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I click away from threads like that. If I say I like your dress/invites/photos, I am telling the truth. The only time I'll openly say something's not to my taste is if the person asked, and even then I'll only really do it if I feel it's helpful and I can offer a suggestion (maybe a changed neckline, or they haven't bought the dress yet, whatever)
Same as tee22. If it's a thread where say... they've given you two choices but I hate both? I won't bother commenting.
Otherwise, I am pretty honest with my feelings, both here and in person.
I had a post like this not too long ago. Most people just don’t comment at all. There are many extremely sensitive bee's on here.
I voted that I'm "honest enough." I will tell someone I don't like whatever they've picked/chosen if they really seem to want honest opinions and there is still time to change their decision, but other than that if I don't like something or disagree I don't like, I just don't respond at all. I feel like in general people don't want to hear negativity, and ESPECIALLY on "emotional" posts if you try to disagree with the OP at all it usually turns into "OMG you're all so mean I was just venting."
So I just just don't answer if I disagree.
Yep, same as the others. If I really don't like something, I don't comment at all. My tastes are not the same as everyone and vice versa. I feel really strongly about the saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". especially when it's about a wedding dress someone loves that may just not be my taste. Why ruin it for them, if they love it?
Although, sometimes if there is something I'm not fussy about, but a feature I really do like, I will comment on how I like that feature!
I just don't comment if I think something is stupid, ugly, tacky or horrible, unless the bee is asking for advice and then I'll usually offer a way to improve something (unless the only good option is "burn it").
Personally I don't like posts that only say "What do you think of my ____?" because it sounds like they're asking for opinions but no one wants to hear "It's ugly". If it were worded "I love my ___, just sharing!" then that's cool they're not looking for opinions or if it says "How can I improve my ____?" then they're looking for advice on how to make something better.
I will rarely will post that I don't like something. I also usually will just move on.
Lol @ (unless the only good option is "burn it").
I am honest, if I feel like my aswer might be too brutal I will click away.
If I come across something that I dislike that no one else has posted on, I'll move on to another post. If some other people have expressed dislike it something then usually I'll speak up and say what I think, though in a nice way I think :)
I see no reason to lie to strangers on a website, so I am honest but like others, if it is a thread that I don't care for then I just move on without posting.
Same as most -- if it's a "which dress, I can't decide" I'll give an honest opinion (ie, the waist on #1 is very flattering" but never "Ugh, wtf are you thinking?" And if it's "this is the dress I purchased" then no, I'm not going to put down anyone's choice. I try to be as honest and forthright as possible without insulting anyone (hopefully!)
Yeah, I just don't respond if my opinion would be considered "rude" or if I dislike something/ thing its ugly.
Anytime I do respond, that is my honest opinion - I might not let my word vomit splatter out, but my response is accurate to how I truly feel about the posed question.
If it's a dress poll where I find one choice gorgeous and the other hideous, I am more forthcoming than usual with my feedback. If they've already bought the dress, I'll only comment on the thread if I really love the dress or if it's a poster I like.
On more personal things, I disagree with a lot of posts but mostly keep my mouth shut. No reason to get in heated debates over the internet with someone I don't know, especially if it doesn't sound like they're looking for help or advice.
if it's a poll, i vote honestly. if it's something that's material that just isn't my taste or style, i usually just click away. like, i don't tend to like sparkly bling on dresses, but that's obvi just my opinion and not relevant to an op who loves bling ;) on advice/emotional posts, i'm honest, but i also tend to couch my response in "this is my opinion only" or "what i would do" kind of language so it's clear i'm not just like, shooting them down
If I see something I don't like, I don't comment, UNLESS they hint that they don't like it either and just want to get some honest feedback, in which case I feel like I'm helping. I'm never going to tell a bride flat out that I don't like her dress or her centerpieces or whatever. I tend to stay away from emotional posts where the OP is clearly exhibiting signs of being unable to accept criticism or differing opinions (very often characterized by lots of caps, bolding, and excessive punctuation; these signal me to back away slowly) because it's a waste of time. I just usually read through the thread and LOL in my head at what other people say.
