Post # 1
After our wedding, FI and I will be home together for nearly 2 weeks as we both have Christmas off work. Do we have to have a honeymoon. If we wanted to go somewhere hot it’ll cost about £3000 which is an awful lot of money considering we want to TTC straight after the wedding.
So, do you have to have a honeymoon?
Post # 3
You never have to. My parents were saving for a house and just did a long weekend. Some people don’t do anything though. It sounds like your priorities are elsewhere, and that’s okay
Post # 4
You don’t have to have a honeymoon but I strongly suggest you do something to get away together. I was under SO much stress before the wedding. With wedding planning and health issues that popped up 2 weeks after getting engaged this past year was stressful to say the least. Originally I didn’t want a honeymoon because I didn’t want to be away from my 5 year old but his parents paid for one as a wedding gift and we went right after the wedding. It was EXACTLY what I needed.
It was 4 days of complete relaxation without worried of anything. The first time the whole year that I went one day without thinking about my health issues was on our honeymoon and I only remembered it one time during the 4 days. I came back a much different person, well different than I’ve been all year, I’m back to the me before the health issues and our relationship is back to its wonderful beautiful amazing place it was when we first got engaged.
Planning a wedding in itself is really stressful, after the wedding is over it’s very calming to be able to go on a vacation and spend that quality time with your husband. For months leading up to the wedding there isn’t much actual bonding time between the couple as everything seems to revolve around the wedding, especially the closer it gets to the wedding. The honeymoon relites the spark.
Even if it’s just a hotel room for a couple nights out of town, even if it’s a weekend getaway to a big city, I’d suggest doing something together after the wedding.
Post # 5
You don’t HAVE to have one but it is certainly nice. But for some, it may not simply be a priority. For me and my husband, having a nice honeymoon was a top priority for us. So much that we postponed our honeymoon a few months after the wedding so we would have enough vacation time and money to take a really nice honeymoon. We love to travel and figured you only get one honeymoon so might as well do it right.
As others said you should at least try to get away SOMEWHERE for a couple days after the wedding to just spend time with each other. Our wedding was a DW so we didn’t go back home for a couple days after the wedding and it was really nice to just have that time together to bask in the afterwedding glow.
Post # 6
@linnylou_88: I think it’s the best part. We are doing a weddingmoon because the time away together is the most important element of the whole thing to us. A local wedding would feel more like we were doing it for other people, whereas the whole thing is supposed to be about us. So, eloping it is.
I think you will regret not taking some time to get away together as a couple, especially because you are TTC right after (we are in this boat too). When you have kids, it won’t be so easy to have these little escapes and you will look back and wish you had. Or hey, you may even conceive on your honeymoon (that’s our plan/hope). I think every couple, especially the folks who had a traditional wedding, need some time together after.
ETA: this is provided you can afford it financially. If it will interrupt your TTC plans, or impact your finances in any way then obviously don’t. Being practical is important too. But if you can swing it, do it now while you can 🙂
Post # 7
@linnylou_88: I think that a honeymoon is important, but that’s just for me and everyone is different. You don’t necessarily have to go somewhere far and take a week or two, but I think getting married and then the next day just settling into married life just wouldn’t be as fun. I really want to have that honeymoon experience right after I am married, but if it’s expensive and you are wanting to have a baby, you could just get a nice hotel in your city for a few nights, just as a “getaway”. You could also consider it a babymoon if you are TTC right away 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
For us it’s a priority because we have weekends here and there, but we’ve wanted a full week away for a long time now. We went to Mexico five years ago, and that was it.
Post # 9
Of course you don’t have to have a honeymoon. It’s just nice to have an excuse to take a vacation
Post # 10
It’s important to me and my fiancé, but we love to travel. We are using it to go on one of our dream vacations & justify it by saying that its our honeymoon it’s the one vacation where we are allowed to spend more money. I’m really excited for it and wish it was closer!!!
Post # 11
For us a honeymoon was extremely important. We’d been together for almost 10 years by the time we got married and had never been on a “real” vacation before. We’d taken short trips but nothing longer than 4 days and none that we had to fly for. So for us it was a huge thing and the thing I looked forward to most with getting married, it gave us an excuse to plan a nice trip that we wouldn’t have taken otherwise.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
I would ask yourselves if you will regret not having one later. If the answer is yes, plan a little something, even if it is just a long weekend I’m a nearby city. My DH and I have traveled some amazing places-Indonesia/China, South America, Western Eutope, etc and my favorite vacation by far was our honeymoon to Maui. There is something special about that time together.