Post # 1
Is it that important? We have a problem with booking the rehearsal and it looks like it will have to be a night that she can’t make it. The other option is having the rehearsal at 7 the night before the wedding, but that would make for a very late dinner afterwards, especially for the little kids (flower girls/ring bearers). And then having to get up early the next day… may not be good.
Post # 3
It definitely helps to be there but she could wing it as long as you give her detailed instructions. It’s not your MOH and she won’t be signing or witnessing anything, correct?
Post # 4
I’m asking myself this same question!
All of my bridesmaids, except 1. Live over 60 miles away and have family and work so probably wouldn;t be able to make a rehersal. HOWEVER my neice is singing us down the isle (Singing The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face .. Makes me wanna cry just thinking about it lol)…. And having them all there for the rehersal would make it easier to time the song right so my neice can actually finish the song, ir that I won’t be walking down the isle to her not singing anymore because she finished the song lol… But it is a 5 minute song so probably won’t be a problem.
But Ther is a specifi order that I want my bridesmaids and groomsmen/ushers to walk down the isle so everyone will NEED to know that order…. the only thing I am suggesting is that those who can meet up to reherse SHOULD and then once it is all sorted and agreed upon we can all relay that information to the others. Then cross our fingers and hope it works out lol…
Post # 5
@canuckandakiwi: No, she’s not the MOH. She was originally going to be walking down the aisle first, but I might switch her with another BM if she can’t make it.
The rehearsal would be the Thursday before (Wedding is a Saturday) so I would maybe get together with her on Friday and give her the gift and also go over the rehearsal details with her.
Makes me so nervous though! But it’s probably the better option than having a late dinner the night before the wedding, right?
Post # 6
@Maxyfishface78: Yeah, I would definitely fill her in as much as possible. It sucks though because she’s never been to the church before so what I tell her before might not sink in very well.
Post # 7
@MrsGatito: I think it should be fine assuming you aren’t doing some crazy dance or something. Don’t have her go first. I’m sure she can walk in a straight line and stand next to the first girl without a problem! 🙂 All the rehearsals I’ve been a part of seemed pointless. Even when I was a seven year old flower girl I remember thinking “you couldn’t just tell me to walk slowly to the alter & stand there?”
Post # 8
I was the MOH for my friend’s wedding in July and I was not flying to NY in time for the rehearsal, because it was 2 days before the wedding and it just wasn’t in my budget to do that. Therefore, I missed it. Figuring out how to walk down the aisle isn’t that difficult, honestly. Just tell her who she’s in front of and behind (or who is escorting her) and remind her to walk slowly and keep her flowers low around her hips for the pix.
ETA: I’m not even having a rehearsal or a rehearsal dinner for my wedding. I am having a wedding coordinator though, but I think if my adult girls can’t figure out how to walk in a straight line and stand at the alter, we have bigger problems. 🙂
Post # 9
How complicated is this role, nayway? There is the head of the aisle and the foot of the aisle. Someone can postion her at the head of it, point down the aisle, and say: you–go there.
Seriously, people. I think this woman has seen a wedding before.
Post # 10
You can easily manage if she can’t make it. As the pp has said, it’s not that hard. Someone else can tell her where she walks and where she should stand .
@Maxyfishface78: You can easily have someone else stand in for her to get the timing right at the rehearsal.
Post # 11
@MrsGatito: If you have time to meet with her on the Friday it should be fine. But switching her so she doesn’t have to go first is a good idea. That way she can just follow behind the other BMs and know where to stand.
Post # 12
It depends what role she play, I missed them and I been fine with having other people fill me in. It’s also possiblle to have dinner before at like 5, so everyone goes straight home after.
Post # 13
Unless she’s doing a reading or something, just make her second to walk and she should be fine!
Post # 14
@MrsGatito: Is she a seasoned BM? If so I think she could probably wing it. What about doing the rehearsal backwards on that one night that she can make it, dinner first, than the rehearsal? Maybe weird but then she could participate and dinner wouldn’t be super late!
Post # 15
I’ve never been in a wedding where you couldn’t get those instructions in a few minutes on the day of. It should be just fine.
Post # 16
It should be fine. If you’re concerned do you have a close and reliable female family or friend who will be at wedding but isn’t in the bridal party who could stand in and be able to talk you BM through her role? Like a gf or wife of a groomsman?