BUT, if I comment on a post saying I love something or really like your dress or whatever, then I really mean it. I don't just go around blowing hot air; if I say I like it, it's because I genuinely liked it enough to comment and say I did.
Honest enough... If I love something, I definitely say that, but if I dont, and if someone is just asking a general opinion, or asking opinion on two different options, I'll be honest. On opinions of already made decisions, if I dont like it, I just dont comment, I'm not going to lie and say I love something if really I dont.
I also voted for honest enough. I see a lot of Bees post looking for reassurance on things they have already decided on (rather than seeking honest feedback) so I feel like it could be sort of counterproductive for me to add I think something should be changed or they should have chosen their other option. I'm always honest in polls, though, and when people are trying to pick between things they truly are undecided on and have not yet bought.
@CorgiTales: I also agree about the "venting" posts...I sometimes read them, but I rarely comment. It usually seems like the OP is looking for unwavering support, so if I disagree, I usually just cick away.
I won't go out of my way to be hurtful. I see tons of dresses on here that i'm like ***WTF*** but its their taste and I just click off.
If they are asking for fashion advice and there is a choice that I'm leaning toward, sure I'll be honest.
Emotional threads, depending on the topic, I try to balance compassion with to the point realness, BUT I have little patience and tolerance for out right stupidtiy... "He cheated on our honeymoon night with the housekeeper, in our martial bed, then cleaned out my back account and moved out. But I still love him and think he's just going thru a bad patch.. Should I stay?"
....Like FOR REAL??? 
And I can't stand bee's that clearly have their minds made up about whatever topic, then add a poll, then want to ARGUE with people who have differing opinons. Sorry if your gonna ask "Am I being a bitch?" Be prepared to hear "Yes, you are!"
I am totally honest when the OP askes for honest. I will just surf away if they want people to gush. FYI: I surf away A LOT.
@tee22: same here
I usually don't respond if I don't like something. I'll just read along and then click out. Sometimes I'll respond and try to put it the nicest way possible. Even then, some bees get mad or think it's snarky, so most of the time I use the 'no response' technique. lol. With that said...when I do respond, it's sincere. If I've been lurking on the dress thread and have responded to every thread except yours...well, now you know why. lol.
If I post, it's honest, but I also try to word things so that it's tactful. There's a difference between saying, "I think that your dress is ugly" and "It's not my taste, but it does flatter your shape..." etc.
I also avoid the drama threads for the most part, unless it's a more serious one where the OP needs lots of support, or if it's a topic I feel strongly about.
I am so disgustingly honest that I have learned to often it's better to keep my opinions to myself.
As I've said other places it depends on the type of post. If someone posts a thread saying look at my beautiful dress and I don't like it, then I won't comment. But if the thread says what do you think about this dress, I will say if I don't like it. That doesn't mean I say it makes them look fat or something but I do say that it doesn't flatter them.
@bklynbridetobe: LOL @ Emotional threads comment.
You know, in real life, I'm actually brutally honest (which leads me to not be miss. popularity but the friends that I do have know that I will tell them trully what I think and feel). On the bee, I follow the "if you have nothing nice to say..." rule. Some people are just so very sensitive here... 
If there is no way to nicely say something, I click away. There was only one exception I made and that post has been closed down thank goodness. I stood up for someone. I do not like it when someone comments in no way other than to hurt or attack someone. That isn' right.
When I ask for opinions on something, I always ask for honest opinions because that's what I want. I don't want a thousand compliments, if I look ridiculous then please tell me so! I think that if a poster can't handle opinions different than their own, then perhaps they should consider their feelings before posting. For the most part, I think the majority of posters do a good job of offering suggestions without being mean.
I'm generally honest but if someone has said what I think, I'll let it go. Also, there are ways to be constructively honest and there are ways to take constructive honesty and sometimes I think people don't behave/take it that way.
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Just curious (and this may be pretty silly because you might not be honest here either!) but how honest are you bees with other bees on their threads? If you see a hideous dress that they love.. do you say you love it or are you flat out honest? If you see some cheap looking centerpiece.. do you tell them so or just say you love it to make them feel better?