivered the ring and was asking what it was when there were a few hundred dollars in taxes on it. When I told her she was all excited about delivering a ring. She’s an older women and completely adorable.
Two days later we recevied a card in the mail “To the young engaged couple” it had three paragraphs wishing us well for our future and how amazing it was for her to be a part of delivering the ring. She also included two lottery tickets (Which we won almost 300$ on haha) I got so teary eyed reading the card, it was the sweetest thing ever.
Post # 6
I think I got the shock of my life when we told my father about our engagement, and he wanted to throw us a party! That’s not how he reacted with my sisters, but then again, my middle sister eloped her first marriage as did my oldest sister with her husband.
As with our pre-wedding barbecue, I had to be talked into it by both my father and FI.
We were surprised again; my FI said none of his family would come, but they all did, even from far away. Then my father agreed to hold it in the town where FI’s mother lived so she could attend (didn’t like to travel). That ended up meaning so much as she passed away the following spring (we got engaged in April 2011).
Post # 7
For me it’s just the amount of love that we have received from people since getting engaged. I knew people would be happy for us but I guess I didn’t expect them to be as happy as they are… so many people have surprised me with tears and nice words and it feels really good! We have both been married before so I guess I just assumed that it wouldn’t be that much of a big deal this time, but we really have been treated like its our first times.
Post # 8
My middle sister (I’m the oldest of 3 girls) was super excited and hugged me. I can’t remember the last time we hugged, but it’s been at least a decade. She even hugged FI (which she’s never done) and said “I’ve always wanted a brother!” She’s really abrasive and rude, so her excitement surprised me. She also wants to plan an engagement party for us. I was like “who is this person and what have they done with my sister??” It’s certainly nice though!
Post # 9
@iiiEllie: ohmygoodness, what a sweetheart! that is really wonderful for her to have done 🙂
Post # 10
When I was engaged, I was so nervous that no one would pitch in with any help for the wedding. My only bridesmaids were my teenage sisters and I have no close female friends. Well let me tell you…people came out of the woodwork to help us! Friends of my mom, friends from school, friends of my younger sisters, friends of DH’s family, his cousins…it was incredible! I had 5 showers thrown for me, so much help on the wedding day…it really brought me closer to a lot of people in my life. So thankful.
Post # 11
My FI picked up a part time job this past spring and was immediately adopted by two of the older ladies as their “work son.” They have been SUPER excited about our wedding, and they apparently went a-Googlin’ and found our registry. No idea if they’re planning on purchasing anything, but I wouldn’t be surprised.
Post # 12
@Bebealways: That’s so wonderful and kind of them!
I have been so shocked with the generosity of our families! I did not expect anything at all – no financial help because we have been together for 7 years and own our own home and decided that we would only get married if we could afford to on our own.
But my mother offered to pay for the ceremony, my grandmother insisted I have two dresses and is paying for them both, my grandfather is paying for our transportation, and my FI’s mom blew us away by sending us $1500 for our honeymoon and his dad sneakily left an envelope with $1000 in our house after his most recent trip to visit (they live in another province) to pay for the rehearsal dinner! Every time we were told “don’t worry, we got this” I started crying.
Now this may seem normal to other people, but our families are not well off. They are working class and scrimped and saved to be able to offer us this money and it just means so much that they are able to do this! it is just so emotional for us. I just love these people!
Post # 13
I’m going to bump this thread, because I appreciate these little glimpses of gratitude and positivity on the boards.
I’ve been pleasantly shocked by two things. The first is the fact that no one has said any of the various judgemental or negative things that I read about on this forum, coming from either the bees themselves or from other people in their lived. No one has given me the side-eye when I’ve told them about my moissanite, about our 2+ year engagement, about our Friday wedding, or anything else that people love to complain about. Even though I prefer to share very little about our wedding plans, I’ve been really appreciative of the support and positivity that I’ve gotten in response.
The second is that we expected to pay for our whole wedding by ourselves, and out of the blue my mom, my grandparents (all the way in Ukraine still), and my FMIL have decided to surprise us with very generous contributions to the wedding fund. We now have our entire wedding budget in our joint savings account, and we still have 10 months left to go. It feels great to have that stress lifted off my shoulders.
Post # 14
Aw, I love this thread!
When FI (at the time SO) and I told his parents and siblings we would be getting engaged in the next few months, they burst into applause! It was SOOOO cute!! I felt so incredibly loved and accepted.
I also live very far from my best friends, but they all sent cute packages/gifts for our engagement, which was a total surprise.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Aw I love all these stories!
We’ve been together for a loooong time (10+ years – by mutual decision, I wasnt “waiting”). I wasn’t sure if people would be like “No big deal, about time *eyeroll*” or not. Everyone is suuuuper psyched and keep going off about how their favorite couple ever are finally getting married. Which is awesome except that they ALL keep rsvping! Oh well, the more the merrier.
Post # 16
@Bebealways: That is awesome ! I am also at a public elementary school here in Korea , but by the time my wedding comes around , I won’t be at my school anymore.I do suspect that my Korean friends are going to do something like this though!
I have been surprised by how many people are willing to travel all the way to South Africa for our wedding.Friends and family are spending well over 2000 dollars for the tickets,and most of them wil be there for five days or so.That is amazing to me ,that people are willing to go through so much effort,and financial strain,just to see us tie the knot!