Post # 1
FI and I are in contact with a few photographers and all have mentioned doing engagement photos. FI feels like they are just pushing another cost on us and I feel it’s important to at least meet the photographers and be comfortable with them. FI doesn’t like the posed feel of e-pics and says that he is fine with talking with our photographer over the phone and perhaps meeting them for coffee sometime before the wedding to look at portfolios and what not. He also feels like we don’t need 10-20 pictures of us posing around town. Which he is right there. I would be happy with one nice photo. He questioned the importance of e-pics last night. I told him a lot of photographers take off the cost in the end. The ones we are thinking about would take it off the wedding package price if we decided to book with them.
So…can everyone give me both sides of the argument? Is it important to work with your photographer pre-wedding with a different shoot?
Post # 3
they help you get comfortable in front of the camera, which is so so important!
Post # 4
I’ll shoot you for free if you come visit NJ 😀
Post # 5
But on another note, our photographer takes the cost out of the wedding shoot cost 🙂 Totally worth it for me, FI got to meet the photographer, we got to get a feel for her style, and she did really great at making us relaxed in front of the camera 😀
Post # 6
There are a ton of engagement shoots i’ve seen that aren’t so posed. I would recommend it simply to have that time in front of the camera to get comfortable (sounds like your FI actually really needs it, to get comfortable with any of the poses you might do in wedding pics without looking awkward). We also really liked it so that we could have great pictures of the two of us that weren’t just in wedding outfits. And, we used the pics for our save the dates, photo site cards, and thank yous. Got a lot of mileage out of the shoot!!
Post # 7
Good question. Honey and I have taken so many awesome pics throughout our relationship I thought of just using one, two, or a few of those for Save the Dates, Wedding Website, Announcements, etc. Would be cool to be able to save that engagement photo cost…hmmm
Post # 8
I think they are great to really get used to the photographer and having your picture taken (my husband and I don’t take pictures of ourselves very much). They don’t have to be posed pictures, good photographers will let you do what you want and still get good pictures.
Post # 9
See, FI doesn’t think they are needed because if we take them in the spring or summer next year in 2011, we won’t be seeing them again until summer of 2012. I say if they are taking the cost off the wedding package then why not?
Post # 10
You should see the pictures before summer 2012. I got the pictures back from mine only a month or so after the engagement session. And like others have said, you might want to use them on STDs, your website or at the wedding.
Post # 11
With our photographer, the engagement pictures are a part of every package. I was so happy that we did them because neither of us had any idea how awkward we were in front of the camera! The first 30 minutes of the shoot were terrible! My photog also taught me how to not smile without looking sad….
If we had not gone through with the engagement pics we would have looked awkward and I would have looked sad in my wedding pics.
We also used our engagement pictures for our save the dates and are going to have some of them framed at the wedding.
Post # 12
@Miss Tattoo: Why wouldn’t you see them? I should see mine within 2 weeks of the shoot 🙂
Post # 13
I meant we wouldn’t see the photographers again until 2012. Sorry. ^_^
Post # 14
I think the engagement shoot is a good experience for you, but I feel it’s important to have the same photographer do them that is photographing your wedding.
As others have stated, this develops rapport and comfort with your photographer so the day of is more at ease. It will also give you a preview of your photographers work and how you look on print. It’s nice to see now which facial expressions are not worknig on camera rather than when proofing your wedding images!
I would try and negotiate a free session. Ask your photographer to include a free one hour session where he will provide a gallery of images and you purchase whatever prints and files you want at his standard rates. You get to go on the shoot, see all the images, and pick what you want to have. He wins, you win.
Post # 15
We never did an engagement shoot. I have so many favorite pics of us together, and every few weeks I change the photo we have on our wedding website. Moments before my FH proposed, we completed a 450 mile bike tour, and somebody took a picture of us together at the finish line. And, a waitress at the hotel where we stayed took I nice shot of us at dinner. Sentimentally, those are my engagement photos.
I’d like a NYT wedding announcement, but I will have my dad, who is a talented photographer, take that picture for us.
Post # 16
With the photographer we chose, an engagement session was part of the package. She told me that she has found the engagement photos allow us to get comfortable in front of a camera (which is good since I’m camera shy and blink a lot) and also allows her to get to know us. Our engagement session is next week, so I have no idea yet if it’s worth it, but I’ll let you know how it goes!