How helpful/supportive was your SO after the birth?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How helpful/supportive was your SO after the birth?
    very helpful/supportive : (14 votes)
    88 %
    somewhat helpful/supportive : (2 votes)
    13 %
    very little help/support : (0 votes)
    wasn't helpful/supportive at all : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    Member
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    He was incredible. Not just with helping out with baby but taking care of me, too. I was surprised how focused he was on my physical and mental health afterwards. I knew he would be great with helping with baby but I didn’t expect him to be as in tune with focusing on me, since a lot of times I think people tend to overlook the mom once baby arrives. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    3721 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He’s been awesome. My DD is almost 9 weeks old and he’s been a rock star. He takes care of her but most importantly, he takes care of me. He made sure I had everything I needed to heal after the actual birth (pads, tucks pads, breat pads, etc). He made sure I had time to shower when I wanted to. He made sure I got as much sleep as I could – helping with feedings and diaper changes. So yep. He’s been amazing!

    Post # 4
    Member
    483 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    MrsWBS:  Glasgowbound:  aaawww that is lovely to hear. You both are very fortunate! I hope (and secretly believe) my husband will be amazing since I’ve been pregnant he’s been surprisingly sensitive and helpful and loving. I’m tearing up thinking about it! 

    Post # 5
    Member
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    bluesparkles:  DH was extremely supportive. He realized I wasn’t taking care of myself and would literally force me to go take a bath or a nap. My first few days were rather rough, and he was there for me. And any man that can come into the bathroom and console you when you’re crying and frustrated with PP issues is a man among men, just sayin’.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1024 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    My DH wasn’t very supportive, but his level of support was above what I was anticipating, so I was very happy. It was understood going in to having children that I would be the primary caregiver. DH works very long hours and owns his own business, so it just wasn’t feasible for him to help out as much as some husbands. For example DH drove us home from the hospital and then went to work for the day. DS and I slept in the guest bedroom and I did all night feedings and wakings so DH could get a full night sleep. I do every single diaper change. 

    I think having prior discussions regarding expectations is the key to not feeling resentment towards my husband. Now that my son is a little older, it’s actually fun for my husband to “help out” when he’s home (i.e. play, especially with Mega Blocks). He also tidies up the kitchen and family room while I’m putting DS to bed. These little things make it all worth it!

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