- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
I’m impatient and have badgered my boyfriend about getting engaged in the past….for like a year, haha. But now I’m quiet, haven’t brought it up in a couple months and I think I found out why. I thought I’d share for all my fellow waiting bees who are struggling with being in the waiting phase.
Firstly, I know that the proposal is coming within a year which is very exciting. I didn’t ask for a timeline, I want him to have at least a bit of surprise still because I know he wants that. But knowing it’s coming is half of the battle!
Next, I’ve started focusing on myself, not me the girlfriend, but just me. I’ve started working out, eating better, got a much better job, and just generally pamper myself. This makes me feel awesome! It also makes him happy to see me accomplishing goals for myself, which is also nice.
Next, I have put more into our relationship. Instead of brooding over bridal magazines (which I have totally done) I think of little ways to make him happy. This in turn makes me happy and he has started doing more to make me as happy as well.
And finally I think about how the future will change my life and how happy I’ll be when I reach that point. It makes me realize how happy I am now with so much to enjoy and look forward to! Marraige will unavoidably change our relationship, not in a bad way but I’ve heard that marraige is harder from every single married woman I’ve ever asked. This makes me enjoy the last bit of ‘easy’ we have before being married. Some day we’ll have a home and a will bring a little one into this world. This will forever change our lives and I’m more than excited to be a mother. Just not yet! It makes me appreciate my body, all it can do, how good I look now, how Scott and I can just focus on each other right now.
In short, I know that it will happen sometime in the near future, I focus on bettering myself for me, I work on being a better girlfriend, and I think of what I have to look forward to down the line. Not just being a wife, but being a mother, which makes me appreciate this stage in my life where I’m pretty much only responsible for me.
Since I’ve stopped dwelling on getting engaged I swear my relationship with my boyfriend has gotten stronger and we’re both happier. Sorry this was kind of long, it just all hit me all of a sudden! I hope some of what I said can help someone, waiting is hard but we can make it. Someday we’ll think back to this time in our lives and think of how good we had it, how easy life was. I’d hate to look back and wish I had appreciated it more.
Anyways…If you read all that you’re awesome! Thanks